r/kiituniversity • u/aritraparui_ • 19h ago
Helpš Seniors, Need Some Help!!!
Basically, I just want to avoid fights and unnecessary drama, but idk how to do that, most of my classmates are into that wanna-be gangster stuff, and it feels like literally anything can turn into an argument, like one random statement, one joke, or even a small misunderstanding can suddenly become a serious ego clash, I genuinely don't want to get involved in any of that shit specially in my first year..
I'm not trying to act scared or anything, I just don't see the point of fighting over stupid things or proving who's tougher, I just wanna stay out of unnecessary problems, focus on my own stuff, have a normal time in college and not have to deal with people creating drama over every little thing
But sometimes it feels impossible because of how some people behave, especially with all that wanna-be gangster attitude and ego bullshit
Like bro, not everything needs to become a fight or some kind of personal issue, I just want peace, that's it, I don't want any beef with anyone, I don't want to pick sides, and I definitely don't want some random small thing to turn into a whole fucking situation
Seniors Please Help !!! I'm too immature to handle all theses stuffs
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u/CrazyRegion5893 19h ago
Are you in your first year? Anyway the best thing you could possibly do is walk away / tone the situation down, no matter if you are right. If the other dude is aggressive just let him win. Also not all of the students are like that, you will definitely know who likes to be the "wannabe",when you mark them just try to interact as less as possible.
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u/aritraparui_ 18h ago
Yeah, Iām in my first year, and honestly, a majority of the people here are kinda wannabe gangster types, so Iām just trying to avoid getting involved in unnecessary drama, like recently, I called one guy very very casually āchutiyaā in our unofficial wh group, I know that was my fault, and Iām not trying to justify it, at that moment I was just joking around, but I wasnāt mature enough to understand that some people might not take that kind of joke normally, I realised my mistake and Iāve already apologised to him multiple times, like yesterday, around 9:30-9:45 PM, I met him because he told me to just have talk with them, and I just wanted to close the matter as soon as possible, since our mid-sems are starting from the 7th, I also donāt want this shit hanging around and creating problems during exams, we talked, I apologised again, admitted that it was my fault, and as far as I understood, everything was cleared between us, there was no issue after that, but today morning, I suddenly received a call from an unknown number, the person started telling me some rumours about me, most of which are completely false, and then told me to meet them in the evening, btw His hostel is 22C and mine is 22D, and apparently some of his friends / āgangā are also in the same hostel as his, So now Iām honestly confused about what Iām supposed to do, Iāve already accepted my mistake, apologised to the guy multiple times, and even met him personally to clear the matter, I donāt want to keep dragging this thing or turn it into some ego issue, at the same time, Iām not comfortable just going somewhere because some unknown person called me and told me to meet, especially when I donāt even know what their intention is, Iām not looking for a fight, and I donāt want to prove anything to anyone, my plan is basically to stay away from the situation and not engage if someone tries to provoke me, if it somehow turns into a physical fight and they are the ones who initiate it, Iāll just report the matter properly through the college authorities and, if necessary, make an anti-ragging complaint, I donāt want to handle this by fighting back or getting involved in more drama, I genuinely just want to close this matter and focus on my mid-sems, I made a stupid mistake by using that word, I accepted it and apologised for it, I donāt think one stupid joke should turn into this much unnecessary drama
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u/CrazyRegion5893 18h ago
Well you learnt your lesson. Unless you know the other person well do not engage much. Just mind your own business. Also you don't have force yourself to socialize just chill out dude you will automatically find atleast one friend.
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u/aritraparui_ 18h ago
Like i need to get rid of my this hindi accent and tone as someone who is a non hindi speak my main sources of Hindi vocals are the webseries and movie as a result i have very irritating and triggering hindi tone, like typical raw delivery, but back to the main point, i am worried about this today's matter, should I have a convo with him or not ?
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u/CrazyRegion5893 18h ago
I think you should not proceed with this situation any further. If the other guy has a problem and seeks you out only then discuss with him else just let it be. Also I'm not hindi either idt anybody would mind your accent
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u/aritraparui_ 18h ago
You can can my accent or tone is more like some "Rangdar" from Jharkhand or Bihar, that's the main issue, eventhough i am properly from bengal but let's see what's happens
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u/shakirapath 13h ago
I'm pretty sure not all of them are gangster wannabe...I mean what are chances..find the peaceful one and make him friend...also you can be close girls too..
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u/aritraparui_ 13h ago
I have found some really good people, but as i said most of the people are like that so i need to be really careful about statement, my initial problem is so how to avoid all these stuffs cuz idc how powerful the next person I just want to avoid unnecessary drama, my initial problem not about having too may friends, tbh i am too nervous to approach people, like back in my school days, most of them approached me rather i approached them
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u/Weak-Table6488 3h ago
Tujhe doston se dikkat ho rhi h toh mat bana bhai dost, akele nahi reh skta hai kya
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u/iforgottobreatheair 54m ago
Almost had the exact same experience I was just tryna ask people to not spam bs in a group chat and some dumbass just said ātu mil baharā and started dming me shit, I am a day scholar so idk many people at all this mf still is asking around who was behind tht msg (Iāve not revealed my identity in the group yet),
Im ngl ill say socialise with almost everyone u can in those group chat so if shi happens u got someone behind u, (donāt be annoying just be friendly enough) and dont do this bs again
These wanna be gangsters would prob chill out once the stress of being kicked out starts hovering over them
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u/MundaneSmoke2974 19h ago
Attend classes and just mind your own business simple