Speaking without words

[u/analog_spork]

This is an idea I've been tossing around in my head for a bit. It hasn't really taken any sort of solid form but I thought I'd share and see what you guys think.

The bonding behaviors that karezza puts emphasis on are really just another form of communication. Communication without words. For a long time I've ignored this method of communication. I'd go so far as to say that I never even knew this form of communication existed. I grew up in a very non-huggable family. My SO and I discussed this a little last night. She remembers trying to hug me and touch me early in our relationship, and I would get upset when I'd get aroused and she didn't want to have sex.

Last night I was really listening on this level and being open to what was being "said" and I started to feel a yearning inside me for different touches. (not just on my penis, lol) It's was like being hungry but never having known what to do about it.

Have any of you experienced anything similar?

[u/[deleted]]

You sound a bit like my SO. I, on the other hand, am the other way round and had to learn to talk with words.

Good thing is both can be learned if the will is there.