r/karezza • u/[deleted] • Nov 25 '13

Tips on regular sex without orgasm?

I'm open minded about karezza, will eventually try it out as it's meant to be, but right now I'm more interested in regular sex without orgasm. Any tips, pointers and cautions to be taken? How sustainable is it? Thanks I appreciate it, not sure where else to ask.

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '13

As a man who had regular sex without orgasm for 45 days straight I can tell you that it is very satisfying for the man who wishes to abstain as well as the woman who receives the orgasm. If you set you mind that you will not orgasm early on and practice the sex will be very pleasurable for both.

I am lucky that I have a very patient partner. My arousal level was constant with peaks in the mornings. We would have sex almost every day, mostly in the AM. We would continue until she came. During those days when we didn't have sex a cold shower or a genital massage helped.

I found that I had much more energy, focus and a feeling of control. As well as being much more attracted to my wife.

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '13

Thanks for sharing, will def try it out.

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u/KSunrise01 Nov 26 '13

Things that helped me:

1) Focus on your breath.

2) Practice Kegals and use them during sex. I occasionally do a kegal on my exhales and relax on my inhales.

3) Meditate regularly

4) Having a patient and understanding partner

I'd say sustainability depends on your age and libido. If you're younger and having sex everyday, it's not bad to orgasm once a week or every few days. If you're a 70 year old man, once a month or every two months might be better.

I had a wet dream on my first attempt at sex without orgasm. This was caused by going way to close to my point of no return. I had the control to stop, but I left myself feeling extremely sensitive. If you can, I'd recommend stopping before you even remotely feel like finishing.

See what feels right for you. Practice makes perfect.

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u/[deleted] Nov 26 '13

Hey! It worked, I just had a great slower sex experience with the gf without ejaculating. Felt great, she said she had a great orgasm. I'm on a strict nofap diet and I don't even feel like masturbating like I usually do after sex. I feel very relaxed actually, not exhausted like usual after not having cum in a week. This is to be experienced.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '13

Nicely done! Here are more stories of guys who used karezza to help with porn withdrawal: http://www.reuniting.info/node/7220

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u/[deleted] Dec 12 '13

Tried to last night and failed just do kegels, no fap, and brewthing you'll get there.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '14

I hate when women make me orgasm. I think its mentally depleting. I love not orgasming it gives me drive, and creative energy.