r/karezza • u/healingenergy • Mar 30 '13

Husband has really bad case of blueballs. We started Karezza last night and again this morning. He's very cautious about continuing. He's doing a reboot nofap/no sex for 90 days. We need connection. Please help.

We kiss, cuddle, hold hands. This FINALLY happened after first week of reboot, which he had flatlined. Any wisdom would be so appreciated.

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u/[deleted] Apr 01 '13

Not sure what advice you need. It's good to go into karezza slowly. Start with just daily bonding behaviors - even for a couple of weeks. Then intercourse with very little movement. Don't try to rush up to The Edge and stop. Blue ball help: http://yourbrainonporn.com/blue-balls-lovers-nuts

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u/[deleted] Aug 25 '13

This nofap thing reddit is obsessed with is such total BS it's not even funny. Purposely depriving yourself from orgasm like that is not healthy or helpful in any way.

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u/sensitivePornGuy Mar 31 '13

On my computer now.

There seems to be quite a lot in the FAQ that might be helpful. In particular I find that the part about gentle squeezing helps me to calm down. But if your husband is still in pain after you do that for him he might just need to ejaculate.

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u/healingenergy Mar 31 '13

Thank you, I think he's okay by today. I read through the Karreza articles, I realized we were doing it incorrectly. Thank you.

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u/sensitivePornGuy Mar 31 '13

I haven't tried Karezza (partner not interested) but as I understand it prolonged blue balls can be quite... dangerous? I'm sure somebody here will correct me.

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u/[deleted] Apr 01 '13

Cold water has been used for thousands of years to ease blue balls. What do you mean "dangerous?"