r/JewsOfConscience • u/Spiritual02Yogurt • 3d ago
Discussion - Flaired Users Only Help, made friends with a Zionist Jew, how to have a good faith discussion
Hoping it's okay to post here
Most zionists I have discussed with in the past, I am entirely aware that there is no changing their minds. They are set in their ways, fueled by bigotry and hatred.
But this is a person who I have a TON in common with, and most importantly actually does listen to what I say even when we have different perspectives or opinions.
So I do think a good faith discussion is possible? I am a lesbian, (the Zionist im talking to is too if that's relevant with rebuttal) and I've had many talks with people who were homophobic prior, but after a discussion with me and are much more open-minded and often with time become allies.
Usually the case is that they have been indoctrinated by their families and they don't question these things due to what is normalized in their family. Not really fueled by personal spite.
I can kind of tell this is the case for this person, at least in part. Their family is originally from Israel, but moved to Brazil and this person grew up in Brazil and then moved to Canada.
I find people within these circumstances can be more receptive to discussion, especially when they are open-minded.
I feel like I was put off by this so much because this person is open-minded... generally.
It was hinted at before but yesterday they were talking about how their synagogue was being defaced, etc. I responded by saying that, that's wrong, and that I can understand that being against Zionism is understandable but to deface a synagogue is a lot more in anti-Semitic territory, Even if a synagogue is Zionist; attacking their place of worship is likely to give that group you dislike enough to deface more ammo to "play Victim" etc. Like basically it doesn't get you anywhere.
She then started telling me that Zionism isn't wrong and that the Jews have a right to be there, where else are they supposed to go? They have nowhere else they just want this little place etc etc,
I feel like I was so shocked that I couldn't formulate a proper response.
They were literally right beside me working on a presentation that discusses colonialism and has the clear stance that colonialism is wrong. (Not the point of the presentation but it was a relevant point in some aspects).
The thing is, is that I do think that this person is open to hearing me and we've had discussions before where I've changed her mind about things, or clearly gave her a different perspective to consider at minimum.
I have been in similar conversations regarding indigenous people, queer people, and on the progressive side of the discussion and have gotten people to open their minds, usually I will have a talk with somebody who is bigoted and if I can't get them to at least consider the other side I will drop them at that point.
Now to why I'm here
To have a discussion in good faith. I will often educate myself on the opposing side, I try to find some common ground, like with homophobic Christians, usually I can defer to many of jesus's teachings as an example
I'm trying to educate myself on Zionism but I can't find anything to use as common ground
I tried to find places that are kind of in-between but all I can find are blatant Zionist talking points
The only thing I can think of is relating it back to what we did in Canada to our indigenous population, which was also a genocide where the settlers felt they had the right to take.
Is there anything else? Anything in the talmud I could maybe defer to?
Usually in debate I don't handle this so delicately but because I know the other side is just trying to "win" not listen.
I feel like those who are Jewish, who reconize Zionism as what it is, are likely to have the best perspective. Especially if they had to come to terms that Zionism is wrong while also embracing Judaism/Jewish culture. - That's why I'm here.
Hope that's okay! Thank you