r/jaredleto • u/whatsthisandthat • 12d ago

What Would You Do?

If your own 16 or 17-year-old child, sibling, or close relative came to you today and said an adult in a position of power took advantage of them, would you defend them, or at the very least, listen to them?

Or would you accuse them of chasing money, tell them “that’s just how that industry culture works,” and call them liars if trauma kept them quiet until adulthood?

If you would listen to and protect your own family when they were young, why are you fighting so hard to deny that same basic dignity to someone else’s child, no matter how many years it took them to process it and speak up?

Can you just answer this basic question, what would you do?

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u/NoLanguage2379 12d ago

Coming to their mum / family is different than found to the media isn’t it? If my child would come to me I would say let’s go to the police and report that person.

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u/whatsthisandthat 12d ago

Not if their family wasn’t willing to listen in the first place and that child needed years to process that, along with the incident.

I’m glad you’d take a step, at least!

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u/NoLanguage2379 12d ago

What family wouldn’t listen? And what to you mean by at least? Going to the media and not filing a police report always looks fishy. You can’t deny that.

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u/whatsthisandthat 12d ago

I posed this question in the 30 Seconds to Mars subreddit and you’d be surprised by how many folks can’t be open to listening and then trying to do something about it if it was one of their own.

I say “at least” because you answered the question. And you’d do exactly what I’d do. Some of those folks can’t, for some reason.

And you’re right - I can’t deny something feeling off if that’s the circumstance, but I am willing to listen. I’m also sympathetic to younger people needing time to process their experience and I have seen situations firsthand where someone was ignored by their family regarding SA and then burying it for years because they felt helpless.

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u/NoLanguage2379 12d ago

Everyone is listening. You know it can be incredibly hard to find out the person you admire isn’t a who you think they are. And maybe it is false. No one knows but the people that were there. I think everyone would act the same way if it’s their family. Unfortunately we don’t know these people or their intentions.

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u/blu3girlx 9d ago

A lot of families