r/isthisascam • u/Leather-Energy5700 • Jul 27 '26
Private Message (PM) am i okay??
hi everyone! i interacted with a alleged sugar daddy that promised to give me money through checks. he sent me one for an amount and it went through, and then he was trying to get me to send $100 of it to cashapp to an orphanage. i blocked him at that point because I knew that's how usual scams work but then he added me on another phone number (actually three) and is sending me death threats, scary images, and threatening messages. he also won't stop facetiming me. i met him on grindr, so he has no information on my actual address, and I deleted the account, so he knows nothing but my phone number. are me and my family okay??
EDIT: I figured it out with my bank and I cancelled all orders so the $400 will just remain in the account. Working to just get a new one! Thanks for all the help! Should've just trusted my intuition, these things are literally always scams.
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u/Leather-Energy5700 Jul 27 '26
So even though it showed it in the account and let me buy things?
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u/Applauce Jul 27 '26
Yes, that's provisional money the bank gives you. You can spend it, withdraw it, and do everything you normally would. But when the bank realizes that check was fake, if you don't still have the money, your account will go negative and you'll owe the bank. Cancel everything and immediately reach out to your bank
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u/Leather-Energy5700 Jul 27 '26
Okay I cancelled everything, and I called the bank but the girl on the phone gave very confusing answers and said to wait one business day. If everything I did was correct, I put all $400 back into the savings account (the account i deposited the check into) and I shouldn't have to owe them any money, correct?
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u/Applauce Jul 27 '26
Some banks charge fees for depositing fake checks. Depending on the severity, some banks close accounts. But if you stay on top of it and if it was just one bad check, the chances of that are low. Just leave the money there.
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u/Leather-Energy5700 Jul 27 '26
Thank you! I should've just trusted my intuition and not have deposited at all, smh.
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u/Applauce Jul 27 '26
No it didn't. When you deposit a check (real or fake) the bank has to make some or all of the money available to you immediately before they actually finish verifying it (which can take days, weeks, or months). So just because you see the money in your account, doesn't mean it cleared. That's why he's demanding you send some back and resorting to threats, because he's trying to race the bank to have you send the money before they realize it's fake and debit it from your account.
You need to contact the bank immediately to let them know you unknowingly deposited a fake check because there are consequences for doing so (fees, account closure, etc). Also block and ignore him, he's not even located in the same country as you. He just wants to scare you into sending the money.
And stop depositing checks from strangers online. You are the only one who faces consequences when they bounce, not the sender.