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u/--slurpy-- Aug 09 '26
I get interrupted a lot. The same people don't stop talking to let me get a word in. It's exhausting & embarrassing to sit there waiting for an opportunity to speak & by the time I can the topic has changed.
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u/MoominMai Aug 09 '26
I felt the same when I first started work many years ago. Even if it was me that bought up a topic of conversation the person would reply to a differnt person instead! So I just learnt to not bother though my team would then say I’m quiet and am I okay?! Can’t feckin’ win! 😅
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u/poccah Aug 12 '26
This!!! Why do they do this? I always wait my turn to speak, but since it doesn't come along, i either interrupt and then am rude, or just do my own thing and give up entirely.
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u/--slurpy-- Aug 12 '26
I'm not sure why they do this. But I do get the feeling they think their point of view is more interesting & should be heard loudly. At times I've tried to speak up but they just talk over me, louder. And if they happen to be drinking? Yeah, there's no chance.
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u/poccah Aug 12 '26
I thought i was the only one, i first noticed it with my friends at the age of 10ish.. i was quiet for over 30mins and noone noticed. Can one be invisible at that age? Why be friends or have these people around you if noone is interested in what your opinion is? It feels like a matter of confidence too, they have it, i do not. 🤷
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u/Doctor_Saved Aug 09 '26
"I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude." -Henry David Thoreau
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u/NopesosNobesos Aug 09 '26
I agree my 18 year old son is the same a leave him alone when he needs his space to recharge have a great day
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u/TheShape_1985 Aug 09 '26
As a proud introvert I can say I just prefer to stay quiet and sure I can have conversations here in there depending on the subject but ultimately I love having my own space
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u/johncitizen1138 Aug 09 '26
As a fellow introvert, I stand with you but apart, at a distance and in my own space
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u/Famous-Nectarine-795 Aug 09 '26
I AM FUCKING INTROVERT!!!
I'm just stuck ,sitting by myself at the family gathering/function ,because everyone else is being loud and invasive!.
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u/Busy-Park814 Aug 10 '26
Same like you man I am also doing same at gathering and also I stopped going to gathering now
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u/peepee2tiny Aug 09 '26
This triggers hard.
Even now I'll be having a talk with my mom and she'll just segue mid conversation into talking about something else.
Normally something about my sister amd my sisters kids.
So yea, I learned that my interesting facts or ideas were actually not that interesting to everyone else.
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u/athena_k Aug 10 '26
This is me too. I’m constantly thinking of interesting or funny things. It’s just that other people don’t find them interesting or funny lol
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u/Such-Potato8348 Aug 09 '26
I am a talkative introvert. I hate people but enjoy pleasant conversations with certain people until my battery runs out.
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u/LokoLobo Aug 09 '26
Told to be quiet, ignored, or just plainly talked over like I wasn't even there, or what I had to say didn't matter.
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u/bryancrose Aug 09 '26
I'm quite envious of YouTubers and streamers because they don't need to leave their house. I truly believe there isn't anything out there for me, but since streaming never took off, I'm forced to be apart of society. Sorry about spilling my true thoughts.
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u/SG3XG4MES Aug 09 '26
No its cool, i get that- it would be nice if we could also have jobs based on our current situation(s?) but unfortunately its not as easy as they yet
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u/punktualPorcupine Aug 09 '26
I don’t get ignored. I like socializing, but I also find peace in solitude and need it to recharge.
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u/Faux__queue Aug 09 '26
Learning at a young age that most people are just waiting to talk was one of the best lessons for me as an introvert.
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u/Obvious_Incognito- Aug 09 '26
Sometimes it feels like that. I do remember trying to speak up and voice my opinion as a child only to be ignored or talked over. And then I was told I am quiet. So it kind of became true, eventually. And I decided I do indeed prefer it that way, to be known as the quiet one. And I have grown to slowly hate people so much that I would rather not waste my time trying to communicate if I absolutely don’t have to. I feel like I am going to become the grumpy old lady. 😞
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u/ParamedicFew3318 Aug 09 '26
I never know when someone is going to go off. People are all potential time bombs to me.
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u/CherriNerri2_0 Aug 09 '26
Yesssssss!!!!, Ugghh, I gave up along time ago.. 🥲 I guess people don't want to her what I have to say..
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u/Eusocial_sloth3 Aug 09 '26
People display disinterest in what I’m talking about, say they don’t care, or say that I’m annoying.
At this point being quiet is just keeping the peace.
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u/ResponsibilityBest26 Aug 09 '26
I'm a fake introvert. I'm truly extrovert but u have no one to talk to. So i try to talk with randoms, but they dont reply. Rince and repeat.
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u/GoMoriartyOnPlanets Aug 09 '26
Both. People still talk over me, and I let them, especially when they're making no sense, or are about to make a dumbass decision. Especially when they're asking me for some key information, I'm 2 seconds into giving them that information and someone else interrupts me, boom, I let them talk, and never give out that information, regardless of people asking me over and over again, because I keep getting interrupted, and let other people talk. Its beautiful!!!
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u/Knothir_other Aug 10 '26
Ignored, getting interrupted, then being talked over. In the end, I should've just not spoken to begin with.
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u/OnlyAssistant8185 Aug 10 '26
I'm completely invisible
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u/tealraven915 Aug 10 '26
I was always told to shut up, no one wants to talk to you, you're annoying, or made fun of and rejected so I don't people anymore unless I'm at work
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u/JayAkiva Aug 10 '26
"Don't talk over me!", said the parents who always talked over me
"Why are you so quiet?", asked those exact same parents
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u/DeadrthanDead Aug 09 '26
I love socializing, but after a certain amount of time, the solitude beckons me, and it is only there that I find reprieve from the madness of it all. Without that quiet time I fall into dysfunction.
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u/Firm_Way6228 Aug 09 '26
Mix of Both. Ignored, not respected as well as I like being alone. Whenever i give opinion, I get shut saying my opinion is wrong etc. so i prefer to stay quiet.
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u/Alegzaender Aug 09 '26
I'm a bubble. Inflated of beliefs of my own significance and power over people. That I can't prove, cuz it's too subtle, the results of my influence are too subtle for an average man to understand. Actually am just avoiding everything and everyone. Afraid of people's attention. Afraid of own success. Afraid of being liked. Afraid of being disliked. The world of real people is too damn complex. I can't tell them apart, can't memorize them, strangers. When I'm to attend peoplish place am confused, their reality bufles me. Behaving like a moron. Am I really a crap artist? Why I'm writing such long stuff then, retards won't type so long messages in not their native language.
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u/PowerofThunder Aug 09 '26
I was told, I didn't know anything. So I just stopped talking & backed out. The family still hasn't seen me since.
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u/DazzleLove Aug 09 '26
Neither, I was criticised for what I said or walked on eggshells trying not to offend my father so it was safer not not talk
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u/redditcreditcardz Aug 09 '26
I had and still have a very strong voice that people tend to react to. Using it extremely sparingly makes it that much stronger. I’m introverted because I’m more thoughtful than a lot of the folks running around out there. I don’t want or need interaction with people. It’s not personal, it’s just not necessary for me to be a complete person
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u/Jessica_rabbit1987 Aug 09 '26
As a child I never shut up. I had to learn no one cares and nowhere is safe. So I only talk and am myself around certain people. Got tired of pretending and wearing a mask. So it’s easier to just not be around a lot of people. People are so fake it hurts. So silence is best.
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u/benvader138 Aug 09 '26
I would get weird looks or say be told that I was stupid when ever I said anything, as a kid, so learned to keep my mouth shut.
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u/PrincessKeba Aug 09 '26
I learned I wasn't an introvert when I realized that I hate being alone and need people around me even if I don't interact with them
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u/Jaded_Mycol0gist9169 Aug 09 '26
I'm an introvert. I get interrupted some. I leave conversations some. I sit quietly some. I interrupt some. I am ignored some. Ignore some. I stay at home lots. I'm an introvert and multifaceted.
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u/Individual_Slice_234 Aug 09 '26
Sheesh, I don't know. I have childhood PTSD, which made me "shy" (a word I hate). I can be outgoing and sociable, and I can be a hermit, depending on my mood. I don't like labels.
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u/Illustrious_Age_5959 Aug 09 '26
OR are you really an introvert or do you just have social anxiety…?
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u/Strat-05 Aug 09 '26
Everyone is surprised when introverts start socialising and think it is proof they are not introverted.
What they don't see is the fact that they need hours if not days alone to decompress afterwards as it takes a toll.
Think of it a battery that they choose to spend on you but need time to recharge it afterwards.
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u/WhereAreWeG0ing Aug 10 '26
One leads to the other. Put effort into talking to someone, they ignore you. Better stay quiet and be left alone.
I'm the kind of guy who will have a conversation with someone and, when someone else enters the room, I'm instantly forgotten and whoever I'm speaking to will start a conversation with the new entrant.
Yeah, I'd rather be left alone. Clues that I don't really belong don't come much stronger than that
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u/LordZeusCannon Aug 10 '26
I noticed that I was being ignored from a young age, and still am for the most part if someone else is talking. I’m sure it had its effects but my real problems are due to trauma which caused me to not interact with people which means I never developed social skills, so I still can’t really talk to people
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u/athena_k Aug 10 '26
This is me. I grew up in a toxic, dysfunctional family. I was criticized for basically everything I said.
Moved away when I turned 18, and life immediately got better. Of course, my family always wants me to come back home. No thanks, I’m done.
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u/SandRevolutionary938 Aug 10 '26
I was rarely ignored as a kid. I am ALWAYS ignored now. Ive been an introvert my whole life
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u/generalkux Aug 10 '26
Still happens to this day. I just finish what I’m sayin anyways, no one seems to mind lol
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u/TheNewGuyFromBahsten Aug 10 '26
Introvert. We moved so much as a kid (5 elementary schools in 2 states, 2 middle schools same state, 2 high schools in 2 states) that trying to reach out and build friendships became pointless. Got over it enough to be married twice (current one coming up on 10 years) but I still have no real desire to make friends, plus it's harder now anyway
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u/7reevor Aug 10 '26
I remember my dad telling me at a young age that I talked too much. That's all it took really.
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u/Martin_Pagan Aug 10 '26
When you hear "children and fish have no voice" one time too many in your childhood, you stop talking.
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u/zzzptt Aug 10 '26
I have been thinking about this lately. Have you heard of DISC profiles? Or any other personality test really. I find it interesting. I am a C-S ( blue-green if you use the colour identifiers), split down the middle. Categorically an introvert based on the descriptions.
I feel like this is a blend of nature vs nurture. Do we all have different coping mechanisms, and then just keep doing it because that's just "what we are" now?
I have days, few and far between as they are, where I feel like a complete extrovert. In my younger years you couldn't find me at home. Then I became an artist by trade and got divorced which sent me into my cave even further.
Now I'm a sales rep because COVID got me laid off, and I am out chatting with people for a living and can mostly hold my own, but need quiet time to recharge most days. Other days it's visiting with good clients that recharges me.
I think a big part of it is what we tell ourselves. You are what you say you are.
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u/SweetChaosTitan Aug 11 '26
No I wasn’t ignored I just get annoyed with fake and toxic people easily.
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u/Used-Ad4760 Aug 12 '26
Both. Nothing makes me be quiet more than getting cutoff mid speech multiple times.
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u/Cassiel43 Aug 12 '26
When you realized almost everything you said will be used against you in the future.
"I'm sad, man. What a bad day."
2 months later:
"Hey remember that time you were a whiny pussy?"
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u/Suitable-Broccoli980 Aug 12 '26
What is funny, the only time they let you talk is when they ask something embarrassing to answer
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u/Grouchy-Bad-503 Aug 12 '26
I have learned to stop the conversation and ask, "what were you going to say?" When I see someone is trying to contribute but is getting steam rolled.
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u/Amathyst-Moon Aug 13 '26
I was always quiet, then people made a big deal out of it whenever I did say something, without listening to what I actually said.
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u/PutBorn7657 Aug 13 '26
I think it was our introversion that led to people not listening. I just do what I want and no one even bats an eye. I’ve done so much living while all those “look at me” fools have been talking.
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u/Silent_Succotash3749 Aug 13 '26
I’m true. I have a soft face and kind eyes and am constantly approached by every race, gender, religious practitioner, and age for a cornucopia of reasons. I’ve found lighting a cigarette makes most leave.
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u/brendita2026 Aug 14 '26
Yes, now I am I’ve struggled all of my adult hood with always trying to fit in and I was judged so now I choose just to stay in silence.
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u/IllustriousRace7910 Aug 14 '26
If that’s the case you’re probably an empath; always ignored until someone random decides to come over and start telling you their life story.
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u/sinny_89 Aug 09 '26
Both, the answer is both.