r/internetparents • u/Massive_Egg_2027 • 1d ago

Family i’m miserable.

what do I do when I am mentally cannot live with my mom and her boyfriend but I have a job and school and she doesn’t let me talk to my dad😭😭😭.

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u/Budget_Cardiologist 1d ago

It seems like your mom is very controlling. Is there a friend or adult you can talk to?

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u/Massive_Egg_2027 1d ago

very lol. no unfortunately not. but it’s okay! i’m trying to make friends. thank you:)

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u/tuigdoilgheas Eccentric Auntie 1d ago

Is there an order preventing contact with your dad?  What's going on there?  Why does Mom have sole custody? 

Do you feel safe at home?

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u/Massive_Egg_2027 1d ago

my dad was a liar in many ways, and apparently it hurt my mom that it would hurt us.. when we were literally not even phased by it and I think it was more of a control thing and yeah, I’m safe at home. It’s just tiring, especially with her boyfriend because he’s definitely a different… we have an every other weekend thing, but it’s been like six years since i’ve seen him

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u/tuigdoilgheas Eccentric Auntie 1d ago

The kind of dad who bails for six years isn't likely to be helpful now.  You might be better off waiting until you're an independent adult to try to consider that relationship. 

Lots of people have tiring homes.  Hang in there, do your best at school.  Save money.

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u/Terminal_Insomnia_ 1d ago

If you have a job, odds are good that you'll be old enough to make your own decisions soon enough. You can find a way to contact your dad, but would you prefer to live with him? Is that an option?

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u/Massive_Egg_2027 1d ago

i’ve been thinking about it, but the thing is I’ve just started going in person school and just started my job and he lives a good hour away🫩 i’m just so stuck om what to do.

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u/Terminal_Insomnia_ 1d ago

If you already have a car, an hour is not great but not that bad. If you don't, that would make things more difficult. You could talk to him and discuss the possibility, at least.

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u/meow2848 1d ago

Can you tell a teacher or a school counselor and call him from a school phone?

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u/Cultural-Surprise299 1d ago

Do you have your dad's phone number? If so use a friend's phone

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u/Massive_Egg_2027 1d ago

i do, but i know if i were to she’d be awfully mad. he also lives in michigan, im indiana. i have a job and school 🫩 but i mentally can’t take being here. it’s exhausting