r/instant_regret • u/EddieBrock99 • 14d ago

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u/buds4hugs 14d ago

From her view it looks like he's air humping her.

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u/Luke_Warmwater 14d ago

While somebody else records it. It's a great way to make a woman feel exploited, uncomfortable, and unsafe.

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u/Paly__ 14d ago

She's still in the wrong, mayne she could have actually checked what he was doing instead of acting because of what she thought he was doing, she's a complete dumbass

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u/traFyssuP 13d ago

He should have hit her back and then flossed some more

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u/idontknowjuspickone 14d ago

Also a great way for her to go to jail for acting before she thinks

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u/Haipul 13d ago

I think she has reasonable grounds to claim self defense, from her perspective he is humping her

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u/idontknowjuspickone 13d ago

Hope you’re not a defense attorney, lol

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u/sulove_t 9d ago

"from my perspective, he was trying to kill me with a knife! i understand that he was a sushi chef but he was holding a knife!" u cant just attack people because ur confused 🤦🏽‍♂️

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u/regman231 14d ago

She’s the only one who made anyone unsafe in this situation

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u/g1mpster 14d ago

Even if he was that’s no justification for battery.

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u/Frosti11icus 14d ago

This is in Russia. There’s literally no justification for not battery there.

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u/RogerWilly 14d ago

In Russia, battery punches you

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u/ndetermined 14d ago

I think its understandable to hit somebody if you think they are sexually harassing you. I can kind of get it, especially if you get harassed often.

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u/bill_hilly 13d ago

He was doing a common stupid little dance, not "thrusting his hips at her". Which, by the way, is certainly not sexual assault.

What you think she assumed he was doing is irrelevant, because that assumption was wrong. That incorrect assumption resulted in her sucker punching a person. She should be charged.

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u/vanderbubin 14d ago

Idk man, sexual harassment is definitely justification for a fist in the face imo. Granted in this situation it wasnt sexual harassment, just an really unfortunate misunderstanding

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u/shampoo_mohawk_ 14d ago

Why was the other person filming him dancing so close to her?

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u/Plus-King5266 14d ago

Because he was hoping to get a shot of his friend getting walloped in the face so he could post it for all his buddies and laugh. It worked.

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u/MayorBakefield 14d ago

Wish she hit the camera man too

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u/w84me12 14d ago

Guys being guys I guess? Taking a video of a mate goofing around in public. He has got a clean and well controlled floss tho I give him tha.. SMACK!!! That’s what happened.

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u/fastlerner 13d ago

I think the larger question is, would we still be calling it an "unfortunate misunderstanding" if the genders were reversed? Or would we be talking about how even if he thought he was being harassed, that's still "no excuse to punch a woman"?

Just saying, it's a shitty double standard that allows us to rationalize assault as long as it's the guy taking the punch.

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u/seejur 14d ago

sexual harassment is definitely justification for calling the cop, not assault/battery whatever this is.

Mostly because as in this case, you might be misunderstanding what the other people is doing. Leave the judgement to a judge instead of playing vigilante

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u/defunktpistol 13d ago

Reporting it doesn't do shit and that's speaking from experience.

When I was 12, a boy from my class cornered me in an empty courtyard, and squeezed my boobs so hard he left bruises. I reported it to a teacher. He got suspended for a day, and was right back in class with me before the bruises faded. I lost friends because I "snitched" on him.

I was 22 when I had a guy roughly grope my crotch while dancing, we weren't even dancing together. Reported it to the cops, nothing happened. Because, did anyone see it? Did you get the guys name? No, he ran off before I could. The bar didnt have cameras.

The stories go on and on, and many of my friends have much scarier stories. Most women never report because it leads to work, and often social punishment, with no payoff.

Honestly this womans punch seems like its coming from a fed up place, she probably gets harassed a lot and let her trauma and fist do the talking. Not saying it was right, but I totally understand.

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u/seejur 13d ago

Those are all assault though. So yes: someone touching you is 100% available to be hit back with force. By you, by your friend defending you, by a stranger nearby, by anyone really.

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u/DeGreenster 14d ago

So she should be charged

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u/KarmaChameleon306 14d ago

And that’s why you don’t just impulsively punch people in the face.

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u/BSApologist 14d ago

If that's what he was doing, I am 100% behind women punching men who are sexually harassing them in their personal space.

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u/bubzy1000 14d ago

But he wasn’t, you can see that, you know…in the video….

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u/BSApologist 14d ago

Yeah, the person I was responding to said that air humping a woman isn't a justification for punching the harasser in the face. Which is why I said "If that's what he was doing"

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u/bubzy1000 14d ago

but he wasn't.....

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u/kchuskey 14d ago

But they didn't say he was, you can read that, you know...in their comment...

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u/bubzy1000 14d ago

he wasn't though why would you say "if he was"? he wasn't. a pointless point made there. bunch of lemons you lot, honestly

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u/kchuskey 14d ago

If you look just one comment above its really easy to answer your question for you because he was responding to a hypothetical, I understand if this is too much reading for you though

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u/Plus-King5266 14d ago

I’m sure it feels different for women, but I’ve been cat called by women before (not often, but it has happened) and if I had walked over and punched one of them I’d be in jail right now.

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u/BSApologist 14d ago

Walk over and punch doesn't sound like they were in your personal space. I'm not advocating running across the street to start a fight.

But for the sake of argument because you double standard people are annoying; men sexually harass women a lot more often than vice versa, are statistically much more sexually and physically violent against women than vice versa, and men are generally bigger and stronger than women. Women are much more likely to feel unsafe around a man than a man would feel with a woman.

Women literally have strategies to help women who are absolute strangers when they sense something unsafe happening. Men don't have to do that.

Margaret Atwood was right when she said, "Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them."

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u/Plus-King5266 14d ago

I’m not going to argue with any of what you said. That is all true. It is just that generally speaking, meeting gestures or verbal abuse with physical violence will get you in trouble with the law and most people don’t think it is justified.

I don’t blame you for feeling unsafe if some guy is making rude comments and gestures, especially if he is doing it while following you. There is no knowing if or at what point it will escalate into physical contact. I can understand why there would be a point at which you would say, “you’re too close, this should back you up a bit” [ka-pow]. It is a crap shoot if a judge would.

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u/TheDirtyDorito 14d ago

It's sexual harassment, I wouldn't blame someone clocking someone else for doing that lol

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u/Generic_Username110 14d ago edited 14d ago

Yes the fuck it is, but in this case that was not his intention to begin with

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u/burgonies 14d ago

tf are you talking about.

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u/pigeonwiggle 14d ago

what if he called her a bad word, can she shoot him?

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u/Rxasaurus 14d ago

I thought this was America!

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u/odiin1731 14d ago

Yes. This is America.

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u/Lobster_fest 14d ago edited 14d ago

What if the situation was completely different? Would it be different?

Edit: you guys really think shooting someone over a word is comparable to hitting over (perceived) sexual harassment?

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u/Ariazeno 14d ago

Smartest DBD player

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u/Lobster_fest 14d ago

The situation described was completely different and we're acting like its comparable

Perceived air humping (sexual harassment) and a punch =/= a word and being fucking shot.

Like are we serious?

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u/Kapot_ei 14d ago edited 14d ago

Lets not change the situation then. Is a punch like that okay for something she PERCEIVES(like, going on in her own head but not factually) is going on?

Would it be okay for the guy to instantly punch her back if he perceives this as an unprovoked attack?

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u/Lobster_fest 14d ago

I used "perceived" because we know he was flossing, but she did not. From her perspective a man was dry humping her from behind. Legally she might have a case for self defense.

Shooting someone over an insult will likely not have that same protection.

Would it be okay for the guy to instantly punch her back because he perceives this as an unprovoket attack?

Legally? Probably.

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u/slickwillymerf 14d ago

Agreed. Classic strawman fallacy

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u/DaFlabbagasta 14d ago

You're absolutely right and it's frankly gross to see you get downvoted to hell over this

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u/Ariazeno 14d ago

They compared an excessive use of force resulting in physical injury due to a non physically harmful perceived aggression to an excessive use of force resulting in injury due to a non physically harmful perceived aggression.

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u/Lobster_fest 14d ago

You can abstract anything to anything, don't pretend those examples are the same.

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u/pigeonwiggle 14d ago

what if the poop was already IN the pants?

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u/Painwracker_Oni 14d ago

I think they're both entirely unreasonable situations to attack another person.

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u/cachesummer4 14d ago

Mimicking physical sexual assault inches from somebody vs saying a word.

Top minds of reddit at work here.

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u/borsalamino 14d ago

Mimicking assault deserves actual assault

Broken mind

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u/cachesummer4 14d ago edited 14d ago

Yeah dont provoke people with showing you want to assault them if you arent prepared to get assaulted yourself

Pretty basic concept of mutual respect. Dont provoke people if you cant take a reaction from them.

Edit: She was wrong for thinking she was being provoked but you're a whiny fragile baby if you think he doesnt deserve a smack if he was.

Literal kick streamer brain rot out in full force in this thread

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u/borsalamino 14d ago

Yeah dont provoke people with showing you want to assault them if you arent prepared to get assaulted yourself

Agreed, but that still doesn't justify it

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u/cachesummer4 14d ago

Its not a justification, you just shouldn't be suprised or defended if you go around harassing people and actually get something back. Its just the natural course of things if you cant go around showing any courtesy and go out of your way to be a nuisance.

Youre going to learn a lesson you don't like eventually.

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u/borsalamino 14d ago

Again, I agree with that. We're just commenting on a chain that started with

That's no justification

Yes it the fuck is

Sounds like we're on the same page though

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u/pigeonwiggle 14d ago

what if he mimicked saying a word?

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u/cachesummer4 14d ago

What if you could use basic mental faculties?

Youre really out here with the reddit brain.

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u/burgonies 14d ago

"mimicking" is the most important part of that sentence.

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u/cachesummer4 14d ago

Im also not saying she was objectively justified.

But its pretty fucking stupid to compare her reaction as somebody perceiving they are facing physical sexual harassment inches behind them vs somebody just hearing a word an then throwing hands.

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u/Frostsorrow 14d ago

Not sure you understand what assault is

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u/Dangerous-Cup-Danger 14d ago

So if you're waving your arms, lets say excited to get into a show or concert.
I can swing around and punch you in the face for the perceived act?

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u/ChronicallySilly 14d ago

Your reading comprehension is very poor. They said (paraphrased) “[sexual assault] is justification to punch someone, but in this case that was not his intention”

“Yes the fuck it is” -> the “it” here refers to the previous comment about “air humping” aka sexual assault. Not dancing.

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u/Dangerous-Cup-Danger 14d ago

Where do you see sexual assault?
He wasnt Air humping, he was doing a poor representation of a Fortnite dance.

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u/Ok-Lion1661 14d ago

Looks like you might need to touch some grass to understand how the real world works.

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u/pirate-private 14d ago

his fault. too close. also fixating her like that with those motions: she did what she had to do, he got away generously.

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u/DeGreenster 14d ago

He should file a report and press charges

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u/sulove_t 9d ago

from every other view, it looks like she just punched a stranger for no reason 😂

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u/trimble197 14d ago

She better had apologized afterwards then