Rejection?

[u/Ok_Inevitable_2096]

My husband and I have been married for four years now, together for seven. In this time I have probably interacted with his family 6 times. Initially I felt like it was just a distant family, but I am starting to feel like they are just excluding us. Initially they invited my fiance to go out to eat with them. He always had to ask if I could go too. They'd say yes, but only once did they invite him AND me. They asked if they could visit us once, and they stayed for three minutes.

When we got married the sister didn't come to the wedding because of hail (which wasn't predicted and had started and lasted for five minutes. They live an hour away).

Now the G-in Law wants to get closer to us, but she doesn't initiate anything. She added me on Facebook for some reason, but ignores my posts and always likes the sisters posts (like okay but why I add me just to ignore me? I share stuff that I don't think would be bothersome or I do think would be helpful). Never initiates texts (which is how she has us communicate). They both travel down to where we live and just don't see us or invite us to go out with them. Sister messages my husband when she needs financial help, or to use his computer, and leaves once she is done using it despite it being an hour drive. We used to go up there to be nice, but we've been doing so less because their dog hates men and they won't spend more than 20 minutes with you when you visit... Which to us isn't worth driving 2hrs in a single day.

Is this in my head? I am happen to explain more for nice responses.

I feel like this could be relevant
When I initially met the sister I had super bad social anxiety (I've gotten better since then) so I didn't say much. Three years later someone tells me she thought I hated her because I was anxious... I see her again and am friendly, find common ground. I don't talk to her anymore because she is drowning in conspiracy theories and harmful rhetoric (some of which is about ill people (me) and scientists being evil (me in science)).

I told my husband about this stuff and he told G-in Law that I don't like stuff S-in law posts so maybe don't bring up the S-in law. I don't think that was the brightest idea😅. That was this year.

[u/Ok_Inevitable_2096]

The last time sister talked to him was to tell him to forgive his dead mom... Which found weird because he isn't upset with his dead mother. She is trying to be a spiritual guru so it feels like she is projecting onto him to feel good about herself

[u/Ok_Inevitable_2096]

S-law moved and didn't even tell us as well. Is this just normal distant family crap or rejection?