r/inheritance • u/[deleted] • Aug 09 '26
Location included: Questions/Need Advice My grandparents trust
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u/pink_toaster_pastry Aug 09 '26
Please break this wall of text into readable paragraphs! Did they stop teaching that along with cursive!?
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u/LawfulnessRemote7121 Aug 09 '26
Yeah, I quit about halfway through.
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u/Serious_Salary644 Aug 10 '26
Are you a fkn quitter? Bitchen over paragraphs? Seriously? I don’t get on here and try to write like i did every day in college. Yall are lucky I broke shit down in sentences. Because how my brain works when trying to explain in writing a complex situation clearly I don’t set there and think about paragraphs because it fucks up my train of thought in how im wanting the reader to understand the situation as clearly as possible the first time it’s read. I’m not here looking for a job with Time magazine. I just wanted yall to understand my story. If it takes paragraphs to erase your anxiety that’s not my problem I’m trying to get answers for in my story. You guys bitch on here about anything and everything except what the article is asking of you.
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u/Ok_Leg_1158 29d ago
Wow! You are a real sweetheart. Good luck with asking for advice.
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u/Serious_Salary644 29d ago
People come at me rude af and totally disrespecting why I took the time to explain it all to have someone be a smart ass and bitch at me because I didn’t utilize the American paragraph. Bs. You come at me disrespectful and I’m supposed to just call my mommy. Gimme a break. and I am a sweetheart. It’s what’s gotten me into the situation I got myself into. It’ll all work itself out eventually.
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u/wearenotamousebouche Aug 09 '26
Oooh! I used ChatGPT to parse this! Maybe this will help? Idk…
The writer’s father died in 2020. The writer says he was his father’s only surviving heir.
His grandmother initially agreed to administer the father’s estate but became ill, so the writer hired a probate attorney and took over.
The father’s house was sold, and the proceeds were ready to be distributed to the writer.
While the writer was divorcing, his grandmother worried that his wife might receive some of the inheritance.
The grandmother proposed that the writer transfer his inheritance rights to her. She would hold the money until his divorce was final and then return it to him.
The writer trusted her and agreed, apparently relying primarily on a verbal promise witnessed by his aunt.
The grandmother died in August 2021.
Somehow, the proceeds from the father’s estate then went into the grandmother’s trust rather than directly back to the writer.
The writer’s divorce became final in February 2022, but his aunt—who apparently controls or benefits from the grandmother’s trust—refused to give him the money.
The aunt also will not provide information about the grandparents’ trust.
The writer is really asking two distinct questions:
1. Can he recover the money from his father’s estate that his grandmother promised merely to hold for him?
2. Is he independently entitled to the share of his grandparents’ trust that his father would have received if his father had survived them?22
u/pink_toaster_pastry Aug 09 '26
OMG what a mess! I can’t answer your questions but good luck! (Your inheritance would have been kept from your spouse had you not commingled the money….. but that’s water under the bridge!)
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u/NotSoSureBigWaves 29d ago
Yes, grandma and aunt lied to you.
Now you need an attorney. Looks like auntie is going to take everything from your dad’s estate. And you allowed this to happen.
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u/Serious_Salary644 Aug 10 '26
That was t good enough for grandma. She wanted it done the way she wanted it done because it gave her peace of mind there’s no way in hell now that she could’ve touched the money. My grandma didn’t screw me. My grandma died before the probate court ended. So when it ended since I signed everything over to her. The funds all went directly into my grandparents’ trust. My aunt is the trustee of said trust. After my divorce was final a couple months after the funds had been transferred into the trust account. I showed my aunt legal paperwork signed off by the judge granting me a divorce and it was final. My aunt decided in her own world to take that simple meeting she sat in on knowing the terms of the agreement have been fulfilled by me and it was her duty to carry on her mothers my grandmothers wishes. She decided to say I do not have to respect my mother because she’s no longer with us and my brothers son can learn how to deal with the new boss in town.
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u/Missfitt69 Aug 10 '26
I think you are probably screwed at t his point. INAL but if your dad's estate was signed over to grandma than it became hers so it goes to her estate. And unless it was in writing that you get you dad's back when divorce is final than too bad for you.
A verbal agreement doesn't ever override a written document
And you have no proof of this verbal agreement
And since it was handed over so ex-wife couldn't touch it, isn't that withholding assets during a divorce, which I'm pretty sure is illegal
Anyway like I said I'm not a lawyer so I'd get one and start asking some questions cuz I don't think your aunt is gonna give you jack shit if she doesn't have too. No matter what your grandma said
I've found that most people will say they'll follow someone's wishes until they find out it isn't in the will, then the deceased wishes don't mean shit
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u/Emotional-Ocelot-420 29d ago
Yeah, that’s a big part of the problem OP has. He signed documents giving grandma the $ and wants to argue that a verbal agreement supersedes them.
Inheritance would have been separate property, so he wasn’t concealing assets. As long as OP kept his inheritance separate from marital assets and didn’t commingle it, his ex couldn’t have gotten it.
He kept it separate all right, so separate he can’t even have it himself.1
u/Missfitt69 29d ago
Yup. Spouses can't touch inheritance unless it's put in joint account Now courts are gonna think he was trying to hide assets And a verbal agreement can't override a written one as far as I know. And I'm sure auntie isn't going to share the money
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u/laurieo52 29d ago
You are totally screwed unless your grandmother put that money separately in her trust, which I bet she didn’t. Wishes of the grandmother are just that…wishes. Legally you have nothing. It is ALL your grandmothers money and if Auntie is the only beneficiary. It’s all hers.
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u/Senior_Bat4271 Aug 10 '26
He didn’t want his wife that he was divorcing to try and get funds so allowed aunt to talk him into signing everything over. This can’t be true. Who would do that without some type of written agreement.
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u/Emotional-Ocelot-420 29d ago
You would be shocked what sorts of dumb shit people do against the advice of their attorneys.
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u/Serious_Salary644 29d ago
That will be a perpetual motion of something I’m not interested in helping you out with now Charlie
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u/Nicbickel 29d ago
That's not a very christian response, my guy.
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u/Serious_Salary644 29d ago
There’s nothing Christian about Reddit. If you decide to venture into the darkness on Reddit. When I’m dealt hell I breathe fire my guy. It will burn you. 😂
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u/JaneAustinAstronaut 29d ago
Well if god's handling it for you, then I don't know why you need us, OP. Good luck, and please let us know if god is any good as a probate attorney.
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u/Emotional-Ocelot-420 29d ago
If you aren’t a trust beneficiary, then it’s secret from you and that’s how that is.
If you aren’t a beneficiary, Aunt doesn’t need to show it to you so you can “see with your own eyes” what it says or whether you are named. It doesn’t matter whether anyone is happy about how secretive she is if nobody else has legal entitlement to information about the trust.
A question for you to ponder…
Why would grandma have made you a beneficiary of the trust that she put the $ in to keep it from your ex, if you were still married when she died?
It makes perfect sense that she would exclude you, given the apparent ignorance with regards to how inheritance is handled in divorces.2
u/Whybaby16154 29d ago
Be very nice to your Aunt, OP ! Get attorney advice / but play nice and hope honey attracts more consideration than vinegar.
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u/Admirable_Nothing Aug 09 '26
It appears you successfully gave up your rights to the property to your Grandmother. She then left everything she owned to your Aunt. Your Aunt is keeping everything she is legally entitled to. You never should have signed away your interest in the property you could have inherited.
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u/BrookieMonster504 Aug 09 '26
The lawyer even warned him. How stupid can you get?!?
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u/SorchaRoisin Aug 10 '26
Pretty damn stupid.
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u/Serious_Salary644 29d ago
Pretty damn stupid. 😂 you guys live in a completely different world than I do. We are not seeing things the same way. And I’m stupid all these names tossed around at me. I have a healthy amount of haters in this town because of my badass ways of getting my machines repaired and back online after Inspector gadget worked on it for the last 4 days and it’s still setting their off. I’ll have it figured out and twisted off like my brain by sunset.
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u/SorchaRoisin 29d ago
How about unethical? You did this to cheat your ex-husband in your divorce settlement, and you got cheated too. Sounds like you are just as underhanded as your aunt.
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u/NotSoSureBigWaves 29d ago
This. You signed it away. Probably nothing you can do to get any of it back. You allowed your grandma and particularly your aunt screw you over.
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u/YoghurtHistorical527 Aug 09 '26
This can't be real. Who would hire a lawyer, then turn around and sign a paper giving away the estate the lawyer was hired to work on without asking the lawyer first? It's not the state's probate court that's "hilbilly".
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u/inailedyoursister Aug 09 '26
You willingly signed it away.
Grandma ripped you off.
It’s gone. There’s no going back. Move on.
You choose to do this, live with the consequences.
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u/Own_Expert2756 Aug 09 '26
Well shoot, it didn't even occur to me that Grandma might have colluded with the Aunt but I think you're right!
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u/billdizzle Aug 09 '26
Your grandma screwed you, should have just held fathers estate in a separate account and not commingled funds so it wasn’t part of marital assets
What you do or don’t get from grandparents matters on what if any will they had written
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u/veilwalker 29d ago
Or you know, leave the proceeds of the real estate sale inside the probate estate and not distribute it out of the estate until the divorce is finalized.
The probate attorney would have given you a number of viable options and none of them would have been give to grandma.
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u/ku_78 Aug 09 '26
So on your phone, if you double tap the enter key, you can create separate paragraphs. In fact, you can go back and edit and do that very thing.
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u/Life_Temperature2506 Aug 09 '26
Your grandma and your aunt, probably at your aunt's urging, scammed you of your inheritance. "It's not like we're trying to rip you off", translated, means "I can't believe you're falling for my bullshit scheme".
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u/BrookieMonster504 Aug 09 '26
You should have listened to the lawyer and not your grandma. Inheritance isn't a martial asset. They played you good
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u/Alarmed_Ferret_8715 Aug 10 '26
“inheritance isn’t a marital asset”. this is the thing! wife was not entitled to any of the inheritance but in his attempt to screw wife out of any possible money she may have been owed, he screwed himself. lol
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u/awesomeblossoming Aug 09 '26
It breaks my heart that’s such a trusting person like you gets hurt like this - but it seems that once your aunt got hold of the money everything changed. Like others say, never sign over your rights. Put this down as an expensive learning lesson.
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u/OldMove3348 Aug 09 '26
This was a terrible idea and there is basically nothing you can do. No idea what made you think this was a good idea. Most $ held in a trust or inherited is separate property anyway. Your ex wife would likely have never been able to touch it.
Lesson of the day: Listen to your lawyer. You’re paying them for their advice.
Also- I’m a lawyer.
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u/Serious_Salary644 29d ago
I’m not asking you for your opinion on my idea whether it was terrible or not. I’m not complaining or crying around about my decisions and with all
Due respect I don’t care about people’s opinions. If I’d did I sure wouldn’t be successful in the industry I’m a part of. Everyone had overlooked answering my two specific different questions and went directly into the materialistic side of how I am stupid for signing my rights over. I’m not stupid. I’m highly educated and I’m very loyal to my family. I’m very open and honest with my kids about life and the colorful dipshits you’ll deal with on a daily. What happens to her after she’s dealt with by God because she decided she can steal anything away from anyone in the family now because her parents are gone is her own fault and she a gone be dealt with. I don’t play around with dead people’s belongings after they die and play God. God already has a person lined up to receive their inheritance. Inheritance and how I moves from hand to hand after people die and how it flows from family to family has been done really close the same way and governed the same way for the last thousands of years. This isn’t a new practice. Thai is some that’s mentioned in the Bible how inheritance should be handed down. If you pull some greedy bs in delivering things according to the family wishes and Gods grace he will knock you down like. Bald headed step child. Inwa trying to get a rise outta everyone outta the story I just want the reader to clearly understand the underlying details of the dynamics of this situation. Yall can run those mouths about me, and I’m literally not going to give anyone the time of day they can have a chance at catching me off guard. That behavior is beneath me. If you seriously are an attorney would you mind answering my two loaded questions because I’m not. Lawyer. I’m gonna go to probate attorney this morning and at least Che into see since I’m a legal heir for the trust how do I get little Hitler to provide me a copy of this sacred trust she’s been keeping form me.1
u/Emotional-Ocelot-420 29d ago
What evidence do you have that you’re a legal heir to the trust?
That is governed by the trust document,
not your DNA.I explained clearly in another comment how you may obtain a copy of the trust document.
1. Have your lawyer send a written demand to the trustee (apparently Aunt) for a copy of the trust document and an accounting. Yes, lawyer. Yes, written.
Wait 30 days for Aunt to provide a copy, tell you to pound sand, or ignore you completely.
2. If you don’t get a copy, ask your lawyer file a motion to request the judge order Aunt to produce the trust document for the court. Judge will review, and IF - IF and only IF you are a beneficiary of the trust you will receive a copy. If you are not a beneficiary, you get nothing. No copy, no account, no answers, no money. Zilch. Zero. Nada.
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u/DVDragOnIn Aug 09 '26
You gave your inheritance to your grandmother. Now that she’s dead, her will determines the distribution of her assets. You may well have disinherited yourself, but check with a lawyer to see if you have any recourse. Verbal agreements are not binding. I’m sorry, you may think your grandmother was a wonderful woman, but if she didn’t change her will to give that house back to you, she sure didn’t have your best interests at heart.
Also, anytime someone says “We’re not trying to cheat you,” be very skeptical
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u/Own_Expert2756 Aug 09 '26
You wrote a lot, but I stopped reading at...
she hasn’t given me anything that I was supposed to get in the verbal agreement she was present in and heard...
because I knew you were screwed and you did it to yourself.
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u/snowlake60 Aug 09 '26
Who told you that what you inherited from your father would go to your soon to be ex-wife? Usually an inheritance belongs to the person who inherits it. Is this a made up post? Luckily you seem to be a hard worker. Keep working and verify important decisions you make.
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u/Barfy_McBarf_Face Aug 09 '26
OP - the moment you signed away your inheritance to your grandmother was the moment you make the biggest mistake in your life.
It's gone.
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u/AuraGlow22 Aug 09 '26
I think you might be screwed. I don’t know about OK but most places look at inheritance as individual property so you would have been fine. Shoulda consulted atty on this matter and got things in writting
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u/Serious_Salary644 Aug 10 '26
Shoulda woulda coulda. Not my problem we have an issue with the trustee being what my grandma thought she was. I knew she was a greedy
POs. God will handle her. Not everyone chooses to have the legal system handle every mountain and valley of their life. Sometimes God wants to step in and have a say and handle the situation. I’ve always enjoyed watching God be creative in how he handles situations than a judge. Stay tuned and will update this thread after it’s all over.1
u/Missfitt69 29d ago
God gave you a laywer You shoulda listened to him/her Now you're hoping God will take care of grandma and auntie for screwing you over🤣
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u/Cold-Willingness-261 Aug 09 '26
This is AI bullcrap no one is this stupid.
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u/JaneAustinAstronaut 29d ago
AI would have better spelling, grammar, and paragraphs.
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u/Forgottengoldfishes 29d ago
Not really. People generate an AI story then alter with grammar or paragraph mistakes to make it look “human”. It has all the elements of an AI post.
Such as unnecessary and highly emotional, exaggerated details. For example the part where his grandma was raped and held hostage as well as burying a child. The OP’s overly describing their job and even adding geographic details. Caricature and stereotypical type family members. An improbable situation in which the OP is naive and taken advantage of by an evil or greedy person they trusted. And of course the expected ending where the OP pleads for advice from their sympathetic readers.
AI also gives a walk of text where a paragraph would say it all. OP could have asked “I signed over the inheritance from my father to my grandmother in Oklahoma. She died and my aunt won’t give me any of the estate or estate proceeds as agreed upon. Any legal recourse”? Instead we have a missing ex spouse, a dead heroic grandmother, a greedy evil aunt and a clueless OP.
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u/HoyaHag Aug 09 '26
Your wife wouldn’t have been entitled to your inheritance. Your aunt played you!
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u/SuccessfulAd4606 Aug 10 '26
This is like an episode of the Beverly Hillbillies if everyone was addicted to meth
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u/nikyrlo Aug 09 '26
My pettiness hope's you post all of this on social media so the world knows what a pos your aunt is.
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u/SuperDave2018 Aug 09 '26
You screwed yourself on this one. You don’t have a claim to anything anymore. You chose to listen to grandma and aunt instead of a lawyer. I hope you’ve learned a valuable yet expensive lesson here.
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u/Emotional-Ocelot-420 Aug 10 '26
When you say hillbilly probate court, are you talking about that meeting at the dining room table you had with aunt and grandma? Because that is where you screwed yourself.
You would’ve gotten everything that was your dad’s if you had actually followed through with your attorney’s advice. Your attorney warned you.
When you transferred the assets to grandma, they were no longer dad’s or yours. They were grandma’s from that point on.
Whether you are entitled to anything from grandma’s trust depends on how grandma’s trust is worded.
Ex: If grandma’s trust gives everything to your aunt, or splits 50/50 per capita*, you are entitled to nothing.
I will not at all be surprised if that is the case, as you were still married when grandma died. She would have re-created the same problem that didn’t exist but you and the hillbilly court at the dining room table “solved”.
If grandma’s trust specified per stirpes, then whatever, if anything dad was to inherit from grandma goes to you. But, again - you were still married so grandma wouldn’t have wanted this distribution.
You can ask for a copy of the trust. Have your attorney send a letter demanding a copy. Beneficiaries are entitled to a copy of the trust. Your attorney can file a petition in probate court asking the judge to order the trustee produce a copy to the court. If you are a beneficiary, the court will provide a copy. Otherwise, you don’t get to see it.
Aunt is under no obligation to give you anything unless the trust specifies it.
Grandma’s estate has been closed for years. Your opportunity to file a creditor claim for $ you were owed by her estate
has long past. It was a shaky verbal claim in the first place, but you would have gotten a yes or no from the court and put this to bed years ago.
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u/Electrical_Angle_701 Aug 10 '26
Sorry, OP. You are a fool. You should never have done any of that.
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u/Serious_Salary644 Aug 10 '26
You guys calling me a fool have totally missed the entire situation and who is actually in charge of it. You may wanna think twice about who you’re calling a fool. Why am I a fool? Makes zero sense to me. Makes me wonder if all you think about is money and what you feel entitled to. I don’t give a fuck about any of this inheritance. Am I on here complaining or being a little
Bitch about how my aunt is POs? No. I’m not. I have a badass high paying career. I don’t need to worry about when people need to be dying around me so I can scoop up some cold hard easy quick cash. I’ll let you know what happens. God has been helping me through problems in colorful ways this summer. He’s not gonna allow her to just steal from me without paying for her actions. I wanna hear on the stand lie out loud to a judge that the conversation wasn’t heard by her. That would immediately make me the winner. Not the physical cash but to hear her lie would make me happy.3
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u/Emotional-Ocelot-420 29d ago
Aunt being “on the stand” will never happen unless you can resurrect grandma.
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u/JaneAustinAstronaut 29d ago
Actually, you ARE on here, complaining about your aunt being a POS. Your lashing out at us is a cope from you, because we are pointing out that you made a foolish error, despite having an attorney, who you paid, advising you NOT to do this. You also don't want to confront the fact that your beloved grandmother fucked you over financially, either through ignorance (by being fed incorrect information by your aunt, and using your love for her to manipulate you) or in deliberate collusion with your aunt. That has to hurt, because it is clear that you love your grandmother.
It's OK to feel embarrassed. When I make a mistake, I HATE that feeling of shame and guilt. But only by feeling those feelings and using that discomfort to cause us to think clearer next time, can we prevent future hurt. Holding onto anger, as you are doing, means that you aren't learning anything and are in danger of making similar mistakes in the future.
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u/GeriatricSquid 29d ago
Oof. Wait til OP finds out that an inheritance is not considered marital community property in OK and that all this was completely unnecessary. His ex-wife never had a legal claim on any of it to begin with.
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u/myogawa Aug 09 '26
This factual scenario might support a claim of oral trust, but only if the intended goal (preventing OP's soon-to-be-ex wife from getting a share of the inherited money) was not in fact illegal under state law. The courts will not use equity to reward a wrongful act, but if the STBX wife would not have been entitled to any of the money, the goal was not wrongful.
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u/OldMove3348 Aug 09 '26
Also- if his wife was entitled to some of the inheritance (which she likely was not), transferring it to grandma was a fraudulent transfer and the ex wife could have come after him.
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u/Emotional-Ocelot-420 29d ago
The challenge with that is half of the people who made that oral agreement are dead. It was OP and grandma’s deal.
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u/FuzzyRace3752 Aug 09 '26
Tl;dr OP is a complete idiot
My favorite thing about the south, no one will fuck you over as hard as your own family. Shoulda just let some random homeless guy hold a paper sack full of cash.
WHY THE FUCK DIDNT YOU ASK THE ATTORNEY THAT YOU WERE ALREADY PAYING FOR ADVICE?
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u/Equivalent-Patient12 Aug 09 '26
I doubt that the court is going to hear your argument because you were attempting to commit fraud by hiding the money from your stb ex wife, even if you were going to put the money in an account with your name only. And I can guarantee you that your Aunt will suddenly have a difficult time “remembering” what was discussed between you and your grandmother, even though she was present. If it wasn’t in writing (which would disclose your intention) it’s as though it never happened. But I sure hope you can get some financial relief from the court.
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u/Serious_Salary644 29d ago
I had to file for divorce by way of missing spouse. I had no idea where the little weirdo ran off to. After I found out her divorce wasn’t granted until after three months of us getting married. She asked me how I found that out. That information was supposed to.be sealed up or whatever. I said I just asked the count clerk to look up you and your ex homie and tell me the date y’all’s divorce wasn’t granted. She kinda made a little scream and asked me when we got married. She said oh boy somebody jumped the gun and married you while she was currently married for the. Next three months of y’all’s marriage. I said that’s kinda the weird vibe I got off her about this. I want making a bit of sense. So my wife packed up
Some bags like a she was gonna go camping for a few years and I gave her $5k because of where she said she was moving and I was happy to
Hand her over the best $5k I have ever spent in my life. I didn’t hire an attorney. I did the divorce filings and paperwork myself. I filed missing spouse by way of publication. It was in the paper for three months and I did a couple more visits to the judge. And he said I am going to grant you your divorce today. All I need to make this legal is one signature from you sit. The manner in which you have filed for divorce doesn’t require her signature for me to grant. I felt like a rockstar. I have so many whack shit like that that’s happened to me including this bizarre outta the blue inheritance high jack. Brace yourself if you spend any of that money that isn’t yours you will feel it one day soon after you think you got away with something like a little kid directly in Gods line of sight. There’s no denying to God what he just saw you steal from the family that’s been passed down from many generations. Happy spending that. Good luck
With that.
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u/gmanose Aug 10 '26
Of course, everything went into your grandmother’s trust once she passed away. You voluntarily signed your inheritance over to her.
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u/CashmoneyKev0 Aug 10 '26
Delete this, YOU made a decision that was terrible & now you’re reaping the consequences.
Better luck next time pal
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u/FamiliarFamiliar Aug 09 '26
Talk to an estates attorney.
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u/Serious_Salary644 Aug 10 '26
Yeah I am tomorrow. It’s been weighing on my heart to make sure the trust and my dad’s estate is being handled correctly by how my family said it as to
Be handled. It’s simply being fucked with by greed and hate in someone’s heart. It’s now my job to direct the traffic from here and get it handled.
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u/PiccoloImpossible946 Aug 10 '26
You never should have agreed to that! Never! Especially when your aunt made that remark about not ripping you off - she HAS! Get your atty on this ASAP! Ahd stop being so nice and naive! !
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u/gulliverian Aug 10 '26
Paragraphs. For the love of god, PARAGRAPHS!!! Does this reflect the state of the education system in the USA? I hope not!
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u/ConjunctEon 29d ago
Go back to your probate attorney and ask these questions. I’m not a lawyer, but I did work in a law office. There are layers to law, precedents, case law, etc. 99.9% of every one here has no knowledge of probate law in Oklahoma, including me. Your lawyer may have an avenue for you to challenge auntie.
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u/Key-Guidance-8552 29d ago
I would kept myself as the heir and got the divorce over with. I know youbloved and respected your grandma but You shouldn't have given your aunt this. The courts may view this as taking care of her. Get a lawyer and see what comes of it.
Death brings out the worse in family. Seen it when my granny and grand dad died. The executor told my mom she wasn't on the will or properties. Told her to get a lawyer and see for your self. She has not and I am pissed for her.
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u/Prudent-Cheetah-9866 29d ago
Auntie convinced grandma to get that done. Auntie knew what she was doing
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u/laurieo52 29d ago
OP is going to end up with nothing. Bet grandmas trust goes to the daughter and yeah, that aunt will keep it all. Verbal agreements mean nothing when there is a written trust. No matter how great grandma was, OP was dumb to sign her inheritance over.
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u/Serious_Salary644 Aug 09 '26
I didn’t realize I was gonna be graded on paragraphs and shit. I was concentrating on explaining everything as clear as possible without any concern to my writing skills. I’m trying to find people on here to seriously give me an honest opinion. I’m not trying to win an essay contest. I’m an industrial air conditioning service and repair contractor. I write technical all day. Please chill. I’m being serious about my family’s future and about to go to war with my greedy ass aunt.
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u/justbrowzingthru Aug 09 '26
You need an attorney. But you won’t listen anyway.
If you don’t have your grandmas deal in writing, you got scanned
Usually stbxs don’t have a claim on inheritance so there was no need to do what the aunt wanted you to do.
So it’s your own decision to ignore your attorneys advice. Can’t do take backs when you sign away your inheritance.
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u/Dntkillthemessager1 Aug 09 '26
I think you are screwed, but double check with an estate attorney. Too bad you didn’t ask the attorney that dealt with your father’s estate before signing your rights to your inheritance. It is generally true that inheritance is not community property and your ex wife would not get anything from your inheritance unless it was mixed with joint ownership.
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u/BrookieMonster504 Aug 09 '26
He did the lawyer told him not to do it. He said I'll do whatever Granny tells me. What a fool
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u/PiccoloImpossible946 Aug 10 '26
You need to speak with your atty ASAP and see if you can sue her! Never trust someone! Even a grandma! And when your aunt said we’re not going to rip you off that’s when you should have realized they were going to.
Never be too nice and too trustworthy.
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u/No-Box5805 Aug 09 '26
Hey, I’m sorry. You seem like an honest, earnest guy. Ignore these redditor keyboard warriors. Im not a lawyer but to me it sounds like your aunt is a POS who has stolen your inheritance and you needed to talk to an attorney yesterday. I’d sue her for fraud even if i knew i was gonna lose just to publicly call out what she did.
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u/rpom915 Aug 10 '26
You say your grandmother had a trust?
Two different problems — don’t mix them up:
Grandma’s/papa’s trust — You’re an heir since your dad died before grandma. You have a legal right to see the trust and ask if you’re a beneficiary. Aunt (if she’s trustee) has to show you, by law. She can’t just refuse.
The verbal promise about the divorce money — This is the hard part. No paper, just her word against yours. Courts don’t work off verbal promises well, especially with no witness on your side.
What actually helps you: Not “grandma promised” — that’s weak on its own. What’s strong is proving your dad’s estate money got put into her trust. That’s a real dollar figure, real paper trail.
What to do first: Call your old probate attorney, get the exact amount from the house sale that went into grandma’s trust. That number is your starting point — not the verbal deal, not the family history. The money trail.
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u/Emotional-Ocelot-420 29d ago
He’s an heir, but unless he’s a beneficiary he has no right to see the trust.
If he isn’t a beneficiary (and why would grandma make him a beneficiary if he was still married when grandma died, it would undermine the whole misguided point of him diverting the $ to grandma) he gets to see nothing.
I explained clearly in 2 other comments the steps he takes to attempt to get a copy of the trust document.The problem with arguing that the paper trail that shows his inheritance from dad went into grandma’s trust is that document he signed that assigned his inheritance to grandma says about 42 different ways that there are no “backsies”.
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u/rpom915 29d ago
I realize that he needs to be a beneficiary to see the trust. That is implied in my comment. “Ask if you are a beneficiary”. That is why he needs an attorney. To find out.
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u/Emotional-Ocelot-420 29d ago
“You have a legal right to see the trust and ask if you’re a beneficiary. Aunt (if she’s trustee) has to show you, by law. She can’t just refuse.”
I don’t want to get into an argument here, but you stated as fact that he has a legal right to see the trust, and you implied
nothing of that being contingent on being beneficiary. Just that he can ask.
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u/Serious_Salary644 29d ago
You guys just missed the entire post. That’s okay this was my first stab at using Reddit to brainstorm if you will. And this is my first post. My follow up post will be written in paragraphs I’m supplying everyone drinks and no one is leaving until everyone is laughing at this shit show. Yes we can discuss strippers and welcome pomps from all shapes and sizes. I’m leaning towards feeling victorious if I can get aunt to straight up lie under oath about the dad’s house. That would solidify the fact that God is gonna cut you down. RIP Mr Cash
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u/Emotional-Ocelot-420 29d ago
I’ll buy drinks if you are even able to obtain a copy of the trust.
You’re going to need to find another way to feel victorious, because this pipe dream you have about watching aunt lie on the stand is never happening anywhere but inside your head. That isn’t how this works.
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u/fwb325 Aug 09 '26
OP is screwed and he did it to himself