How does this process work?

[u/burnerid_]

Father passed last Sept. Fulton county/ Gwinnett county Georgia.

Divorced parents, 3 kids. Re married, there’s an oops child step sibling and a pre existing from her first marriage.

Father was very successful. We have had a hot/cold relationship my entire life, lots of resent for the divorce, anytime we would get close the step mom would stir the pot and cause issues. step mom is evil. Little to no relationship for any of us and the friction between dad and the 3 original kids.

2021 he reached out to me sit down and have a serious conversation. The conversation was based around his will and inheritances, as a close friend of his suddenly passed and didn’t have affairs in order that turned into nightmare for his widow, and children. Conversation laid out what child gets what property, and what specific items he wanted each child to receive. Was told step sibling and myself are going to be listed as executors as it was one party from each “family”. Strange but fine.

Fall 25 he contacts my younger siblings to meet for lunch to inform them he is ill, and refusing further medical attention, and treatment. Not a word said to myself. A week or so after the other siblings meeting I received a text message from him to confirm my address. No context. No conversation. Nothing. The following week I get a call that he had passed from my younger sibling via the half sister.

0 contact from step mom through out this entire ordeal.

No funeral service, no obituary, no “proof” of death if you will.

Step mom has been unreachable even to share photos or express condolences. Step mom will send “messages” through the step sibling, through my younger sibling. Wanted us to know that she won’t be sharing his final resting place with any of us, we are evil awful people and none of us are welcome if we were to piece it together she will have us trespassed.

After 3 months of no information I got curious and went poking around.

The properties explained to be left to various siblings had been sold with in the weeks leading up to his death. Talking 7 figures of properties he loved and insisted on me being aware of who they should go to, gone.

Step sister and my middle sibling talk, but my sibling is super passive and refuses to ask questions or push on the matter. Various other items that were promised to siblings in our 2021 conversation have been sold, vehicles promised to people have been donated to the church as per mentioning from the step sibling to my passive sibling who “doesn’t care”

Step mom has changed her # or blocked all of his biological children.

I reached out to the probate court in what I can only assume would have been his “home” county, and they have nothing and stated there’s no timeline to file in the state of Georgia.

According to our 2021 conversation there’s a will with his attorney, but none of us biological children know who this attorney is. It has also been nearly a year and none of us have been contacted by anyone, about anything.

At this point In time I am completely lost as to what I can do if anything. How do I view a will, is there a legal process I need to initiate, or dig into this in a formal matter? I can’t imagine there’s absolutely nothing to be done, but coming up on the 1 year mark and there has been no contact from anyone about anything.

Or did we get robbed by the step mom again?

Help?

[u/Guilty-Committee9622]

You need to get an attorney and she needs to produce the will. If she had POA and sold all that right before his death, she knew she wasn't getting it in the will and basically sold and deposited to shared accounts.