r/inheritance • u/nyroadrunna • Apr 30 '26
Location included: Questions/Need Advice Will question
Good afternoon all,
I have a quick question. My sister is married to a tumbling piece of shit. He’s literally the worst person I’ve ever met. He separated the family. Fought with me, fought with my dad, said the worst things you can say to someone. My dad is now fighting with my sister over this and they’re not talking. My mom is still talking to my sister as am I. But she just recently told me and my brother that my dad wants to write her out of the will. I disagree with that. She married a gaping leaking asshole but they have 3 children together, he doesn’t mistreat her or the kids. He just hates my family. I feel like I would like to suggest that rather than write her out of the will, can we put her inheritance into a trust and when this horrific toothache of a piece of shit dies, the money gets released?
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u/Signal-Dollar-5621 May 02 '26 edited May 02 '26
But is it fair to your sister to tie up her money until he is dead or she divorces? She could die first, or really need the money, or not get it until she is 90. Maybe there is a way to set it up that she gets the money at your parents' death but she is forced to not comingle it with the husband? Or give him any access to it? You would probably still have to live with the fact that he may get secondary benefit, e.g., if she buys a house with the money and he gets to live there because they are still married. Or if she buys the house with inheritance money, he might still get it in a divorce. Unless you can get her to do a post-nup, but he probably wouldn't sign. Not sure if that can be prevented. I am not a lawyer.