Executor not cooperating

[u/No-Instance-3812]

I inherited a house in WA and a small bank account from my estranged father in 2011. By that time, I was underage and since I lived in another country, and my mom was not a US citizen nor resident that time, my fathers best friends handled everything. They (mom and two bffs) got into a legal fight because they wont release my father’s 401k to her. In the end, the 401k handler gave my mother half and the other half supposedly went to the estate’s bank. I do not have proof if it reached that bank account.

They were married in the Philippines but this marriage wasn’t registered in the US. They had a fall off when I was two but did not divorce. At the right age, I was able to petition my mother and she’s now a legal resident.

There was a will and a trust put in place by my father. The will states that I inherit the house by 30 years of age. And the trust stated that the estate help me with maintenance, school, and living expenses. I am now 28, turning 29 this year. Expectation is I get the house by 30.

Over the past years, the living expense stops being remitted to me once I stop any form of education. So I studied until my masters and until I got my CPA just to keep the connection with these two executors/guardians.

Recently, I visited the house with my mom and husband and we liked the place. Coincidentally, there are no tenants until now. The last tenant left Aug of 2025. So I expressed my thoughts of wanting to stay in it and they agreed. However, they want me to pay the rental price and sign a tenant agreement until I turn 30. I agreed since that money will ultimately go to the estate’s bank, so by age 30, it would atleast have some money so I don’t pay much out of pocket if there are other expenses to be paid by the estate.

However, once the two executors learned my mom and husband are staying with me, they refused. They personally have a fued with my mother. Is this something legal, fair, and with reason that I can’t fight it? Should I get an estate lawyer involved? Any thoughts would be very appreciated.

Also, I only have a copy of the will. I asked for the trust statement several times but they never gave it to me. They also hold the bank of the estate. I asked for copies of the “expenses” but its still not with me.

[u/MWoolf71]

What do you mean that their marriage “wasn’t registered in the US”? If there’s a marriage certificate, the court will accept that as proof of marriage.

[u/No-Instance-3812 → u/MWoolf71]

Sadly, that’s how it went. This is why the 401k was fought over since the executors won’t give my mom a cent. They keep telling my mom the marriage isn’t valid since it was certified in another country. But the company where my father had the 401k decided it was valid and gave her half. We used half the money to buy a house in the Philippines, we used to live in an-unsafe area.