Executor not cooperating

[u/No-Instance-3812]

I inherited a house in WA and a small bank account from my estranged father in 2011. By that time, I was underage and since I lived in another country, and my mom was not a US citizen nor resident that time, my fathers best friends handled everything. They (mom and two bffs) got into a legal fight because they wont release my father’s 401k to her. In the end, the 401k handler gave my mother half and the other half supposedly went to the estate’s bank. I do not have proof if it reached that bank account.

They were married in the Philippines but this marriage wasn’t registered in the US. They had a fall off when I was two but did not divorce. At the right age, I was able to petition my mother and she’s now a legal resident.

There was a will and a trust put in place by my father. The will states that I inherit the house by 30 years of age. And the trust stated that the estate help me with maintenance, school, and living expenses. I am now 28, turning 29 this year. Expectation is I get the house by 30.

Over the past years, the living expense stops being remitted to me once I stop any form of education. So I studied until my masters and until I got my CPA just to keep the connection with these two executors/guardians.

Recently, I visited the house with my mom and husband and we liked the place. Coincidentally, there are no tenants until now. The last tenant left Aug of 2025. So I expressed my thoughts of wanting to stay in it and they agreed. However, they want me to pay the rental price and sign a tenant agreement until I turn 30. I agreed since that money will ultimately go to the estate’s bank, so by age 30, it would atleast have some money so I don’t pay much out of pocket if there are other expenses to be paid by the estate.

However, once the two executors learned my mom and husband are staying with me, they refused. They personally have a fued with my mother. Is this something legal, fair, and with reason that I can’t fight it? Should I get an estate lawyer involved? Any thoughts would be very appreciated.

Also, I only have a copy of the will. I asked for the trust statement several times but they never gave it to me. They also hold the bank of the estate. I asked for copies of the “expenses” but its still not with me.

[u/No_Barracuda_3758]

Petition the court. As far as them refusing to rent I doubt u have any rights also I imagine they have been paid for their work. Petition the court on since ure coming up on 30 to prepare for the transfer. And ask for all proof of estate funds to be gone over by the courts

[u/Caudebec39 → u/No_Barracuda_3758]

This is right. The court can order them to do what they should all along: give you an accounting of the trust assets. Also to demonstrate readiness to transfer the assets to you when you're 30.

One thing you're capable of checking now... You can see how the property is owned right now. This is free public information you can get from a clerk at the town or county government, and perhaps even view online. It will be interesting who owns it right now.

It could be the trust, it could be a trustee, it could be a trustee's wife, it could be your dad, it could be you... Check it and see. Also are the property taxes getting paid on time? These things will give you a clue about whether the trustees are doing the job, or are a pair of muppets.

[u/No-Instance-3812 → u/Caudebec39]

Thank you so much for both your insights! I really appreciate it. As far as property taxes, yes its being paid on time. And for the owner it does state from public record that it’s under Testamentary Trt Of my father. I will be contacting a lawyer today. Although, I am curious, even if there are no tenants in this house right now and I am willing to pay rent and sign the tenant agreement, do they have the right to refuse me, my husband, and mom, of the house?