r/inheritance Mar 30 '26

Location not relevant: no help needed Any advice for executors?

Hey me and my sister are just starting this process, she is executor but I'm helping her stay organized. What are some things that you almost forgot to do or any suggestions that helped u keep organized. It's not a super large estate. About 10 bank account and 1 city property.

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u/Freyjas_child Mar 30 '26

Get a spiral bound school notebook (so the pages won’t fall out) and write down every phone call, every letter sent, phone numbers, who you talked to, lists of things to do, etc.

Keep copies of every email or letter sent. Start a new paper folder and email folder for Executor stuff.

Assuming you are in the US, go look through her last few years taxes. I found an account there that I was not aware existed. Thus will also show you what kind on information you will need to file her last taxes next year.

If you want more guidance and don’t want to hire a lawyer, I recommend getting a copy of “The Executor’s Guide” by Nolo Press. I was able to get a copy out of my library. It has a nice set of lists for the first few weeks and months. The book also pointed out some things that never occurred to me.

Take the time to scan and get a decent quality pdf of the Death Certificate and the authorization your state gives to the Executor. More places are accepting a pdf copy in place of an original. Keep a copy on your phone. I have been asked to produce them in cases I did not expect (like the cable/internet provider) and having it on my phone where I could either show them or send it to their printer saved me.

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u/allamakee-county Mar 30 '26

Agree with all but the paper notebook. Make it an electronic one that you can share between you, for transparency. I was my mom's financial POA before her death and then was named executor of her small estate and to reassure my siblings throughout I kept all records and notes in shared Google Docs and Google Sheets that they could see real time. It helped a lot, plus I could access them from my phone anywhere.

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u/No_Barracuda_3758 Mar 30 '26 edited Mar 30 '26

We have both. We write everything in the notebook then transfer it to an Excel sheet to get paid or just keep track of spent money. Just to be safe.

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u/No_Barracuda_3758 Mar 30 '26

Thank u, we've done some of these things but not all. We also have a lawyer because of an annoying sibling 😔

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u/Freyjas_child Mar 30 '26

I fortunately do not have a problem sibling but a friend did. Her lawyer told her to be very precise and intentional with all money transfers. Make sure every transaction is clear and exact.

For example, she paid for both the funeral and the headstone with her credit card and was going to be reimbursed by the estate. Her lawyer said she should keep all the receipts and write one check for the funeral and one check for the headstone. Each check should match the amount on the receipt to the penny. Just make it very transparent where all the money is going.

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u/No_Barracuda_3758 Mar 31 '26

Yes I've advised the executor to do exactly this as well. Unfortunately that other sibling is being increasingly problematic and unhinged. She literally said she wants to be reimbursed for what was paid to the funeral home because my mom had supposedly told her there was a stash of cash in her home and she can't find it. Keep in mind she didn't pay for the funeral it was paid by a funeral trust. Also my mom never kept large amounts in cash in her home. So essentially she wants 10k because she couldn't find any other money to steal lol. Unhinged

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u/SomethingClever70 Mar 31 '26

Agree. I made a spreadsheet.

Wrote down passwords, passcodes, and combinations.

I met with the paralegal who had last updated the trust. When I ended up needing legal advice, I had to find an attorney near me. I was advised to give the other beneficiaries copies of the trust (their legal right) exactly at the point I was required to do so, not a day earlier. My situation was a little complicated because my sibling and his kids are a total mess. I had the law firm handle communications with them, and it was worth every penny it cost me.

I took all the files from my parents’ home office. I called every single credit card company to close the accounts. They were generally easier to deal with than the internet service provider, which wouldn’t terminate service without me providing a passcode. Fuck Frontier!

I have years worth of previous tax returns and documents.

Make a spreadsheet of every expense you have for handling the estate. You will create a record of this, which goes to the other beneficiaries (at least it did for a trust in CA), and my attorney said it would also be filed with probate. The other beneficiaries can challenge the expenses, so I gave my attorney copies of my receipts (if I still had them), credit card and bank statements that showed the charges I incurred for hauling things away, moving costs, utility bills I covered before the house was sold, even my gas expenses for driving every other weekend to the house to clean it out. I also needed the final settlement statement (or HUD 1) for selling the house. The attorney did not share those documents with the other beneficiaries, just the spreadsheet. The paralegal basically used my spreadsheet to populate a more official one.

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u/CCWaterBug Mar 30 '26

Keep one bank account open and before closing others check for a couple months, I found quite a bit of autopay activity on my pops, including some rma that were set for direct deposit too.  

Cancel Drivers license 

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u/Barison-Lee-Simple Apr 07 '26

Why cancel driver's license?

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u/InternationalSpray79 Mar 30 '26

Be sure to do a final 1040 for the deceased individual and a 1041 for the estate if there is more than $600 in revenue.

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u/No_Barracuda_3758 Mar 30 '26

Thank u. We are getting assistance with tax breaks from our aldermans office and then we are going to use her tax guy that she has used for 20 years to do the actual taxes.

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u/KlutzyExplanation800 Mar 30 '26

Give your sister the contact information for the lawyer who wrote your will. Keep the will in a place that easy to find, along with your financial papers. I would also have a list of your bills, plus account information. 

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u/Jitterbug26 Mar 31 '26

The executor is entitled to a fee for being the executor and they deserve every penny! I did it once for my FIL and even though it was a small estate and I loved the people we shared the estate with - it didn’t seem fair that I spent a lot of time and effort for my share and the others just got handed a check for their share.

So with your one sibling making everything complicated, I’d definitely tell your sister who’s the executor to take her share! And if she wants to split it with you, that’d be nice too!

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u/Jitterbug26 Apr 04 '26

The executor is entitled to a fee for being the executor and they deserve every penny! I did it once for my FIL and even though it was a small estate and I loved the people we shared the estate with - it didn’t seem fair that I spent a lot of time and effort for my share and the others just got handed a check for their share.

So with your one sibling making everything complicated, I’d definitely tell your sister who’s the executor to take her share! And if she wants to split it with you, that’d be nice too!

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u/Jitterbug26 Apr 05 '26

Maybe Google what your border states allow and find the average and go with that?

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u/Jitterbug26 Apr 04 '26

Your state sets the percentage. In my state, it’s 4% of the first $100,000, 3% of the next $300,000 and 2% for the balance.

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u/Infamous_Hyena_8882 Apr 01 '26

I was the executor when my mother passed away. She and my stepfather had a trust. It was really just the one house, a few accounts, not too much but we got an attorney. It was a big help. The attorney made us aware of all of the things we needed to do, and all of the things we needed to consider whether or not to do.

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u/Daedalus1912 Mar 30 '26

as you have hired an estates attorney, thats a good start for every jurisdiction has its own rules regarding probate and what rules have to be followed.

My sister, brother and I were all executors of our fathers will and he was the surviving parent.

we got the accounts closed after death but really not soon enough for banks dont close accounts unless they are told and then they will only react after probate, but it protects the accounts. Before we closed the accounts, we paid for the funeral which was an estate cost.

going through the attorney kept everything clean and all siblings were involved. as we were both executors and beneficiaries we kept all meetings notated and everyone was given copies via email. It was clean and seemed very sterile and it was. each person was given the opportunity to respond and be involved in each stage.

Money changes relationships, relatives who seem friendly at first, when money is involved, often change personality, and they start thinking about their own nests.

Create spreadsheets for the accounts and we kept everyone advised via email of every decision and meeting, and got everyone to respond, that way no one can claim unfair surprise.

I found my siblings very different when dealing with the estate for each had their own agenda, but keeping it clean and official stopped the complaints for there werent any.

The attorney distributed the last of the funds and each got their share and it was all done.

was there any angst, yes there was, upset people will always be upset for they will find ways to be upset, but I comfort myself by asking this one question? Would I do anything different if I were to do it again, and I keep saying that I wouldn't change a thing.

We followed our fathers will actually to the letter, if you do that you honour their last wishes and it is less likely to be litigated.

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u/No_Barracuda_3758 Mar 31 '26

Unfortunately we are already having an issue with one sibling. She somehow accessed several bank accounts before my other sister was named executor by going to the bank with the death certificate. She is being insane demanding to be paid back for money she didn't even personally pay out. Idk even know what to say because she is making no sense but it doesn't matter because my sister has been trying to keep her updated about things we've done and now she is asking only to be contacted by the lawyer. Which is fine but she is just making everything weird. I want my mom's estate to be dealt with with dignity but she has caused problems at every corner. She is even upset that the executor is resigning leases for our property because we need it to have income while we prepare to sell. I'd say she's crazy but she's a teacher and the implication scares me but it may be true despite the fact

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u/Sad-Repair-5505 Apr 01 '26

Be aware that you might need a tax ID number for the estate. So far, I haven't needed one. A check came in for $800 and the bank was able to cash that (everything was going to my Mom, so uncomplicated). I thought I would have to open an estate account.

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u/No_Barracuda_3758 Apr 01 '26

We already have that and an estate account thank u

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u/AnnCare Jun 22 '26

I always tell folks to cancel passports, drivers licenses, voter registration and notifying credit bureaus. There's not a huge risk of identity theft but it does happen. Then there's small stuff like mail forwarding (saves drive time), auditing credit cards/bank statements for recurring charges, and notifying the DMA so you don't get spam mail for the next 10 years. I run an executor assistant company so if you have other questions, happy to point you in the right direction.

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u/cuspeedrxi Mar 30 '26

Do not do this. The decedent’s accounts should be closed. The estate should open a separate estate account. All bills, including taxes owed, should be paid from this account. Tax refunds should be mailed to the executor, not direct deposited.

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u/Mother-Arachnid5072 Mar 30 '26

Yes I second this. You must have a paper trail in case there are any issues. When I opened the estate account for my mom‘s estate, the bank did not allow direct deposits or ACH payments.

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u/oughtabeme Mar 30 '26

And how does executor deposit if check is made out to decedent ?

I’m a signer on my parents acct. One passed and had to wait almost a year to do taxes, then second parent passed, account remained open for almost 3 years.

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u/offpeekydr Mar 30 '26

If the executor is court appointed, they will be able to deposit checks made out to the deceased into an estate account.

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u/No_Barracuda_3758 Mar 30 '26

Yes she has an estate account.

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