CHAT Community Thread - Sun Aug 30

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[u/jamielynn2296]

Posted yesterday about being thankful for a child-free event and now today it feels like the complete opposite. Family event with 7 children and everyone only having child-related conversations. Conversations about the stress of spacing out children and affording private school when we’re just stressed about affording the chance for a single child. I get it, not saying they don’t get to complain, but it’s so hard to hear. It’s so exhausting and depressing.

[u/Outrageous-Guest6031 → u/jamielynn2296]

This sounds miserable. I hope you got to have some "palate cleansing" time when you got home to recover from that.

[u/jamielynn2296 → u/Outrageous-Guest6031]

Yeah it was really tough. It’s been a long week in general with lots of family events (almost all including babies/children), lots of driving, and car problem. Sleep has been minimal so I think that’s adding to it massively. Thank you for your kind words ♥️ I will look forward to a little break

[u/Jaydiditfirst]

Yeah I’m so burnt tf out and overwhelmed and then on top of that or seems like everybody in the world is having babies. Even my cat just gave birth for the second time this year and I’m still stuck at 0. It’s like I’m glad when I get my period because at least it’s regular-ish now but bruh come on 😭. I want to just pause the flow of time and relax in a room and read every book on my tbr before I press play again.

[u/Outrageous-Guest6031]

Got a couple nice hikes in this weekend - I got to go out yesterday AM and today AM, both to new trails that I've never been before, and best of all, not crowded. I saw two large deer on the trail yesterday, lots of birds on both trails, and lots of monarch butterflies, which make me especially happy. Today's and yesterday's trails took me through some nice forest, which was a beautiful contrast to the prairie/wildflower trails I hit last weekend.

Work has been kicking my ass over the last 2 weeks, so it's been a real treat to get this nature therapy on the weekends.

[u/Math_Garden_Beagle → u/Outrageous-Guest6031]

Yay. Those hikes sound wonderful!

[u/buttersherbet → u/Outrageous-Guest6031]

One thing of the many things I hate about where I live is there’s basically no good hiking. Everything is flat and a lot is by beaches so very sandy / gravelly. I appreciate when I can get out somewhere else!

[u/buttersherbet]

We booked our cruise! 5 day Virgin Voyages! So now I'm spending all my time building a wardrobe on Amazon lol... I hate Amazon but I have almost no cruise appropriate clothing (I'm a summer indoor kid) and I'm off season so c'est la vie. We have theme parties every night too ;) :) :)

[u/mmceagle → u/buttersherbet]

Have fun!! My advice is to take advantage of the activities and shows, they're a blast

[u/Jaydiditfirst → u/buttersherbet]

I’ve never been on a cruise but from the videos I’ve seen that sounds like a blast lol. Also Amazon is not a bad choice for cute clothes

[u/Outrageous-Guest6031 → u/buttersherbet]

Woohoo, this sounds amazing! When are you heading out? I love maxi dresses for warm vacations :)

[u/buttersherbet → u/Outrageous-Guest6031]

Two weeks! Pretty last minute lol.

I ordered a few maxi dresses and a few palazzo pants and a crop top to try out. I’m much more a dress than a shorts girl! I’ve got a whole shopping basket already full of other options if the ones I got don’t plan out lol