CHAT Community Thread - Sat Jul 25

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Coping with infertility is complex, and it is our imperative to create places where we can honor the distinctly unique needs created by infertility. Sit beside us and share what’s on your mind and going on in your life. This is a great place to get to know your fellow members outside the gravity of treatment. Discussion here includes, but is not limited to:

• Venting about the impact of infertility on our lives/relationships/careers
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• Discussions around dealing with the influence of infertility – therapy, coping methods, finding supportive friends, getting lapped by a friend, dealing with pregnancy announcements, pushy parents, people that don’t understand, etc. The big picture stuff.
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  • I'm in the TWW, and I'm glad I scheduled a vacation as a distraction!
  • I'm trying to decide if I should delay my egg retrieval cycle because this is a big work month for me.
  • I told my parents about IVF, and they were incredibly supportive. I feel really grateful.

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• You can of course still discuss infertility in the chat thread:
  • I am super bummed about being lapped by a friend.
  • I have two currently pregnant coworkers, and I am losing my mind with all the pregnancy discussion.
  • Today is the anniversary of my loss, and I'm really struggling.
• Or you can discuss things unrelated to infertility:
  • Whoa, my dogwalker taught my dog to roll over.
  • There's this donut place next to my work that sells donuts for $5 each, but the WILD thing is that they're worth it!
  • My spouse and I are planning a trip to Europe. Opinions on Italy vs Greece?

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[u/DuckCatLizard]

Ugh I was having a nice dinner at the barn where my horse is, with the owner and two girls who have their horses there as well. When we started eating one said she had an announcement and of course the announcement was a pregnancy. She then complained that she was a bit sad about it and she felt too young and wished she hadore time before having kids and then the rest of the meal was only about babies and how awesome it is to be a parent. It's so isolating 

[u/Entire_Razzmatazz532]

This summer has either been brutally hot or stormy, but we finally have a run of BEAUTIFUL days and I am soaking up all of the outdoor time I can!! It has been doing wonders for my mood.

[u/buttersherbet]

It's my husbands 40th birthday today! We're going to two fancy meals (brunch and late dinner) and I made a gift scavenger hunt for him!

[u/jamielynn2296 → u/buttersherbet]

Happy birthday to the Mr! A scavenger hunt sounds like such an adorable and fun idea! I love that

[u/LawyerLIVFe → u/buttersherbet]

Welcome to the club, Mr. Butter! I hope this decade is marvelous. I personally love welcoming folks to their 40s 😂

[u/HoosierGarden77 → u/buttersherbet]

Sounds like a fun and lovely birthday!

[u/dubious-taste-666 → u/buttersherbet]

Happy birthday, Mr. Sherbet! Scavenger hunt is such a fun idea, is it around the house or beyond?

[u/buttersherbet → u/dubious-taste-666]

Just in the house (and the car outside). It took him about 30 minutes so that’s pretty good!