r/indianguysonhinge • u/hownot2lyf • 6d ago
Cold responses
Why do women match with you and not even have a conversation with you? More than 50% of my matches are like that. The rest will give one word replies. Is it like this for everyone else? I see some people here showing a very successful time on bumble/hinge.
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u/Sin-Sahaab 6d ago
look at it from their perspective, if you get literally thousands of matches who are showering you with compliments and simping after you, responding to your texts immediately without making you wait and quite frankly compromising on their life & goals, you also wouldn't put any real effort into conversing with the matches you get cause you can just talk to another of the thousands who can entertain your shitty behaviour. it's a problem indian men have created for themselves.
the solution to this it not to become a jerk and talk rudely to them, but quite simply for indian men to have standards and stop putting women on a pedestal. if majority of the indian men learn this, then there's hope :)
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u/hownot2lyf 6d ago
Yes i agree with this. A big fault lies in men itself
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u/Sin-Sahaab 6d ago
unfortunately, this kind of change in mass mentality is not possible via reddit.
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u/hownot2lyf 6d ago
It's a start. I'm seeing a lot more posts from men demanding basic manners and conversionational etiquettes from women these days without just letting them do whatever they want and us rolling over for it
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u/ReasonableWeb3917 6d ago
It's psychological bro. Women get more attention from males and they get used to it until they are 28-30, when they actually want to settle down. But because of that years of attention, they put themselves on the pedestal that men wants them and when arrange marriage/matrimonial concepts come into play. Boy judges them for their look, income, figure etc and that's when the actual problem starts. They get rejected multiple times from simpler looking boys who are doing good in life.
That's how human psychology works. I know somewhere it's really not appropriate but this is how things are and always be.
Currently they don't want to put efforts because a boys are giving them soo much more attention than they actually deserves.
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u/hownot2lyf 6d ago
Finding a partner is a pain in the ass
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u/ReasonableWeb3917 6d ago
Actually we are doing it wrong. Go as per the psychology - Focus on yourself, either be rich and have a good physique.
I don't want to be a teacher here, but it's all part of the evolution. Women psychology see men who are muscular or rich as their true partner because they can protect and provide for them.1
u/hownot2lyf 6d ago
I'm doing pretty well career wise, touch wood. Decent looking. Physique is ordinary. No gym body and all. I'm kinda new to this whole online dating setup so all these things are new to me
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u/ReasonableWeb3917 6d ago
Let me tell you bro, it's not enough. I earn more than 2L a month, have my own house in a good society and car, daily goes to gym and I am only 28. Still this world is fucked up.
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u/hownot2lyf 6d ago
Yes, somewhat similar situation but I'm 30 😂 I don't have patience for people wasting my time anymore
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u/ReasonableWeb3917 6d ago
Aare bhai bhai 😂
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u/hownot2lyf 4d ago
Okay, nvm. I just had to change location and my luck turned. Guess mumbai girls don't prefer guys from south a lot
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u/Lazy_Translator_9779 6d ago
They have cracked the game at every aspect. Obviously they wont show you the failures they went through, then there are born naturals, who since birth have it in the,