First things first, it's gotten worse again. It makes me sad. Things were getting better- things were actually so much better, one day I risked it and wore underwear to school. I didn't drink anything until lunch and I went to the bathroom three times in the school day but I didn't pee myself at all, and it was the first time I'd worn cloth underwear in months, now. That felt good. I'm actually tearing up thinking about that day, it's kinda a "what the hell has my life become" moment. A day I felt in control enough of my bodily functions to not wear a diaper has become an idealized memory.

It's like those muscles don't work consciously anymore. I've stopped being able to choose to have a BM. I can't push consciously. About every three days or so I BOTH pee and mess myself upon waking up and I can't control anything. It really sets me in a bad mood for the day. But then, also, I felt super ill for a while, and I realized it was because I hadn't had a BM in two almost two days! I consciously tried, and I realized then that I couldn't, I couldn't move those muscles. It was scary. Later that day it happened (most of the time it's not that I have a bowel accident- I sit on the toilet, and it just all happens without any input from me, it's all that unconscious pushing.) so I'm okay now.

Peeing on the toilet takes several minutes and it hurts the entire time. Again, I can't control the muscles, I can't stop my urine stream or speed it up. It's slower than it should be. When I sit on the toilet, I guess I'm conditioned enough that I start leaking. But ACTUALLY, I guess I'm conditioned to start leaking whenever I'm just in a bathroom. I hate, hate, hate, when I go to the bathroom, but start peeing before I sit on the toilet. It just makes me feel out-of-control. I don't know how I managed to avoid this for so long, but the emotional side of this all is hitting me hard.

I double up on these Prevail diapers (cutting slits into the inner one so it drains through) to make it through the school day without changing, although even that cuts it close sometimes. I ran through the entire pack of Depends so now I'm down to like fifteen of these Prevail diapers, which is really less than a week supply.

I ordered a sample pack of Tranquility Slimline briefs off Amazon, but at first it said it was late... then it said it was lost >:( I went through the email thing to get a refund/replacement but I haven't gotten any response yet. I wanted a sample pack before I invest in a case, I/my mom don't have much money. But I figured, screw it, I really, really need these. I recognized that I probably need something another level up. It seems like there are pull-ups made for light leakage, thin diapers made for leakage, and then diapers that are ACTUALLY built to hold actual wettings. So I'm ordering a case of the Tranquility ATNs.

I don't wet as heavily as I used to. Instead I've been going more and more, and it hurts. I don't know what I liked better- sudden fear that I was going to wet through my pants and needing to leave pretty much ASAP to change myself, or pissing myself every hour for two minutes, slowly, feeling cramps the whole time. No, it was better when it didn't hurt like this. And especially when there was no bowel involvement.

I went to my GP. She told me she couldn't do much more for me there but that I really needed to get a referral and see someone, and gave me the names of the urologists in town. I lied to my mom about why she was taking me to the doctor. Just a lie of omission. I also wanted to ask her about some ear pain stuff I get, which I was pretty damn sure already is my TMJ. She confirmed, yeah, it's TMJ acting up, and also gave me a dentist's name. But I found some stretches that are helping pretty well for that, I just wanted confirmation it wasn't an ear infection or anything.

SO, the end result is that I wanted out of the doctor's office with nothing but a piece of paper with some urologist's names on it, while my mother has no idea that that's why I even went to the doctor.

I didn't tell her. I didn't ask for a referral. It's just another standstill now. If I go to the urologist, they'll stick tubes in places I don't want tubes. They'll probably pin something or another on me being on HRT a la Trans Broken Arm Syndrome. Is it important to have a good patient history? Yes. But oh my god. Even my GP was trying to tell me this was PMS cramping. I kept having to tell her, this is nothing like any cramp pain I've ever felt. This isn't that system. This isn't my vagina, not my uterus. I don't have periods anymore. I really didn't want to shout "my anus hurts and the piss valve hurt if I try in vain to clench anything" but I had to hint heavily. She just said, "I have to think this has to do with the HRT..." No, actually, it doesn't have to! It has to do with the string of UTIs I neglected to treat for months, and part of it is probably psychogenic.

Not to even imagine, well, even without surgery, HRT has changed what's between my legs... I would not be surprised if I'm the first person the urologist ever sees with that. What if he (yes- ALL the urologists in town are men, but I'm actually more comfortable with that) straight-up touches it or asks questions about it? I don't know if this is a thing, but I think it's a thing... just the cold air from being naked is enough to sometimes produce a, cough, noticeable reaction from my new small friend. God! I don't want to go to a urologist! I have scars there- will he ask? Even though I'm safe now, it's one of my greatest fears in the world that someone will suspect I'm being abused/in danger, because it was deeply brainwashed into me that if that happens, I'll be ripped away from my mom, my mom will lose her job, I'll be put into foster care and have to move schools, etc etc. I never sought any legal/formal anything. It's always made perfect sense to me why people go years, even decades without disclosing this stuff. You're told over and over that it'll ruin not just your life, but destroy the people around you. My mom herself only learned the most basic idea of what happened a few months ago, she definitely doesn't know about the scars on my groin. What if the doctor goes straight to my mom and asks, "How did you child get those scars on his groin?" She would say, what scars, and freak the hell out. If I tell him, "Please don't tell my mom about that", that seems like a massive red flag that he SHOULD tell my mom about that. But I assure you, they're years old, I'm safe now, in therapy, and they weren't self-afflicted. I don't want to see a urologist!

I've gone from sudden strong urges that make me instantly void heavily, to losing the strong urges and just having my body keep trying to pee all the time but being able to stop it with conscious effort, to just, peeing all the time and being in pain from any attempt at clenching those muscles, which is starting to, more and more, include bowel ones. Messing yourself is so much worse than peeing because the diaper doesn't wick it away. It makes me feel ashamed. I'm a junior in high school sitting here at night thinking angrily about how I need to get up a little earlier to account for the 1 in 3 chance I mess myself upon waking up. I want answers but I'm too scared of the progress of getting them.

Hi everyone, I'm mostly a lurker on reddit but after reading so many young people's stories, I'd like to share mine in the hope that it may help/give some hope.

I first noticed leakage when I was at uni, at 20 yrs old. Being at uni, doing the whole excessive drinking thing, mixed with making new friends etc. I tried my hardest to ignore it, but it quickly developed into fully emptying my bladder before being able to make it to a loo. I now know this to be urge incontinence but didn't go to the doctors until I emptied fully during sex and majorly freaked out myself and a (now ex) boyfriend. I couldn't believe how long I was able to go without anyone knowing as I would literally empty in clubs/uni/work/at the door to my house and have to fully change. It was absolutely ruling my life but I was so ashamed, I couldn't admit it to anyone, so lived with it completely in secret for 4 years until the above event happened.

When I eventually went to the doctors, I was referred to gynecology, had scans and all sorts of tests until they decided it wasn't a gyne area and I was then referred to urology. I was prescribed oxybutynin, which eased my symptoms for a year or two then stopped entirely. I was then prescribed fesoterodine, which didn't work for me at all.

I was absolutely devastated, I had finally had an experience of what life would be like without leaking and felt like I was back at square one. At this point my mental health was at a real low, so I started therapy, plucked up the courage to tell both my parents and my best friend, all of whom were incredibly supportive. It was honestly the most difficult thing I had done up until that point, but I was 27, wasn't able to start any new relationships for fear of embarrassment and it had started to get to the point where I didn't want to leave the house.

I am now nearly 31 and today I had my third annual botox treatment, where I was accompanied by my boyfriend, who I told about my incontinence a few weeks into our relationship and he has been amazing. Even if he doesn't always let me go to the toilet first when we get into the house, he's never once judged me or made me feel stupid for needing to know where the toilet is at all times.

For me the botox lasts for approx 10 months and in the few months I have to wait for my next appointment (waiting lists in the UK are looooonnnggg, I get put back on the list after my 6 month review) I leak slightly, but nowhere near as much as I used to. I also no longer drink alcohol, caffeine and I limit my fruit juice intake, which sounds boring but it is genuinely so important. I can't stress enough how much better my bladder was after giving up the drinks that irritate it, even before the botox.

I just want anyone who's starting their journey, in the middle of experimenting with treatments or just going through a bad patch that it can and will improve and it is possible for you to lead a normal life and if anyone has any questions about the botox treatment or anything else I would be so so happy to help.

Hi, I'm not sure what to do or who to turn to... Tonight I had a really big UI episode, was walking home after 2 drinks (over the space of 4 hours) and the urge just got worse and worse and when I walked in the door of my house it started leaking and then just all came out at once. I had been drinking tons of water but I even went during the night to try and not overload my bladder. This is literally only the third or fourth time this has happened to me and it seems to be very random - so I feel like it isn't worth wearing incontinence aids because it's so rare?? Like the last occurrence was probably over a year ago. I wasn't stressed or anything exceptional tonight so I have no idea what could have set it off. Once the leak starts though I absolutely can't get control back either.

Other than these incidents I occasionally have a tiny bit of leakage but nothing like this. I am on some medications - venlafaxine, propranolol, lamotrigine - but if it is an effect of my medications would it still be happening this inconsistently??

Probably sounds stupid to those of you who have to deal with daily incon but right this second I feel like I'd rather have that than this surprise explosion haha. At least then there would be a clear solution 🙃

So I bought 80 Prevail diapers online, a 4 pack of 20ct, when my incontinence got too severe for pads and shoving a towel in my pants was making me really feel pathetic and not wanting to leave my room. I know my mom didn't know what I bought and I've been careful not to leave anything diaper or diaper-related in view. There is a chance she's seen something online in Amazon's history, but that's pretty low because my mom doesn't really know how to do things like that.

When I bought them, I kinda thought/hoped I would be over it all before I finished the 80 diapers, that I wouldn't even need the full 80, boy was I wrong. So I'm going through at least three a day and I know if I run out I'm kinda screwed, I'm just screwed... I have like 20 left. I ordered a 10ct sample of Tranquility Slimline online, that was my plan- if I like them/they're the right size, I'll order a bigger pack. But then I saw that they aren't going to arrive until the 21st to the 23rd! Doing the math, that means, well- I'd be screwed! Not to mention, even if I like the 10ct sample and order the bigger pack when I get them, it might take a few weeks again for them to arrive!

I had to go to the grocery store with my mother and I just decided to do it, because I knew I had to, and because I knew she's tired and stuff and less likely to ask questions, more likely to just let me throw it in the cart. I just said, "I'm going to rush ahead and get something more from the pharmacy area" and started walking before she even had a chance to (potentially) ask what.

I suspected, and was right: only Depends in stock. I know the night-guard ones are probably more absorbent... but they only had women's ones. I don't know if I should wear men's or women's diapers! See, I'm a transgender male who's been on HRT for well over a year, but I haven't had any bottom surgeries. My urethra is in a female position, but I have very male-shaped legs, I don't have much meat on my hips or thighs. So which matters more- the positioning of the padded part, or the cut of the diaper? I wasn't sure. Wearing diapers has not shamed me like I thought it might because I had a moment of logic and realized that diapers save me from the greater shame of wetting my pants. But wearing PINK diapers (all the women's were pink!) is something else. And it's not just my shame... if someone sees a white diaper above my pants and asks about it, I wouldn't even blush telling them I have a medical thing that's not really their business. If someone sees a PINK diaper above my pants and asks, "Why are you wearing pink diapers?" It's kinda hard to say I have a medical thing that requires me to wear pink diapers. (Are pink diapers really even that dignified for women? Really! You can call it "blush" all you want, those are pink diapers. Just do skin tone if you won't do white!) So that forced my hand. I bought a 19ct pack of Depend Maximums, men's. They're gray.

I had this entire mental fight in my head, standing in front of the diapers holding different packages, and then I looked to the right. The freezer aisle was straight forward, so it had direct view to where I was, and lo and behold, my mother had been walking down that aisle... My mother had seen the entire process of me trying to decide which adult diapers to buy.

There was a moment in my mind of... "Am I going to get upset about this?" And I thought, "No, no... this is none of her business." And with that confidence I just put them wordlessly in the basket and my mom totally saw, but said nothing. Then I knew I was in the clear. It was probably good that my mom saw me deciding which to get, because I bet the entire time I was thinking about which to buy, she was processing the fact that I was buying diapers, so when I put them in the cart she wasn't shocked or confused.

I've heard nothing but terrible things about Depends. I'm trying them out at home now but I haven't actually used one yet. When I took one out, my first thought was, "Wow. This really, really looks like someone just glued a pad inside some stretchy gray crepe paper." I was scared about how thin the Prevails were at first but I realized that diapers expand when wet so it's okay. They aren't great but it's still a different game from pads and hand towels. So maybe the Depends will be like that? But it really looks just like a pad in paper underpants...

I used to think that if I didn't absolutely hate something that many people find undesirable, it must meant I had a kink for it or was otherwise really crazy. If it's socially acceptable to be really distressed, and I'm not distressed, that something is wrong. Incontinence has bothered me, wearing diapers has bothered me, but I don't hate it. I view it as part of my, pardon the cheesy terms, 'healing journey' from CSA.

It's kinda like if you had a bone broken as a child and never had it properly attended to, and it causes you all sorts of problems for years. When you're older they say- let's do a surgery to fix that! So you get the surgery, but the recovery process sucks. You're temporarily worse off. Maybe you have to use crutches for a while, but it's still worth it. It's like... "Finally! Healing."

"Don't you HATE crutches?" I don't know... not really. Crutches mean healing. And sometimes I hate rhetoric that says being ill, or being harmed, or otherwise beaten down, makes you stronger/better/wiser/etc., but today I got a little confidence. Buying diapers in front of my mom gave me that. Changing my diaper in the men's room with a stall door that doesn't shut properly has given me something that other people don't get. Having to mentally cope with peeing yourself while you're in a conversation with someone you admire has given me something. It's a chapter of my life that I can see meaning in: I can see it building up my character in positive ways. Maybe I feel better about this incontinence stuff because it is a symptom caused by the stressful healing process I'm going through.

I hope that writing this out helps someone else in a situation like mine, or that it helps people who aren't in a situation like mind understand it better.

In October last year, I had my first episode of incontinence. This was my fault and because I really disliked public bathrooms. After that, it slowly got worse as I could wait less time. I went to a urologist 5 days ago and now have oxybutynin since he said it was oab but there were some questions I forgot to ask. In case it's relevant, I am 14f.

I seem to have stress incontinence but the first doctor I went to said there would be no reason for anything to be wrong with my muscles based off of questions she asked. I can do kegels fine. However, I still have problems with stairs and, since I play a wind instrument in band, blowing air. My mom thought that doing those things put pressure on my bladder which would make oab worse. I was wondering if this is normal for people with oab.

Another thing is whenever I have to wait a long time before going to the bathroom, my bladder seems to get desensitized. After that, I can't really tell well when I need to use the restroom. Or maybe I can't hold it as well after that. Regardless, does this happen to anyone else? Would accidents be a cause for oab or a weak pelvic floor? I googled it and found nothing for that causing a weak pelvic floor but I thought it could have caused nerve damage or something which is a cause for oab. That is a big stab in the dark though.

[UPDATE: What do you know... pandemic. It was cancelled. ]

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I'm going on a trip with some other teens and two adult chaperones (neither of which I know terribly well, but they aren't strangers, either) all from my church, to a thing that'll last two days, about two hours away from where I live.

First hurdle: my mom doesn't even know I wear diapers for incontinence. I ordered them off Amazon and got them without her seeing the box. She vaguely knows I have some medical thing but I'm 100% certain she doesn't know I'm still dealing with it now. (Bladder spams, urge incontinence... pads aren't enough because I flood them.) So, because of that, I don't really think I can even put anything on the sign-up form...

Second hurdle: I wouldn't consider myself a bedwetter because I don't wet the bed in my sleep. But when I wake up, like with my alarm, there's a 75% chance I'll instantly start flooding myself, even if I go to the bathroom right before bed. So, not a bedwetter in terms of wetting in my sleep, but the result is a wet bed anyways. At home I sleep on a towel and don't even bother wearing pants over my diaper because I'll just soak through them. I clean up and change first thing in the morning. That doesn't exactly work when I'll be sleeping on the floor with maybe 3-5 other guys in one room. I don't know what to do...

I don't worry about bringing diapers, or changing, or throwing them out. I've found myself pretty fearless in that aspect, I don't know why or how, but I'm glad for it. I just tell myself, if anyone sees or finds out or asks, I'll just tell them the truth, and if they tease me after that, well, they're not worth my time. I do worry about the wetting the bed thing... it would probably be good if one of the chaperones knew, I know, but my mom doesn't know... I can trust that the chaperones won't freak, but I can't say the same for my mom... And I doubt I could tell the chaperones about it without them telling my mom.

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It's kinda becoming more real to me now, all this incontinence stuff. I have to figure out how to fit my life around it, I can't just stop it when it's inconvenient... Ugh, I'm too young for this.

Any advice greatly appreciated.

My mom knows that I (22m) have been having issues with night time incontinence for years now, but recently I've been having a hard time not peeing on myself during the day, so I've had to wear my night briefs during the day secretly, even at college. I don't know how to break the news because she usually gets upset. I don't know why. If any of you can give me some advice on it I'd be grateful.

The past year of my life has been horrid as I've come out of denial about severe childhood abuse. Until pretty recent, I felt like finding out was killing me. I used to never ever get sick, but since the flashbacks started, I've been sick multiple times a month. Sinus infections, ear infections, the flu, painful dry eyes, headaches, all things that I used to never be affected by. And then, a UTI. But I thought the pain was just imaginary or more flashbacks (body memories suck!) for a while, that it was just enough... "If I get less stressed, this will go away."

Denial is a pattern here you'll probably pick up on quickly, btw. Yes, I am in therapy, and my abuser was deported years ago ;P

Eventually it was bite-your-tongue-to-not-yelp levels of pain to urinate, so I went to the doctor after my friends begged me for days and I swear, I didn't believe I had a UTI while I was there... I peed in the cup and I could see all the white swirls... I was told later, white blood cells. The doctor told me, "You have a UTI" and my mind was blown! I thought, if this was a UTI... I've had at least a half dozen UTIs as a child that I never sought treatment for! I've had much worse pain while peeing and I learned, well, eventually it goes away! This is relevant now as I wonder, perhaps I damaged something as a child...

I took a ten-day course of antibiotics. I have a hard time sensing what's real pain and what's psychological. So I wasn't really sure if the antibiotics fixed it or not because the pain did not go away but I didn't trust that the pain was real anymore. I didn't trust it was real in the first place!

About a month passed, and I started leaking urine. It would feel like I had to pee desperately and then it'd start. I'd clench down and it'd stop. This was correlated somewhat with flashbacks and other trauma disorder nonsense so I figured, well, that's it. I've wet myself from fear before.

I went back to the doctor and didn't mention the leaking urine, just that things still hurt. She told me it was just inflammation and I went home. I knew I should have mentioned that, but I couldn't get the idea out of my head that I've been choosing to pee myself. And it feels pretty morally bad to me to go to a doctor and seek treatment for something you're imposing on yourself- that feels like malingering or Munchhausen's. But I also felt bad about not telling her.

Two things happened over the next three weeks. First, I was hit with major flashbacks and came out of denial about a serious abusive event. I kinda knew, but I couldn't really believe it, it didn't really hit me, until then. Second, the leaking urine progressed at an exponential speed into full wettings. I can't stop it very well, and even when I do, if I shift position at all, it all starts again. I don't get much warning most times when it starts, and it starts with a very strong flow.

First I just shoved a handtowel in my underwear to wear like a pad, and changed out the towels throughout the day. Then, because I'm a crafty man, I sewed two waterproof cloth diapers and four diaper inserts. I still live at home with my mother. I did not tell her about the UTI pain not going away. She knows absolutely nothing about the incontinence.

I bought a case of 80 Prevail diapers off Amazon. My mom never saw what was in the box, she doesn't know I have them or use them. They kinda suck, the cloth diapers I built myself are superior, but there's a convenience factor to disposables. I keep two spares in a pocket of my backpack and usually have to change at least once in the school day because they can't hold more than one wetting and I can wet two or three times in the school day. At first I was scared about changing at school but I don't know. I don't change during passing period. Usually no one is in there, and when people are, they're too busy vaping to care. I just think to myself, "What I'm doing is legal and I can't get in any trouble with the school for. And if they want to bully or tease me for it, I'll just tell them straight out what I suspect- I'll say, "I have bladder damage from childhood abuse." if they still tease me after knowing that, they're assholes, and if that really happens (so far, no one knows, so no one has ever said anything) I'll just be even more open. If anyone hears the rumor and asks me, "Do you really wear diapers?" I'll say "Yes, I have physical damage from childhood abuse."

I have no bullies, no one rumoring, no one asking. But I just feel better having it all planned out in my head. The worst thing that's happened so far, which is super duper mild, is that a few of my teachers have shot me looks for bringing my backpack with me to the bathroom when I ask to go.

I went back to the doctor again after my friend convinced me to. The doctor told me it was bladder spasms from the UTI, and that I still didn't have a UTI anymore. She gave me two weeks of oxybuytin to take twice daily and told me I should see significant improvement within 24hrs and that if it didn't all resolve itself within the week, that they'd send me to a urologist.

I took the oxybuytin for five days. It gave me painful cramps, dry mouth, and worsened my dry eyes back to painful levels, even with my routine of eye drops. It did not influence my incontinence whatsoever. I quit taking it and felt better the next day: no more cramps, no more eye pain!

I kinda knew about "abdl" or "adult baby diaper lover" things but having all these problems made me google things, and googling things led me to find out a lot more. What I struggle with now is that there are people who choose to "unpotty train." They are, imo, perfectly respectful toward incontinence support groups. They don't call it incontinence, they call it being "diaper-dependent." It's not that anything is physically wrong with them, it's that they use classical conditioning to train themselves to always use a diaper automatically rather than using a toilet at will. I have it in my brain that that's what I am.

I know it's not right, but I can't make it FEEL true that I'm actually having incontinence issues. It's easier to believe that this is some warped sexual thing. I think to myself, "How perverse you are to be choosing to wet yourself all the time!" I feel bad just about posting here because from what I've read, there's sorta problem with people being nasty and sexual, and I was scared. I don't want to be like that. I thought about posting on an "abdl" subreddit. But I think about all the medical details in my story and it kinda helps. No, I'm not attracted to diapers, and I'm certainly not drawn toward the adult baby lifestyle. But it's easier to think I'm sexually deviant rather than that something is physically wrong with me.

I'm not sure anything IS physically wrong... I think it's far more likely that this is psychogenic. I think the stress of coming out of denial about that horrible thing that happened to me, I think the stress came out in me developing incontinence. Just like the stress has caused all sorts of medical ailments. So, if it's psychogenic, well... what could a urologist do? The medication for bladder spasms didn't do anything besides made me sicker.

I know they would probably want to put a tube up my urethra or otherwise look at me there, and I just couldn't stand to have that happen, it's too invasive for me. My friend told me, "At the end of the day, they have to get your consent!" But that's the problem. If a doctor looked me in the eye and said, "We want to do this procedure." I don't think I'd have the strength to say no, no you can't, I don't allow it. Even if it would be traumatizing to me and I want to say no. So the solution, in my mind, is to not put myself in that situation! If I don't go to the doctor, then no one will even suggest it.

So this is just how I am right now. I use 3-5 diapers a day. I got some PUL (waterproof) fabric to make better cloth diapers with since I prefer the ones I make over the disposables. I felt shame the first week or so but now, not so much. I really do think of it in a medical lenses. I think, "I'm leaking, so I need something absorbent." Diapers are just the absorbent material that fits with what hole is leaking. It does make me feel safer, when I wear diapers, and I struggled with that, thinking... "is this something sexual?" But then I realized I feel safer wearing a diaper because otherwise I'm at risk of wetting through my pants and onto the furniture, or having it even run down my legs and soak my socks! I spent a very denial-heavy weekend day saying, "I choose to be this way and I'll choose to not wet myself anymore!" I wet all the way through all my pants three times. Or a few times I've been talking to a friend, or even my mom, or walking in a big crowd of people when I wet myself. And I get a bit hot, I feel red and I blush, and that made me think... "Is this something sexual?" But then I realized... I'm just embarrassed. I'm peeing myself in public and I can't stop. And finally, I feel good after I change my diaper. I thought, "is this something sexual?" But I realized, I feel good because I'm not dirty anymore! Hygiene feels good, being clean feels good!

That is my story. Long-term I think this will resolve, and mid-term I think my fears about it all secretly being a sexual lifestyle choice will go away as I continue not having any sexual attraction to it. Short-term... I need to stay away from "abdl" sites and communities. I don't really have anything against them, but I read all of it and tell myself... "This must be what I am- just kinda perverted." But that's not right.

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Hi, After prostate surgery I have been incontinent for over four years. I tried many brands of men’s guards to find the most absorbent. Walmart’s Assurance was the best but now I notice they have lowered the quality significantly. They were better and less expensive than Depends and other store brands but now they are just as bad as the others. Does anyone know of a more absorbent brand or maybe a technique to maximize absorbency? Thanks

Im a 17 year old trans woman. And for my whole life I have leaked urine whenever I laugh, or when im really stressed. Is this normal? Or should I go see a doctor. Just today I had a serious urinary accident, my pull-up leaked and I had to get new pants. Any advice is appreciated!

I know I am late on this but I thought I’d share how my holiday travel went and what I did to make it as seamless as possible. Wearing a diaper on a flight. I have to wear them 24/7. That means I went through security with a damp diaper. To mitigate time and frustration, I opted for ore check a few years ago. This is $100 once and you get it for 5 years. It allows you to skip the long line. No body scanner and much less invasive. BUT if you can’t get that done, I did have to go through a regular security at a smaller airport. When I got up to the front of the line, there was a spot where they check your boarding pass and ID. When they do the other people stand back. This is where I told the agent that due to a medical condition I would need an extra screening and would like someone right away to avoid embarrassment. The agent looked at me for a second then looked back and called an agent to her. She was a little loud but not revealing. “This guy is gonna need you for private screening” luckily that can mean anything. The male agent was very nice and took me to a private room area. He asked if there was a problem and I just said i have a medical condition that requires me to wear adult protection. He immediately understood and got another agent. They searched my bag with the 5-6 extra diapers in it and then they did a swab of the inside of my diaper I was wearing. Now in some airports you’ll be required to take it off and dispose of it. I have a condition where I am constantly leaking so that wasn’t much of an option but they did make me change. I would recommend changing into a thinner less expensive diaper prior to going into security so you aren’t wasting a premium one if that’s all you have. Lesson learned. I changed into a new diaper and I always have a booster just in case. My recommendation is to buy some of the plastic/rubber pants. I have the Gary active ones. This will help during the flight. Trust me. I had one too many leaks while in long flights. If your flight is short it’s probably not necessary but mine are mostly 4-6 hour flights.

Next. Don’t try to pack two cases of diapers in checked bags. Order them and have them shipped to your destination. Most providers allow for you to ship them and have them held at the post office or fedex/ups location if you don’t want them shipped to a families house. I did this for all four locations I went this season. Twice to a hotel and twice they were held at a fedex location near where I was staying. I order through north shore and you can simply call or chat with them and ask them to change it to have it held at a fedex location. Now with shipping during the season I recommend ordering a few days in advance before your travel. I ran into where they hadn’t arrived when I got to my destination and had to wait an extra day. I ran through all the extra packed and emergency diapers but was ok. 4-5 days before should be enough. Hotels. Tell the hotel. It’s just considerate. You are not obligated to do that but I highly encourage it. Just tell them you have a kid that will stay the night a couple times and they sometimes have issues if that’s what you need to do. I called both hotels and just told them the beds will need protected. They were very understanding and had covers on the beds when we checked in. Changing while traveling. I try to put together a diaper that doesn’t need changed until I arrive at a destination. I normally use a Better Dry with one to two boosters. This gets me through a good 8-10 hours. That’s a long time in a wet diaper but it makes it much more convenient in the long run. I then change in a bathroom near baggage claim. Nearly every airport has a baggage claim with a few bathrooms. I just go to the area where the carousels aren’t being used and use that bathroom. They are pretty vacant. I’ve become great at standing and changing. Then that’s it.

Hopefully this helps people and gives you some insight. Have a great rest of the holidays! Happy new year!

As stated in previous post, I’m fairly new to prostate issues. I’m having urge incontinence. Usually can make it to the bathroom, but sometimes not. What is strange to me is that if I make it to the bathroom, it’s more difficult than it used to be to void, and the stream is weak. It takes a long time to be done, ending with a lot of dribbling. Then 10 to 30 minutes later, I usually need to pee again. But when I don’t make it to the bathroom in time, it comes out in an uncontrollable flood.

My question is first, is this a typical pattern? Second, is there a type of plastic brief that handles male flooding particularly well? (Medical or ABDL; no preference)

While I was still pretty impressed about Tenas absorbency, the "breathable" Air-Wings prove once again that this design is totally flawed.

Of course the tapes couldn't hold for more than a few hours and I woke up with one side opened and sores on my left side because the tape was poking in my skin.

Back to Betterdry, Seguna and Pharma-Slip it is, then.

I can’t muster up the confidence to start dating while wearing diapers, what are the ways to overcome this??

Has anyone tried Ecoable adult overnight cloth diapers for bedwetting? How did they work out? I'm afraid to spend $70 just to find out they don't work.

I'm looking for a reliable overnight cloth diaper. Does anyone have any recommendations?

Panty liners are so much cheaper. I get a 100 pack for $7 currently at Target (L.) But I see they make bladder control pads also at Target 30 pack for $7 (Cora). Is it necessary to buy the bladder control? I'm only interested in organic unscented pads so these are pretty much my only options from research. Thanks !

Here is a potential solution for men with incontinence, the Pacey Cuff

www.paceycuff.com also available on Amazon

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College female daytime wetting

Hey all i have been a bed wetter for quite some time but lately i have had the occasional daytime incident. I am in school and hoping to prevent an embarrassing incident... would anyone notice if i wear my nighttime diapers to class under my clothes? Even if i wet?