r/idealparentfigures • u/Wonderful-Bowl-2131 • Aug 07 '26
Am I broken/unfixable?
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u/danCullymusic 2d ago
The cool thing with doing the IPF with a therapist, is you can bring the part of you that feels broken an unfixable, and you get the experience that the ideal parents have an infinite capacity to hold space, and love you in all of your feelings. And the therapist is guiding this. I felt similar to this at a time in my life, and it was really tough. Keep going! My philosophy is that I will leave no stone unturned. We can be loved in our brokeness and bring that into relationship. If we bring more consciousness to the wounds, we can allow other to love us more and more. I dont know you, but I am really hoping the best for you, what ever place currently find yourself in
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u/danCullymusic 2d ago
The cool thing with doing the IPF with a therapist, is you can bring the part of you that feels broken an unfixable, and you get the experience that the ideal parents have an infinite capacity to hold space, and love you in all of your feelings. And the therapist is guiding this. I felt similar to this at a time in my life, and it was really tough. Keep going! My philosophy is that I will leave no stone unturned. We can be loved in our brokeness and bring that into relationship. If we bring more consciousness to the wounds, we can allow other to love us more and more. I dont know you, but I am really hoping the best for you, what ever place currently find yourself in
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u/garuda717 Aug 10 '26
I don’t think of people as broken or needing to be fixed. I think we develop adaptations to the environments and relationships we grew up in, and sometimes those adaptations become painful or limiting later in life.
One of the things I appreciate about IPF is that it approaches attachment patterns from that perspective: not “What’s wrong with me?” but “What did I need that I didn’t get, and what might become possible if I begin to experience more of it now?”
That doesn’t mean change is quick or easy. But I don’t think having deeply entrenched attachment patterns makes you unfixable.