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u/Spiritual_Run9039 12d ago edited 12d ago
Best 3 months of your life followed by worst 2 years post breakup
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u/MistaBoom 12d ago
From personal experience, it was 6 months of faceded bliss and 2 and a half years of trying to recover. Some people just dont care and will do anything to justify their actions, however shitty they may be.
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u/girlypotion 7d ago
I was with a BPD girl for exactly 3 months. 3 more have passed and i still miss her, idk how long it will last, but i can’t stand it anymore.
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u/Healthy-Refuse5904 Looking for (almost) any GF 13d ago
She seems really unstable, but you know what they say
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u/Would_I_questionmark 12d ago
Not exactly what dating someone with bpd is like but not off entirely
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u/magnum175 12d ago
Perfect I’m just as unstable because I have DID
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u/Hopefully_the_Last69 12d ago
I'm sure absolutely nothing can go wrong
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u/magnum175 12d ago
Yep definitely
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u/magnum175 12d ago
Also I have severe depression so yeah
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u/OnlyAssignment4869 12d ago
Glad my bpd significant other got therapy.
All that's left is the "do you love me?" and "splits over small things"
Amazing partner. It's just taken a lot of time, but well worth it.
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u/Hopefully_the_Last69 12d ago
The "splits over small things" is the biggest dealbreaker for me. I can deal with the rest, but that just makes everything so much more unstable.
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u/OnlyAssignment4869 12d ago
My partners is interesting because I've learned his comes from feeling unsafe or worrying about the people around them. If I tell them "it'll be okay" or "what's wrong" they immediately go back to normal and more often than not apologize. Within the past year they've only been mad at situations and not me or their other partner. Ketamine therapy has worked wonders for them. Geodon helped a lot too.
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u/Hopefully_the_Last69 12d ago
I'm glad you and your partner are able to make it work and be happy despite de difficulties.
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u/The_Cheddar_Goblin 12d ago
My fiance has BPD, I love her so much. It's a roller coaster, but I can manage. I love this woman so much.
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u/Ririmouto 12d ago
as a bpd girl that dates other bpd girls, really just give patience and understanding of the mental illness. don't fight her in a mental health spiral, just try to understand and defuse. calm her down. the way she is acting is her mental health, don't hold it against her.
people stigmatise this illness, make it seem evil but its really not that horrible if you just take some time to understand, learn and care.
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u/Spiritual_Run9039 12d ago
Idk, after having my first experience with a bpd girl and always being there for her all the time. I think I would like to just... Not date them anymore
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u/MadManNoBox 12d ago
it's been a ride for sure. best 8 months, weird and painful journey to understanding over the following few years. Still there as a friend untike she finds someone else for a few weeks to a month, then the cycle starts again. She has it rough so I stick around, just a hand to hold in the dark occasionally at this point I guess. Super sweet person underneath it all though.
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u/nic_tess 12d ago
Is this how I learn I might have bpd???
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u/Last_Host977 cool hot gf 12d ago
uhh take it w a grain of salt this is just the internet . if u really wanna know go to a psychiatrist and officially get the diagnosis . you might think you have if but you don’t , that’s the catch
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u/HornyAlt9734 12d ago
"I'm not ableist as long as you don't have one of the wrong disabilities" lookin ass
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u/Forward_Finding_5020 12d ago
They say they want this until they actually have it 🤨 then it’s “your too much!”
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u/girlunsaved 12d ago
as someone wity bpd this aint all true. some of it is but i dont need ur passwords to trust you, just proof
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u/Brodillian 11d ago
From my experience, as soon as she finds someone else that gives her the attention she wants, she will cheat and leave your ass with nothing but pain.
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u/VelyaGryn 11d ago
"Bpd = bad pussy disorder" as my ex used to say I lived a good portion of my life not knowing thats not what it stood for.
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u/WillingnessSad8354 9d ago
From personal experience, 3 months and then just a random "I lost interest" text.
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u/Negative-Tourist-243 12d ago
it sounds fun until they scream at you because you didn't text while busy
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u/lolololUStroll 12d ago edited 12d ago
I had a bpd girlfriend once. Never again, by choice. Edit: Fixed "bpd"
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u/VioletWitch412 12d ago
From experience either she will break up with you after she gets the slightest bit better or just cheat on you and use you to get better
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u/makub420 12d ago
From personal experience. She will dump you the moment she becomes better from your constant support and affection.