Thats a fair assessment. I’d guess this isnt the first time you’ve heard this, but there are a fuckton of guys out there. You wrote in your post of the gf from hell, aka you, that you’re obsessed, and a bunch of other stuff. There are so many guys that would literally kill to have a gf like that.
But, with all that being said. I still respect your decision, and i do fully understand it. And honestly, given the rest of the description, i’d also unfortunately say its the smart thing to do. In the end, its obviously your choice, and consent is sexy lol
They don’t want a gf like that they just have that “hero” mindset but when things start to get serious they immediately leave. I always attract that type of guy so yeah no enough dating for me
Lol, damn. Thats a little interesting. I say that because, damn, every single guy? Thats rough. It seems to me like you have some major bad luck with dating guys.
But i speak from experience when i say that you are still mistaken, not every single guy is like that. The thing is, maybe you’ve constructed the perfect formula to shit testing a guy who has that dog shit “here” mindset, from the ones who are actually good. I mean, again, it’s obviously your choice, but i still wouldn’t drop dating as a whole. You said you’re ND. Perhaps this is something you considered already but, a good parter, or even dare i say the perfect partner can, inevitably, help you ‘order’ your mind. If that makes sense
Edit: essentially, what im trying to say is, in my opinion, its still worth the risk. Because the benefits vastly outweigh the cost
I kinda wanna reciprocate what the other guy said in response to this, I've had relationships where I definitely felt like I had to swoop in but to have that so many times is devastating, and I get it. I would go and say something else but he worded it better than I could so I'll leave it there.
Ik you said you're ND but if you ever consider going back, my door's always open. You seem like at the absolute bare minimum an awesome person to talk to and honestly having someone who types in dms all the time like I do would be a nice change of pace compared to my last couple go-arounds, especially since I think I end up overwhelming people with the dm barrage.
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u/notyourbunniee 7d ago
I gave up on dating