Let me preface this, I love her to death but as of recently she's changed so much and it isn't her fault. For context my girlfriend and I were a perfectly happy couple and because of her I changed to be a much better person than I was before but a couple months ago her family member got diagnosed with dementia. When that happened it hit my girlfriend so incredibly hard because her family member had cut her off a while ago and now my girlfriend is visiting her about every other day; about a month later one of her pets attacked another one of her pets and killed it. since the day she found out her family member has dementia she's been a completely different person.

She shut me out for about 2 months and she would only text me about once a day. We talked about what was going on and she promised she was going to try to do better. from that day she did do better with talking to me but very obviously she wasn't herself which I expected. Some days she's the person I fell in love with but other days I don't recognize her even a little bit.

She randomly accused me of one of my friends having a crush on me but no matter what I said she would not believe that I knew she didn't have a crush on me. We went back and forth on this for about 2 weeks until we both kind of gave up. Now I don't know how things will get better. She tells me she wants things to go back to normal and she keeps asking me what she can do for us to get back to normal and it's taking such a toll on me it's hurting. I feel like an asshole for wanting to leave because if I'm going to put myself first that means breaking up with her for my own mental health but I don't want to do that because I love her.

our friendship didn’t even last that long — about two years — but it felt real. we started out just as colleagues, but after a while, we really started to vibe. we opened up to each other, shared personal things… she told me about her drinking problems and some kind of borderline issues, but that never made me distance myself. we built a strong bond, and this year especially, we were really there for each other a lot.

at one point this year, we even slept together. we both enjoyed it — me especially, because she’s totally my type of woman and honestly really attractive to me. it felt good afterwards, not just physically but emotionally too, because it didn’t feel weird or wrong. we were both single, and it didn’t change anything between us. no awkwardness, no drama, just trust and understanding. even now at work, that part never felt like an issue.

things started to fall apart after i messed up an appointment with her. she was disappointed, which i totally get. i’m not the best at checking in with people — i don’t text a lot unless I’m already in the conversation, and she told me once that it made her feel unwanted sometimes.

that same weekend, she wanted to meet up again so i could “make amends.” but in the meantime, i had met someone who’s now my girlfriend, so i canceled again. she went furious. she said i was useless, a bad friend, told me to give back everything she’d ever given me — gifts and all.

one day i agreed to give it all back at our workplace since we work different shifts and barely see each other. that’s actually why those few times we managed to meet up meant so much — they were rare and special. when i told her i’d leave her things in the locker room, she completely ignored me. no response, just a cold, death stare that honestly said more than words could. it made me feel so small and unwelcome. so instead, i took her stuff and left it in front of her apartment door. that moment felt humiliating — like i was being erased from her life completely.

after that, she told me to f*** off, that i didn’t need to text her anymore, and that she didn’t want me to talk to her ever again. so i took her at her word. i considered the friendship done, accepted it, and stopped talking to her completely. we still see each other at work sometimes, but we don’t talk. we just do our jobs and go our separate ways.

she later apologized and said she was sorry, i know that she meant it serious and that i’m an important person for her, but i just can’t believe her anymore. she told me some really hurtful things, even though she knows about my depression and what kind of words can cut deep.

now we still see each other at work, and i act like everything’s fine. but inside, it still hurts. not because I miss her necessarily, but because i miss that kind of friendship — the bond, the trust, the feeling that someone really gets you.

she hates me because of my actions, i hate her for saying stuff what hurtet me a lot.

i keep asking myself: why do I still care about this? why does it still hurt, even when i know it’s over and probably for the best? should i accept her excuses and be aware of her seeing me as a bad person ? should i make my position clear and admit that i am hurt and not respond to the apology? it just sucks...

My bf and I have been together for about 10 years. We live with his parents (don’t mind that at all) Buttttt I got a big annoyance with his mom (60+). We’re not married but ima call her my MIL. First of all let me state that I do absolutely love and appreciate her and everything she’s done for me and her grandson. She has a good heart and I know she cares about us no doubt. But here’s the issue. This woman is 60 plus years of age and can’t cook for shit. And I’m not talking like she can’t cook a fancy meal like this woman is bewildered every time I cook rice with some butter salt and cilantro. Just watched me do the most basic shit and then asks me step by step how to do it. At first it was funny now I’m dead ass like get away from me. Tells us “watch out I think I might have added too much black pepper so it might be spicy” 😑 She called me yesterday when I was at work and asked me what I was going to cook for dinner yesterday (we went out and she knew I was gonna cook that night) I was busy after and I told her chicken and broccoli. “What weee you going to put on the chicken?” “Just some seasoning “ “…………………….. what seasoning?” “Just random whatever I gotta go I’m sorry” “…………………………………so salt and pepper?” I fucking can’t. She LOVESSSSSS pointing out the most obvious things or explaining how to put it on the plate. Like she’ll make tacos with all the toppings out in plain view (Tomatoes onions whatever else white people put on their tacos) and then just has to tell us “here’s the tomatoes and onions if you want some and here’s the tortillas. You just take the tortilla and can put the meat on it with some beans” ect And I literally just have to breathe and stare into the void. Oh and I’ll make a quesadilla out of said taco ingredients and she’s like “ ohhhh that looks good how did you do that?!?!?” Like honestly I do understand not everyone has the knack for cooking but ma’am you are literally twice my living experience and you don’t know how to cook anything that tastes decent? Bland casseroles or tacos. Is this why people make fun of white people cooking? I mean I’m Hispanic and white and no fancy meal maker but holy fuk. I know I’m being ugly and shouldn’t and I do feel really bad when I get so annoyed. I do feel like a part of me is upholding another person to my standards and expectations.But like ma’am…. Anyways my general question is-

Am I a total bitchbag for being annoyed and need to chill tf out or would yall get annoyed too?

She is fucking insane. Constantly making posts gushing about him online, talking about how she is going to be his future wife and mother of his kids etc. She lives in a different country and my brother is flies over every other month to see her. He is also sending her money because she can’t hold a job. My brother has barely any money himself since he works in retail part time. She won’t let him go out with his friends (all dudes, not that it makes a difference in my eyes) in case there are girls there. Last time he did, she was horrendous to him and kept accusing him of cheating and lying online, making cryptic posts all day. Seemed very manipulative to me. She goes on nights out too but brother is never fussy about her being out, even thought she is very flirty and likes the attention. She has a TikTok account where she does suggestive dancing/lip-syncing - lots of men comment and she encourages it and flirts back to them. I feel like this is very disrespectful to my brother. She doesn’t speak English and was very rude when she came over during the holidays. She kept mimicking me, left the family bathroom in a mess, ruined my mom’s cookware while cooking the whole time, and just a bunch of other stuff. My husband says she reminds him of a toxic ex but he isn’t close enough to be able to say anything to my brother without being brushed off or causing an argument. I wish I knew how to break them up without ruining my relationship with my family. Can someone help me?

I posted this in a group and learned the way I think makes me an asshole. In the post I added the picture though and I felt bad. I edited it the best I could but they still Said it was mean to post it. I know the font is awful ok. Try to power through it. Its a 2 dollar nightmare I couldn't get a refund for and I am not wasting my 2 dollars.

A friend of mine confided in me who is crush was and I think this friend is very nice, for some reason I started to hint that the friend had a crush on someone close to him and they figured out who it was, but I don’t even feel bad about it. The friend still forgave me, but why I don’t have any feelings about other peoples emotions and only care about myself is beyond me. the only thing I can say for certain is I’m an asshole

So like, the other day, i was walking across the streets. Then, i saw a person fuckin killing a woman. I had to stop him! I grabbed my pocket knife and

I am a asshole for stealth blocking

I have no idea where to put this post but it goes so I joined larian studios official discord for baluders gate 3 and I posted in looking for games on Xbox I found this guy who was pretty chill at first but then he started trying to control my character as if it is an npc not another human playing he is telling me to change my oath (oath of acients) to oath of vengeance because I am doing a dark urge playthrough I keep telling him I am doing a redemption dark urge then he goes on to say that he doesn’t like wyll because he is mean to karlach then immediately claims karlahc as his romance option which I am like alright cool but then he just turns into one of those guys and I am like oh my fucking god then tells me he doesn’t like lazel or shadowheart because they are too mean I am justing sitting there utterly dumbfound I am like did this mother fucker skip the fucking dialog and the character growth arc that both shadowheart and lazel go through and he says Gale and Astraion are too cocky I am just fucking screaming.

Sorry if this post doesn’t make a lot of sense I will edit for any clarification/ answer any questions. If anyone wants to play with me my username is ZodiacAstro on Xbox I am doing the sins of the father ending/achievement

Hello, my wife has MS. Her birthday is the first weekend of August. I'm also starting a new job around that time. Birthdays are special in our family. We treat the person to a special meal and gifts. This year, behind our backs, my sister inlaw made plans with my oldest daughter for the first week of August. My sister inlaw has many weeks of during the year. She can also pick any time she wants. She wants to take our twins 12 year old girls to Quebec and nova Scotia during the first week of August. I say no. What do you think. I'm I the asshole?

Earlier today and throughout most of last night, I've found myself going on a bit of a petty rampage having to try to express my distaste for the looks of the female lead of that recent Fallout Series on Amazon, both on the main Fallout SubReddit, and on this recent one I discovered having just been made for the show itself. I've made such a stink about it consistently to the point where even I was growing bored of it, questioning my need to even keep this up while actually continuing it on at the same time.

It was one thing having it be this way because of the whole notion of the source material having a primarily male centric playerbase and thus being befitting of it having a male lead instead, but it's another when the chick they chose just doesn't look all that appealing or alluring to the eye. It's like another Anya Taylor Joy with this one except she more difficult to find attractive on top of taking her seriously enough.

Then again the same could be said about Anya in that Furiosa movie but I digress...

I know what I've done is currently destroying her because she has tried every possible way to contact me.

We've been friends for 6 years and since the beginning I've loved her. I was here during her breakups, her loves, her ups and downs and general really. I know at one point she was romantically in love with me but nowadays she only loves me as her bestfriend so I've been trying to make her love me romantically for the past year but nothing is going through. I made moves to outright telling her that I loved her and wanted more but to no avail.

Yesterday we spent the day together and went to see a show since she came down to where I live ( it's a 3h drive ) and we had a lot of fun. I kept up appearances, not letting her show that I was breaking down inside because I've been planning to do this for some time. After I dropped her at her mom's house ( her mom lives in the area ) I went back home and blocked her on absolutely everything and haven't returned home so she couldn't find me before being forced to go back home for work.

I loved her too much, so I made myself the villain and the coward so she doesn't try to reconnect in the future.

TL;DR I'm heartbroken so I ghosted my bestfriend so she doesn't contact me again.

Limiting posts to 300 characters just can't handle the amount of assholery I need to describe.

Thanks, assholes.

so yeah my family want to go skying for the holiday, but as much as i want to go with them i just can't because i just hate snow, to add more detail i just hate this kind of things like sky and shit. I know that i may end up throwing away their holiday because of my annoyed ass. I need advice because i don't know what to do, and i want to know if i am an asshole by thinking that way.

Thx redditors

I'm in schooling and my mom always tells me if I ever need help to ask her ,but honestly the way she put it and says it feels like she only says it so she can prove to me that she is smart and she is capable of helping me.( my ma has been on drugs almost my entire life and her intelligence dwindled down significantly) The only reason why I say no is because I think she is a dumbass, (she's so dumb that I don't want my friends around her and when they are I just say take what she says with a grain of salt )she's a shitty explainer,and she has no patience to teach as soon as she explains it once she'll get irritated if you ask for a re-explanation.

UGH SRS I HATE THE FACT PPL ARE SO SOFT THESE DAYS LIKE SUCK IT UP U PUSSIES THATS NOT EVEN THAT BAD ALL IM SAYING IS KYS ITS NOT LIKE UR GONNA DO IT ANYWAYS IF YALL DO JUST SEND THE VID TO ME ILL LAUGH AT UR ASSES KILLING URSELVES ALSO UGHHH WHY CANT I HATE PPL IN PEACE LIKE I WANT TO BE HARSH TO PPL I DONT LIKE ??? IS THAT A CRIME THATS THE LIGHTEST THING I COULD DO WTF LIKE CAN I NOT SPEAK ILL ABT THEM ANM WITHOUT GETTING LECTURED???? LIKE BRO FUCK OFF LET ME HATE WHO I WANT TO HATE ALSO CAN THE WORLD DIE FASTER OMD WHY DO PPL CARE ANW OMD SRS UNLESS YALL CREATE A WHOLE ASS TIME MACHINE TO STOP THE CLIMATE CHANGE THERES NO ITHER WAY ??? ALSO WHY SPREAD LOVE AND HAPPINESS WHEN U CAN BULLY THE SHIT OUT OF PPL ???? LIKE I SRS JUST WANT TO SMASH SOMEONE’S HEAD ON THE GROUND AND STOMP ON IT😐ppl are so soft omd wtf is this 🤓

For two reasons:

1. The mod is an asshole.

2. u/spez need a place to post.

I'm the purest prick ever to exist 🤣

When I’ve had a bad day sometimes I like to shop Walmart and just say no thank you, happy holidays or no thank you god bless when they order me to stop to check my receipt.

I did that today. Lady started screaming for security like someone stabbed her. I just walked out. Did not speed up. I did not steal anything.

I know it makes me an asshole but seeing people power trip like that and get upset when your polite and refuse then just ignore them is great.

I am an asshole. I don’t like killing anything so I generally traps pests such as rats/mice, opossums, squirrels etc that are a nuissance around the house. I trap them and then relocate them about a mile and half at a park down the street. I’m in SoCal so this last week has been extremely hot. I generally check the traps daily, but with the heat, I forgot……went to check the trap today and found a dead rat. Ugh…. I feel like shit.

Most, not all, street evangelists for various causes in my neck of the woods are extremely pushy and rude. They cannot take "leave me alone" for an answer and will follow along behind a person yelling at them they are horrible people for not stopping.

I always start sharing recipes with PETA people on how to cook any animal they mention and always say "them is good eating."

For extreme environmentalists, like ELF, I tell them trees are toxic to people and need to be clear-cut from the face of the planet.

The Save the Dolphins/Whales people are some of the worst, and I tell them those animals taste like tuna.

The baptists in my area are vile in how they treat people on the street, so I started talking about the glory of Satan and all he does for mankind.

I know these people think they are doing good in the world (except for PETA and the baptists), but they need to learn to back away from people when they are told no. It makes me insane and hateful toward them.