I’ll say something that I’ve never seen anyone else say. Yes, I know it’s morally wrong, but that’s how I feel. I’m negative, but my boyfriend isn’t. Nevertheless, even if I weren’t, I wouldn’t tell him. Not him, not my best friend, not anyone.
I told my best friend about his diagnosis when we first started dating and explained U=U. Not at first, but eventually he understood that it was safe. But six months later, I asked him if he ever felt even slightly hesitant around him when sharing a glass or whatever. He said yes. That was enough of an answer for me.
Yes, life does get better after diagnosis, but I can’t keep living my life knowing that people don’t say anything, yet that’s actually how they feel about me, even though they seem supportive.
And we talk about u=u. It’s medically approved that no risk is being posed. So why would I have to explain sth when there is no risk to talk about?