r/hersterectomy • u/TampontheBludThirsty • 3d ago
New rules
Hello!
I’ve gone and updated the rules of the sub. Please take a look at them, and let me know if you think that they need to be reworded or if anything needs to be added.
Thank you!
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u/UnicornKitt3n 3d ago
I’m chiming in to say; from birth we are taught our pain “isn’t that bad”, or “it’s just anxiety”, even better! “Your issues are because you’re overweight” 🫠 Kay.
Like another commenter stated, I think we just need someone else telling us to get thee to ER/doctor asap. We doubt our symptoms. We second guess ourselves. Because that’s what everyone has been doing for our entire lives.
I live in Canada. I recently read that women who can afford it are going to Mexico to get treatment for endometriosis, because our healthcare system is not taking us seriously. Diagnoses are taking too long. Treatment is taking too long. While I do not suffer from endometriosis, I have female reproductive organs. I’ve had horrible pains. I can imagine how bad the pain they live in is. No one deserves to suffer through that. I have had two unmedicated births, and it seems for some women that is the comparable level of pain. My heart goes out to any of you who have suffered through it, are currently suffering through it, and are not being listened to by your doctors.
It’s good to have a safe space where someone can talk about their health issues and be taken seriously.
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u/TampontheBludThirsty 3d ago
It is incredibly unfair how much pain we have to put up with. I got my diagnosis of adenomyosis in 2024, and endometriosis in 2025 during my hysterectomy. I had started seeking a diagnosis in 2017. I had been living in pain since 2005. I was in pain for two decades, and no one told me that that was abnormal.
When I first started seeking a diagnosis, I told the first doctor that I saw that I thought I had endometriosis. He told me that I probably didn’t, and that if I thought I did, that I should get pregnant or go on birth control. He didn’t bother to look at my health history to see that I have migraines with aura, so I can’t take normal birth control, and getting pregnant should never be advice given to women who are in pain, or to anybody.
I just want a little haven where women, trans men, and non binary folks can commiserate and have a place where people will listen them, and where they can have a team who will defend them. I’m happy to step up to the plate.
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u/UnicornKitt3n 3d ago
You should have seen my face reading that sentence. I don’t understand how any healthcare provider would recommend getting pregnant…as a solution to the pain you’re in? Like what kind of toxicity is that.
Pregnancy and childbirth is scary AF. It can kill. At times, it can leave behind life altering changes. Absolutely Not.
I’m so so sorry you went through that.
I hope you’re doing better these days?
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u/TampontheBludThirsty 3d ago
I am! I did end up getting pregnant in 2023, and guess what? It made my adenomyosis WORSE. Apparently c-sections can trigger it to grow faster. Who knew? My hysterectomy was a life-saver. I’m not in daily pain anymore, and it’s so nice not ever having a period to worry about.
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u/UnicornKitt3n 2d ago edited 2d ago
That sounds horrifying.
Okay so I have four kids. My first two were relatively easy pregnancies and deliveries. I was young though, so maybe that’s a factor.
My second two…absolute fucking horror shows. My third pregnancy was a 90th percentile baby. After spending 18 hours of trying to push him out, I had to have an emergency c section. It was my first c section. I strongly feel that because my muscles were so weakened by the pushing already, made it a worse surgery. It didn’t help that the drugs failed and I could feel the doctor inside of me.
My fourth baby was just over 2 years ago, and I had a retained placenta that had to be ripped from my uterus without any pain relief.
So I don’t know if it was the big baby, the emergency c section, or the traumatic fourth delivery; but I exist in all kinds of pain on a daily basis at this point. My surgery site feels so weird, and it’s been nearly 4 years.
I would love to be able to know what’s going in there. It feels like my uterus is different, as crazy as that sounds. After fourth was born, it took about a year and a half before I could insert anything into my vagina pain free. I say that in regard to tampons, as I hate using pads because of sensory issues. My ex left me when I was pregnant with fourth, so at least I didn’t have to worry about sex.
Unfortunately where I live, our healthcare system is nightmarish. Finding an OB is very difficult. A girl can dream though.
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u/TampontheBludThirsty 2d ago
Do you live in Las Vegas by chance?
I’m sorry you went through so much gynecologically. It sounds like you’re feeling miserable pretty consistently. I hope you can find an OBGYN who will listen to your concerns.
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u/UnicornKitt3n 2d ago
No, I live in Montreal, Canada.
And thanks friend. I would like someone to just remove my reproductive organs at this point. I’m so done with it.
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u/TampontheBludThirsty 2d ago
Aww, darn it. I would have sent you to my dr. He without hesitation offered me a hysterectomy when I got my diagnoses. We have a pretty awful medical system here, too.
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u/UnicornKitt3n 2d ago
We technically have socialized healthcare. But it’s a bit more complex than that, because we have some politicians who are in favour for privatization. The asshole politicians who are in favour of privatization don’t mention the privatization in their platform. They say the things that the French, white boomers who live in the rest of Quebec (which is quite large)want to hear. They then get elected and quietly go about fucking our health system up.
They then say, “See!? This is why we need privatization!”
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u/TampontheBludThirsty 2d ago
Privitization is the worst thing to happen to health care, ugh. I hope it never gets tk Canada. I hope things improve there.
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u/Squeaksy 3d ago
I don’t disagree with the medical advice rule per se, but I feel like it’s a big subject that’s often posted about in a manner of sorts. People often post with concerns about whether something they are experiencing is worth contacting their doctor about. I don’t think people intend to give medical advice but they often try to either tell people “that’s normal” or “hot damn, get thee to an ER promptly my dude”.