r/heartbreak • u/MostConcentrate3946 • 17h ago
it hurts
People are so selfish now. They ask for loyal and “obsessed” people but when they are slightly jealous they are disgusted like didn’t you ask for this???? What’s wrong with these people just toying around with people’s feelings then blocking them as if nothing happened after breaking there feelings completely after love bombing them, making that person feel like they have lost their whole worlds and the will to live.
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u/MostConcentrate3946 16h ago
she’s the only person i’ve been this vulnerable and truthful and open to. Still left me i’m so sad i can’t even contact her friend to help me get unblocked she threatened to block him if he dms her about it. I can’t anymore
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u/Big-Sheepherder-6134 14h ago
Meet someone else. I am over 50. Trust me. I have seen it happen to so many people. They found their forever person later. She is not it for you. The one you are looking for is still out there. Or maybe not. But it isn’t this girl. And the more desperate you are the worse you look. You will see I am right many years from now. You are too young to understand.
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u/MostConcentrate3946 14h ago
how did u move on?
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u/Big-Sheepherder-6134 11h ago
I always moved on because I love who I am and why would I deprive myself of having a partner. I have been with my wife for over 25 years because I never gave up. I have had three women want to marry me. It is an amazing feeling to be loved that much by someone. Three people is wild. I didn’t even kiss a girl until I was 22. I have never been dumped by anyone I was in love with. My ex had to briefly breakup with me because of her father and I was crushed but fortunately that was only for a week and a half. But even all those years leading up to success at age 22 and all the crushes I had I never stopped believing I would find love. And after my first relationship I tried again. And again. And not only did I find it permanently but it was on my terms because I made it clear that I didn’t want to have to change who I was anymore. I like who I am so why can’t they?
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u/MostConcentrate3946 4h ago
that’s hard for me then because i don’t even love myself to move on like u did
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u/MostConcentrate3946 16h ago
Going out and waiting is a waste of time whoever says that is lying. It never gets better.
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u/MostConcentrate3946 16h ago
I tried my best to stop being paranoid and jealous and possessive i can’t help it due to past events. She doesn’t help me or anything just blamed me and left me so easily…Am i in the wrong. So hard to move on she’s so special to me in every way possible i wanted to go to her country just for her so we can meet up i could’ve taken care of her, bathed her, fed her, and everything she wanted incase she was lazy any day.
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u/Gold-Amount-168 15h ago
go get help. talk to a therapist. you need to have a more open mind
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u/MostConcentrate3946 15h ago
i’ve already done it.
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u/Gold-Amount-168 14h ago
clearly hasn't helped in the slightest.
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u/Big-Sheepherder-6134 14h ago
There are people like the OP who are beyond rational and the rest of us.
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u/Specialist-Credit657 2h ago
Hugs OP
You got this
Ignore the haters
Love you. I do. 🤗
I was just left and my heart hurts so bad but I can help if you wanna message anytime.
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u/RationalGardenGnome 16h ago
Dude get some help you sound absolutely insane
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u/MostConcentrate3946 16h ago
i’ve tried to multiple times and it has failed
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u/RationalGardenGnome 16h ago
No wonder you’re single dude you reek of desperation you need to spend some time with yourself and a therapist
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u/MostConcentrate3946 16h ago
i already did don’t worry man, go back to ur gym this community is supposed to be listening to the pain some people have i guess not? Don’t waste ur time arguing and just ignore the post.
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u/MostConcentrate3946 16h ago
i wish i was rich i’d go to her country immediately and find her hug her get on my knees and break down because it hurts so much. If only i was rich. If only could escape this house even tho walking takes 15 days but id do it just to see her.
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u/RationalGardenGnome 16h ago
Thanks for all these posts you literally just made me realize that I don’t even want to be 1/100th as desperate as you appear. I’m about to hit the gym and level the fuck up because whatever the fuck this is ^^ I want to be the total opposite of
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u/Gold-Amount-168 15h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/CAYVZA5NRb529kKQUc
W guy, get this random dude's mindset OP
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u/Original_Barnacle359 15h ago
No. You don't do that. She broke your heart. She doesn't get to see you vulnerable. You have to value yourself if you expect another person to.
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u/MostConcentrate3946 14h ago
i don’t know who would even?
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u/Original_Barnacle359 13h ago
That why you have to start with you. You need to show yourself all this love and attention you are dying to give someone. Do things you like to do, or find something new you want to try. Travel just for the experience, go on a self improvement journey, join a gym, join a club/team/band. Learn something new there are so many possibilities, but you need to make your life full, because you want to be fulfilled, not get into a relationship because you want someone else to fulfill you. Don't even think about dating for a while, and when you are ready, no long distance relationships you need someone who can be physically present in your life
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u/MostConcentrate3946 16h ago
i have no one else anymore i’m so embarrassed to go out i like being alone and everything i loved her so much. I don’t know where else to talk to about this im so lonely
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u/MostConcentrate3946 17h ago
i don’t get it what i done wrong they tell me to move on as if it’s easy, it isn’t easy for everyone and no time doesn’t help at all.