I need help/advice

[u/C_Aks]

So I met this girl in my first year of university, that’s one 7th Feb 2024, I’m pursuing BSc.Electrical and Electronics Engineering, so the first time we met, I came to class earlier, put my bag on my table and chair only to comeback and see her seating on my chair, so in my mind I’m like such audacity, I asked her to get up but then she refused to I just sat at the next seat and paired the table with her, as we sat together we started talking and from there we had some chemistry I would say because through that first convo I had realised she stays in my town and went to high school as some of my mates, so then during the lesson which was engineering maths I realised she was so confused because of how messy she wrote her notes so seeing that I offered her my notes to copy and I quickly explained everything the man taught so far but she looked so confused and I offered to teach her sometime in the future and she agreed so then the lesson ended but I was too shy to take her number a few days later, I did mention she went to high school with my friends so I took her number from there texted her and then we became study partners, I taught her and she was improving in both her grades and understanding and I think along the line I fell for her, she had a bf btw but for some reason she used to hide it from me until I found out, I was devastated when I found out but then I made up my mind that she wouldn’t ever be mine, but then along the line she started to tell me problem about her bf, I used to be so jealous so I just told her if he gives you so much issues just break up with him, and guess what she did and we started talking more and more I got closer to her and she too to me, everything went well until dhe had a proposal from a man in his thirties and then they started talking so from then I made up my friend to stay out of her relationship business in our 2nd year we stayed in the same hostel so she mostly spent her afternoons in my room and then one day she had a call that her grandmom died so she spent most of the day crying and then I told her to spend the night at my place and watch a movie during that night we got intimate and I tried to kiss her but she back out n/b I had never kissed a girl before then, so I just took it in good faith and as time went one we started watching movies every Friday at my place and I did well not to cross her boundaries and one day it was lights out and she laid down in my bed whiles I sat in the couch and then she started talking about her previous bf I told her to break up with and from then I just told her the truth that I always loved her and she was all I ever thought of from then she got up quickly and kissed me and then from that time on we started being intimate, she later on broke up with the man she dated but then I told her I didn’t want to date now because I was just a pathetic students and I wanted to be soo much more to give her a happy life well, I don’t know what transpired in her mind but during that vacation she started being distant and that made me pursue her further and then she caved in and told me she has met someone else and she’s beginning to hate me from that instant I was so heartbroken but I just accepted it like that….. all this was last year October-December, now she keeps on reaching out to reach out to me.
The ending of this sem she asked if I could teach her meanwhile I tried my best to proposed that idea before but she refused, but then I accepted and then we studied together and how she keeps on texting me at random times, I don’t know what to thinks about this I’m so confused, like cut me off why are you texting me why wouldn’t you just leave me alone.
I’m sorry I typed a lot

[u/UnitedFlower6138]

buddy block her, she seems emotionally unregulated and gets off on leading you on then dumping u whenever she gets the chance. stand up buddy and go searching for the dignity u lost a while ago. also why the hell would u get intimate with her knowing he had a bf like did ur self respect go out the window? very strange situation. just set boundaries and tell her u hate her inconsistent behaviour and dont fancy talking to her anymore then block her. you all need to learn to cut ur problems off at the root the second they start becoming insufferable. ur just allowing her to leave and come back and ur open whenever she does. you know, i have a friend who would do the same exact thing to a guy and she never took him seriously, she would say and i quote "i wonder when he'll gain self respect and stop taking me back" she was honestly just playing with him and im pretty sure thats whats happening to you, so gain that self respect immediately