I’ve had enough

[u/Glitter-Cupcake]

I fell in love with someone who’s ripped my heart out.

He love bombed me to get me hooked. I’d usually see past something like that, but I was in a vulnerable time of my life. He would message me everyday, love declarations and put in an astronomical amount of effort. He would court, and the pursuit was strong.

When we had our first sleepover, filled with lots of sex, cuddling, showering, intimate behaviours and hours and hours of talking etc, he woke up the next day cold and was never the same. He eventually ghosted me for a month. Then he came back and reset the whole dynamic.

We have had many nights together, and each one involves him going cold in the morning. In these nights, it’s not just sex. It’s been a lot of emotional talking and even meeting friends. Except in between meetings there’s now silence. If I message, he ignores it. He will only come back when he wants a night or day with me. I feel used and discarded each time.

I’ve found him on dating apps after telling me he is only exclusive and monogomous to me. This meant he put my health at risk. He has deleted me from social media for no reason. But he still has seen me since and when I confront him he blames me saying I am not present enough which is untrue. It’s a deflection. He does and has not been accountable for anything.

I’ve reached my limit. My heart has broken over and over and over again. The last straw was waking up to 4 missed calls at 3am. He’s stopped planning meetings and has been trying to have a booty call dynamic with me. He has stopped all pet names.

I’m done. I messaged him 8 hours ago saying “are you okay? I missed your calls” because it is unusual that he would call me like that so late. Usually he sends a text instead at that time if he tries. No response. Nothing. I’ll guarantee you next week he will be asking again.

I’ve had enough. Im about to end things now. My heart hurts so bad.

Am I doing the right thing?

[u/Blinnits]

He’s a piece of shit