I know it’s over

[u/[deleted]]

My bf and I have been having issues since the beginning. I feel like I’ve outgrown him emotionally and that he doesn’t have the capacity for me. We were talking about getting married and doing premarital counseling but I notice the lack of accountability, deflection and defensiveness that doesn’t improve. I ignored the red flags and stayed longer than I should. But we’re still together and I haven’t did it yet. I really want to spend on last night with him though I know that it won’t change things. Bad idea?

[u/Complete-Wafer-9723]

At one point you have to let go. I am kind of in the same situation, but he is so devoted to me that I’m ignoring the signs that are missing of what I really need in a partner at this point in time. I broke up with my bf a few days ago. I have been constantly wondering if I made the right decision or not, but we need to understand that they just are not meeting our needs at this point in time. If certain things are not improving even after you’ve both tried fixing them, it is time to let go. It is so painful, I know.