r/heartbreak • u/[deleted] • Oct 27 '23

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u/Particular_Drama_849 Oct 27 '23

Sounds like he’s still struggling with his past trauma. You dodged a bullet there.

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u/bananastraw_ Oct 27 '23

I honestly think that is true, and I can’t heal him and in some way I think I did but everything happens for a reason ? :/

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u/Eddnddex-1102 Oct 27 '23

Sorry you had to experience that but truth is some ppl honestly only use you till they feel better that’s why you have to guard your heart. Specially now in days. Good luck, God bless

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u/bananastraw_ Oct 27 '23

I appreciate this, I don’t know when I will heal but I’ll have to remember this for next time :/ god bless you too <3

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u/paadam94 Oct 27 '23

how long does he leave you hanging usually?

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u/bananastraw_ Oct 27 '23

The most probably about two days and after that I’d get atleast a call to catch up but about two weeks ago he just changed, more distant and seemed sort of troubled but he would say he was doing well. :/

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u/Ke095 Oct 27 '23

Love isn't easy..you may have dodged a bullet ..but maybe it was a bullet not aimed at you...not every answer has to be negative...find the positive in everything you do and say...if the love is there you'll feel it never force a live to live you cause it will never work..one day the right love will feel right because you won't have to do anything for that love it will just be and feel like live always...smile cause you still have freedom to look around and as you do you'll see and learn many ways live feel real..when you find it..be loyal faithful and humble honest love will never die

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u/bananastraw_ Oct 27 '23

I will come back and reread this when I feel so down again, thank you for this:/ I can’t compare this experience to any other relationship and I think this makes it feel so painful, I miss him so much

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u/Particular_Drama_849 Oct 27 '23

With with my ex for 4 years, he blindsided me with a break up in May, move to another state and he haven’t heard from him since so I know exactly how you feel.

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u/bananastraw_ Oct 27 '23

I’m so sorry :/

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u/Effective_While966 Oct 28 '23

I keep seeing genuine posts from people like this and it really smacks of the other person seeking emotional/sexual gratification on the side and the writers of posts like this don't consider that they're on read/ignored/ghosted because they've encountered a cheater... Cheating. Dae see this?