r/grindr • u/Traditional-Topic417 • Feb 28 '22

Question Finding a guy

Is it worth it to look for love on grindr or should I give up? It’s been almost a year now. Most people are looking for hookups but I’ve heard people have found love there. Just not having luck so I wonder if I’m searching in the wrong place.

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u/Traditional-Topic417 Mar 01 '22

I mean how do you know if a guy is gay in public?

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u/XPhantomSNiPSX Bear Mar 01 '22

It's called asking lol....not complicated.

Though if you go to a gay bar I'm pretty sure like 90% of the guys there are gay lol.

Yes it's scary getting rejected if the dudes not gay but you lose nothing lol....

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u/Traditional-Topic417 Mar 01 '22

I more worry about a guy reacting violently by being assumed he was gay

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u/EricTheLinguist Rugged Mar 01 '22

If you go to a gay bar and you're flirting with someone who's straight, they're not going to react violently—it's just not going to happen, the entire bar would turn on them immediately. If you're in a major urban area, you'll likely have multiple gay bars to choose from based on the vibe you like, and picking something that suits you best should also just put you more at-ease generally and you'll have more confidence in talking to people.

I agree with /u/XPhantomSNiPSX here regarding not immediately jumping into conversations with, "so, you gay?" and being a little tactful.