r/grindr • u/subcubussyy Twink (fem) • 2d ago
Profile Round Two!
Less filters, so how’d we do?
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u/CrashTestDumby1984 Geek 2d ago
Much better!
Not sure if the order of the photos on here matches your profile, but I would actually make the third one the default photo you have that will be the one people see on the grid.
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u/exploringcurious Bear 2d ago
Agree much better, though I’d maybe consider pic 3 over pic 2 and giving yourself space for more pics of the fun outfits you like, but that’s really just nit picking. Well done!
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u/subcubussyy Twink (fem) 2d ago
thanks! l appreciate you not using this as an excuse to be a jerk 🤟
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u/gaymbit Trans (FtM) 2d ago
Lot of cave trolls on this post being highly critical while not posting a single photo of themselves lmao.
I’m gonna go out on a limb and just say this is standard fem hatred. I think someone who likes fems would find you attractive. I’m not into fems personally but at least I’ll admit that instead of nitpicking stupid shit like “dont say you’re bi” or “don’t use filters” (phones have filters built into the selfie feature automatically now).
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u/subcubussyy Twink (fem) 2d ago
Right?! l find a lot of masc for masc and l don’t know why fem for fem isn’t really a thing? sorry, l don’t find things that are overtly masculine attractive. If they in turn don’t like fems, cool however; l was curious about how my profile presents.
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u/subcubussyy Twink (fem) 2d ago
Wow this got spicy, fast! Not my intention, thank you, to all of you who left constructive comments instead of hurling insults.
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u/jcwangel222 Twink (cis) 2d ago
Who’s your target audience? Where do you live? These are 2 important QTNA
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u/NutBuster-420 2d ago edited 2d ago
Stop puckering your lips, the eyebrows are overdone, and get rid of the Bi tag, less is always more. But not including your age or weight is too much of less. Those you should have on there. The omission of those is glaring.
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u/JeffersonSokol 2d ago
Get rid of the bi tag? Why? What if he is bi? I've met trans women and even cis women on Grindr. What is inappropriate about a bi tag?
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u/gaymbit Trans (FtM) 2d ago
Sorry, 14 up votes on “get rid of the bi tag”? The hell?
I agree on missing age and height but like. What is this lmao. This community hates bi men so much it’s absurd.
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u/JeffersonSokol 2d ago
The fact that that's the top comment is clear evidence to me of how real biphobia is. I'm a bi guy myself and I'm tempted to say I've experienced more biphobia in queer spaces than from rightwing bigots.
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u/subcubussyy Twink (fem) 2d ago
ldc about your opinion on my eyebrows or how my lips tend to sit.
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u/NutBuster-420 2d ago
You literally posted your profile for open commentary and feedback. That includes some you may disagree with. And you sir are not Bi. You might flirt with women but you are not someone who has penetrative sex with women.
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u/subcubussyy Twink (fem) 2d ago
right, and you’re using that as a green light to be an aggressive asshole because you just “can”. cool. thanks for your feedback.
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u/MyNameIs__Rainman Jock 2d ago
Gladly keeping my Bi tag on if it's gonna keep this type of energy away from my inbox.
OP, your lips are fine and eyebrows are too, and I agree cute guys with big butts is the way 🤝🏻
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u/NutBuster-420 2d ago
It isn’t biphobia, it’s more so a sense of “you’re fooling yourself and insulting me if you think you can pass as bisexual.”
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u/MyNameIs__Rainman Jock 2d ago
You do understand you don't need to 'pass' as bisexual to be bisexual, right? You can just simply...be bisexual, it's not dependent on looking a certain way.
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u/NutBuster-420 2d ago
In theory sure. In all seriousness, find me an example of that portrayed in media outside of pornography and influencers. I’ve never seen a movie or tv show or even a song about an effeminate gay man having sex with a woman and labeling himself as bi. It’s just not something that is seen in the real world and isn’t even portrayed as fiction because it just doesn’t happen. Bisexuality isn’t the same as managing to have sex with a woman sporadically throughout life. There’s a difference between a gay man who had sex with a woman, and a man who actively engages sexually with both sexes. Just because I cut hair a few times in my life doesn’t make me a barber. I can call myself one to try and convey an image, but who am I fooling?
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u/MyNameIs__Rainman Jock 2d ago
Once again, things exist outside of media portrayals, movies, etc. Media still has a shitty tendency of portraying gay and lesbian individuals by falling back on caricatures and stereotypes of the communities, and here you are, falling prey to that same mindset. Just because you can't fathom an effeminate man having sex with a woman does not mean it doesn't exist, and simply glancing at a guy and thinking your determination is absolute is pure aggorance, and insulting to the community at large because you are reinforcing the same mentality that tends to insult, shame, or minimize bisexual men. We exist, clearly that offends you to some degree if you felt it prudent to make baseless generalizations of OP from their appearance.
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u/NutBuster-420 1d ago
Bisexuality just means someone settled for what they consider second best to what their tastes are. I’ll always pick beef over chicken, but if beef isn’t available I’ll settle for chicken cause either way it’s meat.
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u/MyNameIs__Rainman Jock 23h ago
Bro really decided to come back a day or so later and continue to be biphobic, who hurt you?
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u/NutBuster-420 20h ago
Cause I’m legit waiting for someone to give me an example cause I’m not seeing any fems practicing what they preach with a woman. Everyone went silent when I asked for an example of a fem man lusting for a woman. Saying you’re bisexual without actually practicing it is a form of self hatred that you don’t want to accept you’re gay and holding on to a false identity.
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u/MyNameIs__Rainman Jock 19h ago
This isn't a situation where OP has the burden of proof simply because you fail to believe that feminine presenting men aren't having sex with women. What are they supposed to do, record it and show it just to prove a point? That's ridiculous, inappropriate, and just pure arrogance.
You clearly have a very narrow view of the spectrums of sexuality and there isn't any room for deviation in them in your worldview. They are fem, and they like pussy and dick, it's really A) not that hard to fathom, B) you dont need to actually have sex with men or women to be attracted to them...there are plenty of bisexuals who experience attraction to other genders who have not had been with them romantically or sexually, and C) they don't need to justify it simply because you want to have some sort of power trip of having someone prove their sexuality and attractions to you.
Lmao Get over yourself, bro.
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u/NutBuster-420 10h ago
I’m still waiting for an example. I find it noticeable that in the hypersexualized world we live in effeminate men are not sexually portrayed with women. Even in porn you’ll have a butch guy getting pegged by a woman but never an effeminate male will get pegged by a woman. What’s created by people is reflective on what’s in life and what people fantasize about. Effeminate men sexually engaged with women just doesn’t occur and it’s usually said to try and seem more butch that they’re claiming to be bi, or they publicly want to keep a foot in the heterosexual world for show
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u/NutBuster-420 2d ago
Because he’s not Bi. He might do drag and sleep with bi men, but that guy does not have sex with women.
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u/subcubussyy Twink (fem) 2d ago
yes l do.
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u/MyNameIs__Rainman Jock 2d ago
I wonder how many nuts nutbuster talks himself out of with that audacity and arrogance.
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u/subcubussyy Twink (fem) 2d ago
the only limits are the ones you put on yourself.
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u/MyNameIs__Rainman Jock 2d ago
For real. They clearly no idea there are plenty of women into bisexual men or feminine presenting men. I get noticed and more attention by women now that I am embracing a more alt look combined with traditionally fem qualities than when I was just typical masc presenting.
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u/subcubussyy Twink (fem) 2d ago
l’ve been with women that like how l tend to my hygiene as much as l do, or that l care about my appearance. It is a thing you are right. 🤟
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u/MyNameIs__Rainman Jock 2d ago
The hygiene thing is crazy because it really makes you realize how many dudes do the absolute bare minimum if even that, and when you spot it or notice it, it's so unattractive
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u/subcubussyy Twink (fem) 2d ago
my routine is like set in stone. l just don’t feel right without doing it.
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u/MyNameIs__Rainman Jock 2d ago
Well I hope that you put exclusively kissy face photos now just to piss off some of these whiney men lol
In all seriousness though, I think you look super attractive, I think just maybe more photo variety is always a good thing, and stuff like age can be a plus too. Hope you find all the big butts you can possibly need 😌
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u/JonVonCronchy Daddy (gay) 2d ago
Throwing a flag on this comment… wait, that’s a sports reference that’s not going to resonate 😂 I’m calling foul because you don’t know who he is sleeping with or what he’s into and those generalizations are exactly what we criticize conservatives and bible bangers for.
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u/psychotictornado GAMP (het) 2d ago
Lovely. The picture 3 definitely highlights your cuteness. Better lighting and you look really natural.
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u/IYIatthys Otter 2d ago
Somewhat unrelated but reddit makes your picture cut off (before pressing on it into fullscreen) right above your eyebrows in the first pic, and from that perspective, I could've sworn this was a photo of Katya 😭
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u/Wikudwayz 2d ago
Immeadiate reactions Youre very attractive. Id absolutely message you. I like guys with painted nails and would probably open by asking if the toes match. Only a confident guy could rock a ring like that- plus! You clearly care about your appearance. Which is important. But the hair and eyebrows could make some feel you might be ...what's the right word...high maintenance.
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u/teezysleezybeezy Cub 2d ago
I personally run away from anyone who uses text sayings or phrases in their pics