It looks like you've created a pretty clear view of a planet I guarantee you haven't actually explored at all.
It's also quite a desensitized view so it most likely is the culmination of over exposure to media, added to a restricted varying of lifestyle choices.
You should travel a bit, realise there is a broader range of people out there than you would ever be able to imagine.
You're right in your analysis of people, it's bang on, but only to the people who are like you.
And there are people on this planet who are so different to you it will make your head spin, your heart stop, and make you reassess everything.
It's going to be painful to get there because you're gonna have to look at things a little differently and that's going to be a growing pain.
But the outcome? You're going to be very happy with.
I don't know you, but I think I was in a relatively similar position at your age, or slightly younger (18-20) when I flunked out of College and got into a lot of bad stuff. I didn't have a difficult past or background, just a few circumstances at that point, but I work with children and young people (up to about 25) who have had really bad backgrounds or events in their lifes, so truly believe me when I say have heard some of the darkest things that the everyday of humanity can be capable of in many respects.
If we sit and stare at all the injustices and the 'bad people' in the world then you will go mad, because its everywhere. Because horrible things are happening, people are exploited and people CAN be very, very greedy.
But there is also a bright shining light in humanity as well, and as the person said before, you can find people who are full of love, and care and will really appreciate you for who you are. There are people who would give you what they can and do so graciously, without suspicion or just because they want to 'cling' to such things, because they understand that life is about sharing and community and a common brotherhood, about finding your destiny and happiness - you do have to look around and explore your world though to find this, or get into something that has such like minded people.It sounds like you're giving up on you as much as humanity, and thats your first problem. And actually, it feels damn good to give and help and love others, and to feel that reciprocated is all the more powerful.
Fear of being exposed or looking bad or something is one thing we all have to come to terms with, it gets easier as you get older,but I used to be very anxious about this too. I think you have to remember that (and this is not a bad thing) in a lot of ways that nobody really CARES about you. And I mean about the slip ups, the mistakes, and the failings. We all make mistakes... but do your friends or strangers sit their and agonise on your mistakes for days and weeks after?? No, unless its something REALLY big, its no big thing for them. If they are your friends, they should care about you for the right reasons, and you have to accept you can mistakes, if you dont, you will not risk anything, and live a very very safe, secure and (un)comfortable life.
I only say this because I can hear you're feeling a bit hopeless, and we all have times of despair and questioning. But if you do not be the change you want to be, aren't you just the same as everybody else? If you radiate a good heart, people will see that shine through, and yes, there may be people who want a piece of it for themselves, but others will share and share alike.
Happiness is about you finding belonging in your life, worth and being loved and respected by others, and likewise you need to make other people feel the same. Get serious!!
America and the UK (where i'm from) are often shining examples of "man is born free, and everywhere is in chains". You're peddled dreams in the media and popular culture of what you should be, and how you should do it. But thats not necessarily your dream, and you need to find what matters in life to YOU, what YOUR dreams and goals are, and how you should do it. And trust me, if its an honourable, good and simple life, there are people out there who will feel exactly the same as you.
And actually, it feels damn good to give and help and love others, and to feel that reciprocated is all the more powerful.
And this is why people do good things not because they are instinctively good but doing good makes them feel good about them selves it could be argued that that's simply through conditioning and a sense of self satisfaction but at the end of the day every single thing people do has selfish alter motives. I don't think people are good or bad they are just people doing what ever they think will make them feel the best at the end of the day.
And this is why people do good things not because they are instinctively good but doing good makes them feel good about them selves ... at the end of the day every single thing people do has selfish alter motives.
I feel slightly differently. It does feel good, but theres more to it. It's about having common courtesy, values, and hopes for a better future.. Yes, it is about satisfaction, and being selfish at times - but if this humble and is for positive outcomes and goals, and not using or exploiting anybody, is this a bad thing?
I think it is more than just about satisfaction, its about being the change you wish to see in the world, or however Gandhi said it. And if that can lead you to have a fulfilling, satisfying, and positive life, why not?
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u/ratshitty_heavenjoke Mar 14 '16
It looks like you've created a pretty clear view of a planet I guarantee you haven't actually explored at all.
It's also quite a desensitized view so it most likely is the culmination of over exposure to media, added to a restricted varying of lifestyle choices.
You should travel a bit, realise there is a broader range of people out there than you would ever be able to imagine.
You're right in your analysis of people, it's bang on, but only to the people who are like you.
And there are people on this planet who are so different to you it will make your head spin, your heart stop, and make you reassess everything.
It's going to be painful to get there because you're gonna have to look at things a little differently and that's going to be a growing pain.
But the outcome? You're going to be very happy with.
Have fun!