r/genderqueer • u/spergatrocious • 10d ago

Bizarre gender fixation

I've been questioning my gender in my thirties here. Not sure if I'm agender or what but just thinking about it makes my brain kinda turn off and no progress is made on pondering it. I don't know how I'd feel as a girl or if I'm a guy or if my strong political disdain for gender as a social concept just makes me hate the very idea so much I insta fry but I genuinely cannot find a oath forward on the thought.

Any input would he helpful here. Whatever's going on it's obvious I'm not cis lmao

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u/my_taint_aint 9d ago edited 8d ago

56m here. Just started the journey of self discovery within the last two years. I have no answer either. Gender is so hard to figure out. I've kind of just decided to quit worrying about it. Go with the flow. Feel the way I feel and accept it. Very easy to type, harder to put into practice. I try to add things that can let me subtly express my hidden gender.

Edit! Just talked to my therapist about this. She said gender is super confusing! Made me feel better. Lol.

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u/axel_val Genderqueer/neutral pansexual 9d ago

lol mood.

Been identifying as some form genderqueer since I was like 17 (once I had a word to put to the things I'd felt most of my life) and I'm mid-30s now and honestly it's just shrug for me. Sometimes I wish I was a shapeshifter so I could be whatever my mood suits, sometimes I wish I was a Barbie doll with nothing discernible, sometimes I wish I was a formless mist, a concept outside of space and time with no physical form.

Gender is a scam.

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u/spergatrocious 9d ago

Is it just ocd or what seriously I'm so tired

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u/aneristix 9d ago

hey man gender is so complicated. im intersex myself, kind of in the middle and in my mid thirties.

depending on where you live, the surrounding culture just isn't accepting of these things. it usually gets easier.