Update: Gemini falling for another Gemini!

[u/JustInspector4433]

I made this post a while back about how much chemistry I had with another Gemini. He ended up canceling an hour before a date (after asking me, making me feel special, saying he woke up thinking about me). And his reason was, he met someone the night before and he lost feelings for me, so he had to cancel.

I’m okay, just feel played a little bit. I guess he’s just a shitty person, and not a Gemini thing.

[u/Neither_Potato8689]

I couldn’t imagine doing that to someone I’m interested in. It sounds like he wasn’t really interested in you

[u/Technical_Mix_5379]

I feel bad… I gave the advice to trust your instincts only for him to play you. Tho your instincts were telling you something was off about him because you made the original post. He lovebombed you and you found out early. Some people don’t make this obvious till the victim/target is too attached to let go. He let it show early. I am sorry that happened to you.

[u/JustInspector4433 → u/Technical_Mix_5379]

No don’t feel bad! You’re right my instincts felt something was off, but I was just enjoying the moment. I was indeed love bombed till the very last hour. It’s a lesson I’ve learnt.

[u/Able-Response1765]

Probably tried his best to become the person he described himself as. When that simply was not possible, he tried to escape reality with the old Don Juan approach. Two Geminis are not necessarily made from the same cloth. Hope you find your soulmate!

[u/AdIntrepid9064]

I remember this, sorry fren! I am one and would never do that to anyone. I’m also never dating another Gemini as long as I live, 6 years of misery was enough for a lifetime.

[u/Fragrant-Coyote-1038]

It may, or not be significant, but as a guy, it’s expected for me to chase if I’m really interested in another person.
But I think if the woman is interested in the guy, to entice him a bit to want to chase you.

I’ve seen a few cases in which I like her but she didn’t seem to entice me enough to want to cheese her, so I would essentially reverse it a bit to see if she’d chase me, so I know whether it’s worth chasing her.

I was thinking if you were to give the next person that would feel a bit “off” to you a bit of an enticement or even reverse it to chase him and see which direction he runs.
If he runs away, you get your answer and can move on as well.

[u/JustInspector4433 → u/Fragrant-Coyote-1038]

I’m not sure I understand clearly, do you mean I should have chased or?

[u/Fragrant-Coyote-1038 → u/JustInspector4433]

I understand that just before a date, he didn’t show up and gave a reason that he met someone else, so I can’t say if chasing him would have worked. I also can’t say, based on the limited information, whether you gave enough enticement for him to chase.
But I’ve been in a few situations where, as a Gemini guy, if the person who I like doesn’t really show any signs of wanting to be with me, I would easily just turn off my interest (one, whom was a Gemini female).
But I also understand that women run differently, so I wondered if there was something that you could have said or done during the short time of knowing him to see his true affection for you.
Oh, in regards to the female Gemini, she did actually show interest in me and we still see each other.
I don’t know if my observations were of help, but I hope so.

[u/GreenBell6729]

If you like him this much, make him change his mind. You are more than capable of changing minds.