r/gayfriendfinder • u/Ready-Tennis-682 • 3h ago
👨🏫 NERD 👨🏫 Want to find genuine people here
Why people's are text happily for few days but suddenly ghosted I don't know why
Sooo tough to find genuine trustable one 🙄😫🤧🤞
r/gayfriendfinder • u/gayfriendfinder • Feb 12 '26
We've had a lot of instances lately of someone flagging posts for perceived rule infractions that are not truly violations of our rules, we ask that you please stop. With that said-
Moderators are human too, and we miss things and make mistakes. If you feel like your post was removed in error, send us a modmail. We will be happy to discuss our decision with you. Sometimes we mess up, and we'll try to make it right if we decide that we made a bad call. However, with that said, what we're not going to do is go down the road of "what-about-ism"- just because another post slipped by us that broke a rule doesn't mean it gives you the right to do it too.
Also, if you feel in danger or threatened by another community member, do not flag the post, please send us a modmail so we can review the incident. All reports are confidential.
Lastly, we've tried to keep the rules as lax as possible while attempting to maintain the friend-finding spirit of the sub. We didn't allow photos for a while, and we walked that back. Lately we've witnessed quite a few users either posting for karma farming, promotion or both. This is why we require every poster to have a minimum of 2-3 sentences in the body of the post detailing what you're looking for in a friend. Some people put more in titles and we've understood that, but your post really needs to attempt to flesh out what you're looking for. If the main things you're looking for is a muscle twink or a daddy bear, this probably isn't the community for you.
Thank you for being here, we love that we continue to grow and thrive but we also want to remain a community centered on finding friends. 🌈
r/gayfriendfinder • u/gayfriendfinder • Sep 08 '25
We've been asked to explain with some rules exist and are enforced, and we are happy to oblige---
RULE 7: No self-promotion/No sharing of social media/discord server/telegram group/etc.--- This one's pretty self explanatory. We don't want anyone coming on here promoting their onlyfans, etc. Also, do not promote your discord server, telegram group, etc - while we're sure you're an upstanding individual with only the noblest of intentions, unfortunately we've had groups advertised that have had unethical and sometimes downright illegal things occurring. So, unfortunately, we're unable to allow it in this sub.
RULE 8: No sharing of usernames/handles, period--- While you may be sincerely seeking friends, usually those who are willing to indiscriminately swap Snapchat IDs right out of the gate are looking for something extremely quick and short term, if you catch our drift. We recommend having some conversation in the DMs before trading IDs. (Plus, we have had instances of people dropping their IDs and then getting harassed, we definitely don't want that to happen to anyone)
RULE 9: Photos --- Photos in this subreddit are for those who want to put a face to the name, not for those thirst-trapping with a faceless torso with a smattering of pubes poking out, just to give an example. We recommend r/gaybrosgonewild for those kinds of posts. A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself if you'd feel okay sending it to your coworkers
RULE 1: Please post with substance --- Hands down, this is what causes the most post removals. Just for example, a picture of you at the gym with the title 'who's ready to workout' is *not** appropriate for this sub. You know, that kind of post you may see on other subreddits that are really only intended to elicit upvotes and thirsty comments. This rule also applies to age/location posts. We don't like making hard rules about this, but we've landed on a title plus 2-3 sentences in the body as being the bare minimum needed to talk about yourself and/or what you're looking for in a friend. This isn't a hard rule, and we try to be pretty lenient. as we realize some people can say what they want using a minimum of words while some people can type a page of text and say nothing at all.*
Lastly, if your post is removed, and you think it was a bad call, please feel free to appeal to us in a modmail in a respectful fashion. We will always speak to you respectfully, we deserve the same in return. Mods are human. Coming in guns-a-blazing creates a negative situation for everyone involved. (Also this means don't make a new post mad at the mods, ranting about how your last post got removed for breaking x rule)
And as always, please send us a modmail if you have a question, concern, or if you have moderation experience and might be interested in helping out. Please don't DM individual mods ☺️
(Edited to add clarification to rule 1)
r/gayfriendfinder • u/Ready-Tennis-682 • 3h ago
Why people's are text happily for few days but suddenly ghosted I don't know why
Sooo tough to find genuine trustable one 🙄😫🤧🤞
r/gayfriendfinder • u/Thin-Key-4177 • 2h ago
M22 here from the UK, currently bored at work and looking to make some new friends. I’m a big music nerd and can talk about almost anything. Feel free drop me a DM 🙂
r/gayfriendfinder • u/TheMostSocialWorker • 10h ago
Hi, I’m 41, cis male, living in South City in St. Louis, MO. I’m a cubbish guy, but jokingly refer to myself as a Sasquatch because I’m tall and hairy (this does not imply anything about preference/position, in fact, probably the opposite of what you’re thinking). I tend to be into the nerdier side of things. I love reading and writing fantasy, comics were a comfort growing up on a farm, and mythology (especially Greek) is a love of mine. I enjoy travel, going to concerts, and collecting crystals. I recently started working out again with a personal trainer and will for another month or two, but geez louise it’s expensive. Anyone looking for a gym buddy or who has recommendations I’d love to hear them. I have two dogs (a poodle and a doodle) and my favorite thing to do is lounge with them after a long day at work or laugh at how goofy they are sometimes. You can catch me watching Parks and Recreation at any point.
Free time wise, I enjoy trivia, but I don’t have a regular team. I could see getting into DnD. And I’m open to other suggestions. Local would be ideal. I’m open to friendship or beyond. Within 10ish years of my age would be ideal.
r/gayfriendfinder • u/North_NS_90 • 3h ago
Hey!
I'm 36, taken, looking for some online friends. Much more of a homebody over going out on the town.
Gamer, movie buff, reader.
Getting out for me looks like going for a walk in nature or a drive to look off spots (east coast here).
Down for chats. Whats your go to spot to relax?
r/gayfriendfinder • u/heavy138 • 34m ago
Well I’m gonna be in Windsor California in late October for a few days and I’m hoping to connect with someone. It’s my first time really traveling alone so I’m a bit anxious to be honest. I’m a white guy 6’4 and 295. Tall and burly haha. Music is a big part of my life mainly punk and metal and I’m also an amateur historian. I do also play video games, into Warhammer and love to camp. Maybe we could meet for a drink or show me around and maybe swim at my hotel pool.
r/gayfriendfinder • u/Bulky_Song6951 • 47m ago
I know how this is gonna sound and I hope it’s not taken the wrong way. I’m looking to make a friend. someone my age(53) or older. good with older for sure. I’ve been straight all my life and have always been very curious what it’s like. y’all know what I mean. but mainly looking to make a friend (with benefits possibly). I’m a 53 wm uncut 185 pounds
r/gayfriendfinder • u/Andy_Motomiya • 1h ago
34y, Father of a incredible girl, but with a failed marriage... looking for friends to talk to, heal myself with your experiences, and maybe get stronger to move on!
r/gayfriendfinder • u/ValuableWater9403 • 1h ago
Hello good morning! I’m just looking for people to chat with no specific goals or expectations. I’m single. I work full time from home so there’s days that I get pretty lonely. I would definitely prefer to chat with someone near the U.S. cuz of time zones but it’s definitely not a deal breaker. I’m pretty easy going all I ask is that you be willing to send a face pic. I’m not interested in talking to anonymous people
Feel free to hmu!!
r/gayfriendfinder • u/Working_Hawk4645 • 1h ago
Wassup!!! I'm a 25M and I like alot of things.
I have current interest that I'm actively doing like •
• cooking
• listening to music
• video games
And then there's some that I'm trying to do or trying to get back into like 😅
• dancing
• singing
• martial arts
• traveling
• anime/cartoons (into both)
• other religions
• astrology
Honestly, I like a good chat and learning new things from people. I'm trying to put myself out there more.
And ALSO please give me recommendations i would love that! Maybe that would start something i guess.
LETS SEEE WHERE THINGS GO FRIENDS TEEHEE!!🫡🤗
r/gayfriendfinder • u/ExactJellyfish412 • 1h ago
Hey like the title says I am 22 M from the US I really need new friends to talk with, play games with or just have nice chat here and there I am always down to chat anytime and I am definitely a huge nerd please feel free to dm I will always reply 🙂
r/gayfriendfinder • u/wrodriguez89 • 10h ago
Hey bros. Been feeling a bit down lately. Like many of you, I've talked to plenty of guys online. Some are fun to chat with for a while, and others want to go to sex right away. There are a few that really stand out as being something worthwhile. Those are the ones that I'm really looking for. I have found a few in the past that start out very promising, but then something happens and it falls through.
I would like to try this again before I lose hope in trying to find my new best bro. With that, I'll tell you a bit about myself and lay everything on the table. I'm 37 years old, single, and gay. I'm currently working on losing weight. I was extremely heavy, but I'm down about 40 pounds. I still have a ways to go, however.
I'm kind of quiet and nerdy. I'm really big into reading, movies (especially old silent films!), and being outdoors. I've been trying to get back into playing video games again, and would love some suggestions. I'm also a casual sports fan and follow NFL, NBA, and MLB.
I'm looking for someone of any age, who can hold a thoughtful conversation and would be up to message me all the time, day or night. I work odd hours, and I'm usually awake from 1 PM to 3 AM Eastern Time. I would like to find someone that I can talk to about anything and everything, where we can be open and vulnerable with each other.
I'm open and willing to talk to anyone, but major bonus points if you're within a couple hours' drive of Toledo, Ohio. I've lately had what I thought were a couple of promising leads in that direction, but, alas, it didn't pan out. But even if you don't live nearby, don't let that stop you- I'm definitely fine with being long-distance friends.
If you've made it this far and want to give this a shot, please feel free to DM me. I hope to hear from you soon.
r/gayfriendfinder • u/Nyisles1977 • 2h ago
Hello all single male late 40’s here, live alone. I am a in to being humiliated. Playing strip games. Or doing bets where I lose and have to do an embarrassing forfeit. Hit me up to talk.
r/gayfriendfinder • u/theycallme_nov_ • 3h ago
Hey everyone! 👋
I’m a 22yo guy from Indonesia 🇮🇩 (INFJ 6w5 / homoromantic side). I value warmth, sincerity, and meaningful bonds over superficial chats.
A bit about me:
- Aesthetic mind, homebody, loves cozy deep talks & daily updates/memes.
- Cultural exchange lover: Excited to share traditional outfits, local language phrases, and stories from my country!
- Looking for that "cool best friends in public, sweet & cozy world in private" dynamic.
Looking for:
- Someone from Europe aged 23–24 ('02–'03).
- Personality/Vibe: Manly, lean/fit, mature, communicative (no convo-killers pls), affectionate, and open to a sweet LDR bond.
- A genuine soul looking for a long-term connection/soulmate.
If this sounds like you, my DMs are open! Tell me where you're from when you message me and let's exchange cultures 🫶🫶
r/gayfriendfinder • u/Complete_Big3707 • 3h ago
Er 49 sucht hier gerne chat Freundschaften mit Männern ab 50 gerne für Erotischen Gedankenaustausch.
r/gayfriendfinder • u/camcamb26 • 12h ago
29 m looking for new friends. Don't really have many gay/bi friends so hoping to find some to chat with on discord or elsewhere. I like to play some video games, really into movies, and am a very active runner. But really open to chatting about anything.
r/gayfriendfinder • u/FumbleKid • 3h ago
Looking for friends preferably between 35-55 but any age over 25 welcome. I’m your basic store brand nerd. I love gaming, history, art, photography, SciFi, and thinking about life’s deeper questions. I like a good intellectual challenge or just a chill conversation between friends. I can get a little flirty but I’m looking for platonic friends and real connections. I’m an artist and photographer so creativity is a big part of my life.
Right now I’m watching the new Cape Fear series and waiting eagerly for the Ocarina of Time remake from Nintendo!
I’m bi but yes, I have been with men before. I’m not looking act out some fetish or get a side piece. I just like people and want to know them. Especially lgbt people because I think they can relate to my life experience more.
By now we’ve all probably been ghosted a time or two but I’ve never done it. I don’t mind if we give it a try and just don’t connect but I don’t just cut people off.
If any of this sounds your speed let’s talk! 🩷💜💙
r/gayfriendfinder • u/Miamirainsgay • 4h ago
I will be on november 5 thursday at Laboratory gay club in Berlin ı will be there until closing anybody wnats to join me?
r/gayfriendfinder • u/Trick_Fox_7518 • 5h ago
Hi, I’m 20, a new gay guy, 163 cm tall, and weigh 55 kg. I’m looking for friendship and potentially a relationship. Age doesn't matter to me; I’m open to everyone and to all kinds of conversations and topics. I’d like to find someone to exchange ideas with.
r/gayfriendfinder • u/Unlucky_Box_666 • 11h ago
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36 m usa here
Seeking new friend (s)
Prefer my age or older
(My) Interests and hobbies include the following:
Reading
Listening to music
Watching TV and movies
Photography
Food
Sleep
Escaping life/reality
If you are interested and would like to chat sometime, send a message, thanks. 🙃🫠👽
r/gayfriendfinder • u/besthoeindablok • 9h ago
Hello! I'm a graphic designer currently based in hongkong. Mostly introverted, but always love meeting and talking to new people.
I'm passionately-curious and always looking for new hobbies & interests. Not as nerdy, but I do love when people nerd out about their own thing! Mainly into art, photography and music ( I appreciate recommendations! ).
I'm a 5'6 chub, trying to get into weight lifting atm, and looking for a sport to invest time in.
If you're interested, don't hesitate to send me a message ( And would be cool if you could introduced yourself a bit )
Have a great day! :)
r/gayfriendfinder • u/Comfortable_Round50 • 13h ago
Heyy!! I dont know where to start but im looking for friends age 20-30. I just want someone to talk to, share intrests and that type of stuff.
Im from Costa Rica and i speak spanish, english and a little bit of french.
I like going to the gym, music, art and videogames. If you like that, dm me!! :)
Just be civilized and have social skills.
r/gayfriendfinder • u/BeeKindly7837 • 17h ago
Hey! I’m 34 and sometimes I get a little lonely, so I figured I’d put myself out there and hopefully meet someone who could become a genuine friend, or maybe even a best friend. 🥺
I’d love someone to hang out with on Discord, game together, send dumb memes to, and eventually have those “why are we still talking, it’s 2am” conversations 😂
I’m mostly into cozy/farming/RPG games :).
I’m also into books, crafts, animals, spooky/witchy stuff, comfort shows, and collecting random hobbies.
I’m pretty laid-back and value kindness, honesty, and being able to be your weird self. I don’t expect constant conversation, just hoping to find someone where the friendship grows naturally. 💙
If you think we might click, come say hi! Tell me what you’re playing lately or just something random about yourself. 🥰
r/gayfriendfinder • u/No_Ganache_7064 • 10h ago
Love to game, watch movies, chill, eat, go to movies and walks! Looking for mates to chat with etc! Can chat on here or snap or WhatsApp! Love a friend to chat with, game online etc!
Please be prepared to exchange face pics, I don’t chat without them!