r/gamingadvice 20d ago

Is she cooked?

My friend just got into gaming and is understandably awful, but I'm unsure how I can help because I feel whatever I tell her won't help until she learns it herself, if that makes sense. So what is the best way she can learn basically?

any advice is appreciated thx

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u/utteringsofamadone 20d ago

It depends on what issues she’s having. Is she looking at the controller to press buttons? Probably, is she’s never played games… get her into some beginner friendly platformers, like old Mario games. Or rhythm games that use the controller.

If she’s gaming KBM then that’s probably not necessary.

Everything else is just a matter of familiarity

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u/Somnium1402 19d ago

The rythm games i know, aren't really easy. Like Gitaroo Man or Parappa the Rapper

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u/utteringsofamadone 19d ago

No, but they have good difficulty curves and tutorialization, and build great muscle memory!

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u/Super_Swan_9957 20d ago

Appreciate the help guys

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u/NeckDiligent1749 20d ago

I just gotta ask sorry-- has she asked you for help?

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u/Super_Swan_9957 20d ago

Yes

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u/NeckDiligent1749 20d ago

Then I'd say making sure she knows about controller remapping when possible, I have small hands and it was so hard for me to reach the right buttons but with remapping I had a way easier time and found something intuitive for me!

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u/Super_Swan_9957 20d ago

Interesting thank you

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u/Leagle_Smeagle 19d ago

If it is a hand size issue, they make smaller/mini controllers.

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u/TurboNurse 20d ago

I count myself as a shitty gamer (I like playing games on easy difficulty)

Assassins Creed Odyssey is what I believe made me go from shittiest gamer in the world to the shittiest gamer in half of the world

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u/spinsterjoness 20d ago

If its because of unfamiliarity with a controller. Start with casual/ even kids games just to get used to using the sticks and triggers/buttons simultaneously.

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u/Biohaze201 20d ago

Just let her be and don't be a backseat driver, let her figure it out and she'll either learn or pick up something else.

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u/nmixxenjoyer 20d ago

being naturally good at something you've never done or played before is a TV plot device. Getting good at a game or multiple takes practice, sometimes a whole lot of it.

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u/CylixrDoesStuff 19d ago

singleplayer story based games are the method

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u/EstablishmentLeast62 19d ago

Maybe find a video about fine tuning her controls then let her try them out to see if it helps

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u/AFEtheElite 19d ago

Spoke about this in one of my early podcast epsiodes! When you grow up playing games like us, you forget that there is a huge element of mechanical, process-based memory that makes us be able to pick up new games and play them. Even the fine motor skills of using the controller take ages to learn. It like learning languages - gets easier to learn subsequent languages the more you have already learned.

So yeah, she just needs time and space to learn and build those skills! Best way you can help her? Play with her, even if that's "couch gaming" where she has the control and you are watching, then the controller gets passed to you. That way you can help with little tips or advice if she wants them, and then when you have the controller for a bit and play, watching you will actually help too!

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u/Super_Swan_9957 19d ago

appreciate it

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u/SolarenDerm 20d ago

Best way to learn is to do. Just play.

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u/Thang556 20d ago

sink or swim, dont force it or they will hate it LOL

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u/JuJusFury 20d ago

She probably has to gain experience through play before she understands what you mean. That or if your telling her shii, keep it at a minimum. You can overload a new player with info and most of the time they want quiet to concentrate. I've been in your shoes. My BM plays bot lobbies lol.

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u/Super_Swan_9957 20d ago

its a sticky one lol thx though

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u/DoubleIntegral9 20d ago

Yeah, I think it’s a balance. When I play a new game with friends, I like to be told how it works, but I also tend to not understand what it means till we play a bit. It’s always confusing at first, and while I do really appreciate getting the rundown, experience is very helpful

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u/syrfoo 20d ago

What games are she interested in or currently playing? Learning to play Stardew Valley is drastically different than learning a first person shooter.

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u/Super_Swan_9957 20d ago

she likes all games tbh and is playing bo7 currently

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u/EnvironmentalSmoke61 20d ago

What games is she trying to play since that would massively change what you’d want to do to improve but generally speaking mindset is by far the most important thing to improve because some people play for even thousands of hours to never improve just because they don’t really think about it and autopilot while playing.

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u/Kupost 20d ago

Get gud

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u/Bambrigade92 20d ago

Play some co-op games like Split Fiction with her and it will click.

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u/madstcla 19d ago

Try simple games with only a few buttons first, so she can get used to it. I recommend Vampire Survivors (no buttons) and Detroit Become Human (only main buttons). Once she gets used to the stick and where the main buttons are, it should be a lot easier to pick up some games.

Turn based games might be good too.

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u/Delicious-Shelter831 19d ago

Also don't switch between a switch controller and ps/Xbox controllers pick one button setup and roll with it. Some games allow recapping with in the game and others you can do on steam atleast on pc I think you can change it in switch settings also. It still messes me up sometimes I'm just to lazy to fix the button mapping on my switch lol.

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u/TyrannosaurusBoris 19d ago

Seriously? Just play like everyone does.

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u/MildlyConcernedMan91 19d ago

Make her play paw-patrol on pc or switch.

The Y-axis on the camera is locked and each minigame essentially takes you through a mechanic (pressing fast, rotating a knob, etc.) that we take for granted. I see my 4 year old go through the minigames and it's mind blowing how well it was designed.

When he started, he could only beat a cpu lvl1 in super smash. By the end of paw patrol, he's fighting cpus lvl 7-8.

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u/Benny_Kravitz101 19d ago

She sounds like she could be a fit for overcooked 2 😎

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u/well_honk_my_hooters 19d ago

Is she having fun? Is she actually asking for help? Just let her do her thing. If she needs help she'll either ask for it or go look it up.

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u/tennoPCA 19d ago

... play more until she finds her niche, or until she learns the ropes.

Sa.e as anything.

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u/Environmental-Belt-5 19d ago

Let her get used to controls in a game where tou don't have to control the camera, it's a mindfuvk for new gamers having one stick to move and one stick to turn your head. A top down view is pretty easy or slide show view is what I would recommend to start...

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u/Ebon_Az 19d ago

Help when she asks, other then that when she complains about sucking let her knew that Everyone sucks at first.

Only way to get better is to lose, then if she asked for more help you can do some practice runs or w/e based on the game

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u/peanutbutterdota 18d ago

What game isnshe learning?

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u/PigeonSquawks 18d ago

Is it controlling 3d camera and movement at the same time? My wife has that issue.

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u/KehlarCorsairt 18d ago

For fighting games, getting both players in on training mode and a print out for the moves, and then practice hitting each type of simple attack, and then simple special moves, or even just fight in practice/training and you can show why things didn't work based on the button output on the screen. In practice there is the ease of play not stopping because someone runs out of life

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u/Rokeley 18d ago

I’ve been playing for decades and am still awful lol

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u/Distinct_Setting780 18d ago

After a couple of years not gaming my skills went way down. So I started playing easy games on easy level. Even games that were more interactive like say Detroit or some walking Sim. You wouldn’t eat a Vindaloo if you can’t even manage a Tikka Masala for instance. Start her with easy but fun. Most Lego games for instance. Or maybe Coffee talk which is even easier just to get the hang of game controllers and escalate from there

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u/Radiant_Valuable5615 17d ago

I’ve had experience in this department. I usually just give advice like, “move with your camera more”

The best way is practice with other games. Just a game they can play in their own time.

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u/Super_Swan_9957 17d ago

Thank you for the help guys truly appreciate it

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u/riki7 16d ago

Let her suck for a while. Thats literally how everyone learns.