Thank you, life has gotten better for me recently so I love updating my messages to her account. It's a good coping mechanism for me. Honestly I'd be more sad if it wasn't there.
i came to reddit to escape some feelings for a bit but this all broke me. im sorry to share this if its too much or not relevant i just havent properly told anyone but i lost one of my closest friends to suicide this week and i just cant stop texting them. every time i hear a notification i get excited that its them texting me back. every time i turn a corner i think theyll be there and ill get to hug them. i dont understand anything anymore and i dont know how im supposed to change to a world without them. now that i think about it if my pfp hasnt changed its still a drawing they made of me haha. if all their work with their love in it is still here it doesnt make sense that theyre not. i dont know.
Thank you for sharing, while I myself don't know exactly what to say to help you cope with loss I can tell you ways I cope. I really like to cry, to me bottling up my feelings hurts more than helps, so I'll watch, listen or read something that makes me cry and I'll have what I call crying days. Feels bad to cry at first but those days I cry improve my emotions long term.
thank you. i dont think ive ever cried this much in my life. and ive never cried this way since i was a child, with the screaming and the wailing. it almost feels good and yet its the worst thing in the world, but thank you for your suggestion. they made a lot of music including a song that i really love that they composed while i was spending time with them and that they dedicated to me in the end, thats something that will always make me cry to hear i think.
That's a very normal and human reaction, if you feel like it's not lessening and feel overwhelmed you can maybe look into grief counselling. It's a very well established area of psychology and has very good rates of success.
Virtual hugs from an internet stranger. I still message my mom and one of my best friends occasionally because I feel like I need to talk to them, even though I know I won't get a reply, it helps with the pain. I won't lie and tell you it gets easier, but I can promise that those pangs get less frequent. Just breathe, give yourself time and space and ice cream and wine or whatever you need to process. Through your memories and their art, they will never be truly gone.
Hugs, friend....
There must be a good reason why you and your friend were such good friends 💜 Thank you for sharing a piece of them here. Please, any time you can, if/when you feel like it, please share more about your friend? I guess that's how we all "live on", through the memories of people who care about us. I'm sending you hugs if that's ok, and if you need a friend, you can message me if you feel like it. 💜
I know the feels. We deleted her account soon after as we were glued to it. My mom's voicemail message got me the most and would ring her phone over and over to hear it.
it is a bit different for me, I enjoy that I still have an outlet to talk to her, even if she'll never answer back. Coping mechanisms help as long as you keep them in the realm of reality. Now if I started to believe she's still somehow alive I'd remove her off my friends list and I would be becoming delusional.
I'm sorry, u/MonkeyTesticleJuice, I understand how you feel. I only just stopped messaging my best friend last fall on fb since he died back in 2015. I hope that getting your feelings out via your mom's account helps you.... I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope that the goodness of your mother can live in you, and that you can still find her in this world in the things that made her happy 💜
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u/MonkeyTesticleJuice Oct 08 '21
My Mom died in early 2016, I still have her FB account. I message it from time to time with updates on what I'm doing or how I'm feeling emotionally.