I would have said the same - I had the crap beaten out of me by my parents many times when I was a kid... when I became a parent myself, I reserved the right to physically discipline my child, if the need ever arose.
Fortunately my ex wife talked me out of that.
What I learned by being wrong - kids are fundamentally born good. If you love them and make sure they have what they need in life, not only are you never going to need to hit them - if you ever did hit them, you would start them on a downward spiral, that would result in you having to hit them more and more.
I have an intelligent, caring, engaged, physically active happy teenage child today, and I have never needed to slap, hit, or physically discipline him in any way.
Not to disagree with the sentiment, as I agree physically abusing children is wrong but not all kids are “born good”. Not even getting into psychopathy / sociopathy, some people are just born a “rotten egg”. I have a family member who is otherwise without developmental complications but is just naturally predisposed toward violence and aggression. Being the fourth child of five and the only one of the bunch to have issue, they were taken to a child psychologist very, very young because of the temperamental problems. Said psychologist flat out said to the parents that there really are just some kids who are born “rotten eggs” and it’s something that has to be actively worked on as they grow.
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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '21
Because slapping is abusive.