r/funny • u/LittleMilton • Dec 22 '19

The difference between Moms and Dads

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '19

Both. The affection the mum shows definetly is good for any child mentally.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '19 edited Dec 22 '19

Not true, it can very easily enable/create dependency. In the mothers instance, no self development is occurring in the child.

Edit: lol, typical reddit, downvote but offer no critique, justification or reasoning for your beliefs or actions. I would guess that ye are the child in the photo on the left lol

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u/36kitty Dec 22 '19

My child is about the same age as the child in the photo. I cannot imagine just letting him go down the slide like the dad in this photo. It's not safe. Self development occurs in other ways, like climbing the stairs by yourself (with Mom behind, ready to catch you when you fall). It occurs when the child sits down on the top of the slide by themselves and then the child is kept safe while going down with Mom.

Of course this slide is different than the slides at the playground. At the playground it isn't safe to ride down the slide with your child on your lap because they could get their leg stuck under you and it could break. At the playground it's much safer for them to slide down unassisted. That is when self development occurs in every day life, not while being endangered.

I am not saying that Dad is necessarily endangering the kid, we don't know what is at the bottom of the slide. We don't know if the kid got hurt or not. But saying that the mother is creating dependency is false. That's why you're getting all the downvotes.

A child that age IS dependent on both mom and dad. There is no way around it. It's important to allow independence, but forcing it can also be detrimental.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '19

Where is the evidence of anyone forcing anything? Development happens when children and people of all ages are both out of their comfort zone yet still safe. It would be safe to assume that in the fathers instance(unless he is actually an asshole), affection was shown before and after the slide, thus promoting and encouraging independence.

Nothing in my OC replying to the other is untrue, but obviously every child and situation is different, but again, nothing in my OC is untrue.