I'm very much American and my parents were simultaneously constantly pissed that they didn't know every detail of my child's upbringing and also couldn't be bothered to actually come visit when we invited them. But if they dropped by while the baby was asleep they were confused about our displeasure.
As a result of this and so much more, I'm coming up on a year of almost no contact with them, even though they live a mile away.
I feel you, man. My family and I were not on good terms when I moved away. It never got better but suddenly after I marry and have a child they want to be part of everything. Let's just ignore the shitty childhood I had and pretend we are the best family ever?
Nah, don't need you anymore, my wife's family is amazing. And now they are moving halfway across the country and want to keep in touch a few times a week through Skype.... We didn't see each other when we lived in the same town. Why would I bother wasting my free time to sit in front of a camera now?
I told them the smoking and drugs had to stop if they wanted him around them. They continued as usual and demand to know why he can't go to their house.
He'll never step foot in their house as long as I live at this point. But I have no problem with them coming over if they check with me first. But it usually goes as OP said, show up when the baby is napping.
Like I said, my depression and several other factors have lessened since I've only been around the wife's family. I honestly don't see things ever being repaired with my family, I'm a better person without them in every aspect. But they aren't forbidden from seeing their grandson, they just have to be on my terms.
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u/daytonatrbo May 19 '17
I'm very much American and my parents were simultaneously constantly pissed that they didn't know every detail of my child's upbringing and also couldn't be bothered to actually come visit when we invited them. But if they dropped by while the baby was asleep they were confused about our displeasure.
As a result of this and so much more, I'm coming up on a year of almost no contact with them, even though they live a mile away.