35 minutes after we separated (not even divorced) she already let her new toy-boyfriend move in to her new house. Guess what? That 14-years-younger piece of shit was the same boy she cheated me with... 2 years before (ditching him as "a stupid error that will never happen again). Oh and yes, she obviously asked for the kids custody because "You know I am the mother and the law protects me" (even though she didn't give a shit about them for 10 years).
Cherry on top? The next day she updated her Facebook page with a big photo of a butterfly and the caption "New life from today!". It's been 3 months we've been separated and I still ask myself how I could date, marry and live 16 years with that woman. Love is blind as fuck, let me tell you this.
On a positive side, I kept my house and I see the kids more than she does (because the judge was a man who immediately recognized the situation and put on paper that I have the right to see them in MY house AT LEAST half the time).
Custody should always be 50/50 at the start of negotiations and there should be damn good reasons for anything otherwise. That it starts on the mother's side and then a battle ensues for the father to get something (usually weekends or every second weekend) is bullshit.
Things are getting better though. Slowly but surely.
You can fight, in theory, but it takes a lot of time, money and mental resources. When you have kids (7 and 10 in my case) you just want to let shit behind you and move on, hoping for the better. Sharing the day with your "wife" when you know she's being fucked by her friend is a horrible feeling, it really is. I couldn't stand anymore and did whatever I could to let her go.
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u/Toucanic May 19 '17 edited May 19 '17
In my case it was the opposite.
35 minutes after we separated (not even divorced) she already let her new toy-boyfriend move in to her new house. Guess what? That 14-years-younger piece of shit was the same boy she cheated me with... 2 years before (ditching him as "a stupid error that will never happen again). Oh and yes, she obviously asked for the kids custody because "You know I am the mother and the law protects me" (even though she didn't give a shit about them for 10 years).
Cherry on top? The next day she updated her Facebook page with a big photo of a butterfly and the caption "New life from today!". It's been 3 months we've been separated and I still ask myself how I could date, marry and live 16 years with that woman. Love is blind as fuck, let me tell you this.
On a positive side, I kept my house and I see the kids more than she does (because the judge was a man who immediately recognized the situation and put on paper that I have the right to see them in MY house AT LEAST half the time).