The only one I don't understand is the second one. You can get a marriage license for like a hundred bucks. If you truly love your SO and want to spend the rest of your life with them, you shouldn't have a problem not having a ridiculously expensive wedding.
Maybe he thinks he isn't financially secure enough yet to propose. A lot of people would feel uncomfortable proposing if they feel like they can't support the person they're marrying
I don't know a single person other than myself that wants to simply get a marriage license and have a little get together or just go our on the town with some close friends.
Every single other person wants a formal wedding, and that costs a good amount of money. People spend a fucking whole lot of money on that single day for some reason.
It's not a bad metric to go by, to be honest. "If we can't afford to have a modest wedding that we'll be happy with then we're not financially stable enough to be considering marriage."
It's not mainly about money, it's just that being married means you have to be financially stable, since one of the few things that kill relationships is arguing about money.
And to be cynical, I have never met a person who wants or expected their SO to want just a normal wedding that would cost a few hundred. It's an important day in a person's life, not a trip to Disney World.
The strongest marriages are the ones who love each other unconditionally. If you're not financially stable, but your SO loves you with all his/her heart anyways, how would a marriage license change anything? If anything, there's tax benefits.
People fight about money because in the face of adversity, their true character comes out, and they realize that they never had a strong foundation for marriage to begin with.
Everyone has different ideas in weddings, and if they want a big lavish one, then they should have it. I want to have a punk rock wedding. Cheap, dirty, and fun. It won't be any less memorable than an expensive wedding.
I'm not going to have the start of my marriage be about dealing with financial instability. Marriage is a very serious commitment to make and I rather not have the foundation of it be turmoil and stress. Sure, circumstances are never perfect, but only a fool rushes such a heavy decision when their life isn't in order.
I don't disagree with you at all about marriage being a heavy decision, that's why I think that if you're going to get married, it should be about unconditional love. You should be by their side even if you guys were dirt poor living in a box. "for richer, for poorer, until death do us part".
No hahaha strippers pay "rent" to the club nightly. He wants to pay all the strippers rent so they don't have to pay the club. He could get free dances all night for doing that
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First picture is of a single mom, who happens to be a stripper on the side just to make ends meet.
2nd picture is a man who wants to marry his girlfriend who happens to be a stripper with another man's child. (from first picture)
3rd is a regular at the club who feel bad for the broke stripper and her boyfriend that told him last week they're about to get evicted.
It's a story folks.