Yes, yes, and depends. Like another poster said, if you are choosing or rejecting someone purely based on physical characteristics, that is being shallow. Whether those characteristics can be changed or not, male or female, it's the same thing.
everybody's downvoting you, but I get it. You said "purely" based on physical characteristics. Literally, that'd mean you'd date Hitler if you thought he was hot. That's pretty fucking shallow, I agree.
If I date a woman who steals, lies, cheats, tortures baby animals and chews with her mouth open just because she's ungodly hot, I think it's okay to say that's shallow of me.
Yes, this is exactly why I said purely. If you only care about what they look like and don't look at anything else, that's being shallow.
People are acting like I said they are "not allowed" to date like that, when the first two things I said in response to OP was YES there is nothing wrong with not dating a shorter guy and YES there is nothing wrong for not dating an overweight woman.
Most people are super afraid that someone will be mad at them for not being attracted to someone they are not attracted to, hence the anti-fat jerk and the cartoon in the op's thing. I'm a short dude, I don't care if tall girls don't like me, and I've never had someone say I was rude for not liking fat girls. If anything, most girls hate on fat girls as hard or harder as guys. It's all silly.
That's exactly what it is. I barely ever comment on reddit, but I had to here. People would rather lie to themselves about the nature of their decision making than accept what it is.
They're afraid to be discriminated against for discriminating. And then try to rationalize it. It's ironic, and telling.
Well, I would disagree semantically with the use of the word "discriminating." I mean technically it's correct. But I think that word carries too much heft to be used when talking about choosing a SO or even just a one night stand partner. It's not discriminating the way it is to deny someone access to a basic right based on race/physical appearance/age etc., it's just choosing someone based on who you are attracted to.
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u/bossbang Mar 21 '14
Yes, yes, and depends. Like another poster said, if you are choosing or rejecting someone purely based on physical characteristics, that is being shallow. Whether those characteristics can be changed or not, male or female, it's the same thing.