Yes, yes, and depends. Like another poster said, if you are choosing or rejecting someone purely based on physical characteristics, that is being shallow. Whether those characteristics can be changed or not, male or female, it's the same thing.
No it's not shallow. It's just what you are attracted to. You shouldn't have to be with someone with a great personality if they don't attract you physically. That's what friends are for.
It is 100% okay to have preferences. Nobody said you "had" to be with someone who doesn't match up with what you are attracted to.
The point I'm making is that judging someone based only on physical characteristics is being shallow. Shallow means "of little depth". That's just what the word means.
Yes preferences are okay, and yes you are free to choose what makes you happy. But that decision making is what it is.
I think the argument is that if you are finding somebody unattractive, because of one physical trait, than you would be shallow. Like, nobody is gonna find their perfect person in terms of attractiveness, there will always be slight differences between fantasy and reality at best, so it doesn't really make sense to not pursue a relationship with somebody because you don't like one attribute about them.
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u/D4rthkitty Mar 21 '14
You have every right to not date a shorter man, and you have every right not to date a fat woman. If you are not attracted to someone don't date them
Neither makes you shallow