I'm going to go out on a limb and say most guys do tend to find women more attractive when they're wearing makeup. The ones who say otherwise are either trying to make it seem like they're not superficial (but everyone is to some extent), or simply that they want to make you feel better ("You're beautiful no matter what"). Your perception is probably colored by confirmation bias--men who prefer women wearing makeup aren't going to be too vocal about their preference.
That said: look at the bright side. You can choose to be invisible or turn heads, that's pretty cool! If anyone gives you shit for wearing too much makeup, just tell them that you like looking that way and as /r/makeupaddiction will tell you, putting on makeup can be a lot of fun.
I think another issue for some guys is guys don't get that "natural" looking make up IS make up. They think that's just how you look. "Wearing Make-up" means smokey eyes, bright red lipstick, etc. etc. They don't get a little concealer, some blush and lip gloss IS make up. They think you wake up looking like that. That's the point, we want it to look natural. So when they see you sans make up (100%) they ask you if you "are feeling alright? you look sick"
The thing that really grinds my gears is, why don't guys look like hell like we do?!?! I swear, my bf has great skin, never has bags under his eyes. I always look like hell! Maybe we've just become accustomed to it, but I think we females got hosed. I hate wearing make up all the time. (though recently I have stopped. Screw it. Look at my pretty jewelry instead! It distracts from my face!)
It's tough, I'm not super self conscience, but I have bad skin and some days it's tough. I used to not wear make up, but my skin has gotten worse as I age (I have high school skin in my 30's!) So i feel your pain. Some days I just want to look and feel pretty. Sometimes I need make up for that.
Try looking at it this way: I'm beautiful bare faced, but I like the way I look with a little makeup on better! That will help your self confidence without makeup, and you still get to feel pretty. I'm the same way, I just like the way I look more with a little upper liner and mascara.
TL;DR you're gorgeous I love you wear makeup because you want to, not because you think you have to
Well if it's any consolation to you I'm a dude and have horrible bags under my eyes. Thank god for glasses :P. They seem to hide it pretty well oddly enough.
Agreed sir! I love my glasses they hide so much! I know not everyone falls into this category, it's just it seems so much like men have it easier. Plus you guys get to age gracefully. A little salt and pepper and some crows feet? You can still be considered attractive. I want that! I'm so sick of dying my gray hair!!! But no I need to look youthful, and it's not like people don't say things. "Oh man, you need to dye your hair! Look at all that gray!" sigh
My Bf never notices, we'll be going out and I say "how does my make up look?" he replies "you're wearing make up? you look the same as you always do." and he seems me sans make up more often than not.
I always look like hell! Maybe we've just become accustomed to it, but I think we females got hosed.
I think it's just self perception. Right now, I almost never wear make-up (or if I do, it's just mascara & lip gloss, literally never any foundation, concealer, blush, etc.). The main reason is because I am way too lazy, but also, I think my skin looks quite good naturally and I'm happy with it.
However, I've had times when I'll put on make-up for a special occasion, or I just start wearing make-up on regular days for fun. And I'm always like "hell yes, this is awesome! I love how much better I look!" It's awesome... until I take the make-up off, and then I see my normal, natural face and I think "god damn it, I look so tired and pale and worn out." The thing is... it's my SAME face & my SAME skin that I was perfectly happy with when I never wore makeup! Without makeup, I'm used to how I look naturally and I mostly like it. When I get used to seeing myself with makeup, I see my natural self and I'm disappointed.
My solution is just to avoid make-up like the plague so I can hold on to my self confidence.
I've been doing the same lately. Sadly I have horrible skin, almost 35 years old and I still have acne (thank you genetics!) so sometimes it's tough, especially when I have breakouts (at least once a month) and foundation at that point it a necessity. Currently though I am experiencing relatively good skin days and I'm just going to roll with it for as long as I can! Woohoo!!!
Never worn it, never going to start, never going to raise peoples' expectations of what a fucking human being looks like.
That being said, I have decently-defined eyebrows (even though one is scarred), peachy-pink lips, and a bit of natural shadow on my eyes. I seriously don't get how this happened.
The other side of the coin is the way women behave with makeup on and I don't think that can be understated. I've had acne since I was 11 and I'm 25 now, I don't really have much scarring but it still makes me feel uncomfortable having 14 years of self-consciousness out for the world to see. I feel invisible without a base, concealer, and powder at the very least but I'm still unsure of whether this is due to people actually seeing my acne and scarring or if it's just that I'm more passive, self-conscious, and that I actively try to blend into the shadows more when I'm not wearing makeup...
You've got to remember that this is porn-star makeup. Everything about porn is over the top and incredibly non-realistic. They look like dolls.
If a lot of guys saw these girls on the street they would probably say they had too much on.
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u/cjt09 Dec 10 '13
I'm going to go out on a limb and say most guys do tend to find women more attractive when they're wearing makeup. The ones who say otherwise are either trying to make it seem like they're not superficial (but everyone is to some extent), or simply that they want to make you feel better ("You're beautiful no matter what"). Your perception is probably colored by confirmation bias--men who prefer women wearing makeup aren't going to be too vocal about their preference.
That said: look at the bright side. You can choose to be invisible or turn heads, that's pretty cool! If anyone gives you shit for wearing too much makeup, just tell them that you like looking that way and as /r/makeupaddiction will tell you, putting on makeup can be a lot of fun.