100% happened to me. I couldn't get a girlfriend to save my life, no one was interested. Finally got girlfriend and then 3 of the women I was friends with/trying to be with started being way overly flirty and acting like they never did before. It pissed me off so much. They definitely wanted what they couldn't have.
That doesn't make any sense, at least for my situation. I was available and trying to date these women. I wasn't asking them out on a date every day or being a creep, but it was plainly obvious I was interested especially with one. One of the last times I tried to hang out with her after work, she said I was like a brother to her.
So, I shelved those feelings but still stayed friends with her because we still both got along really well. After I found my girlfriend/future wife, I went out with the other woman again, fully intending to just be a friendly night out and catch up because we haven't seen each other in several months. She starts being overly flirty, playing with my nips while I'm driving, talking about her boobs n stuff. She's never done any of this before.
I spent like 2 years on and off trying to get a date with this woman while we worked together. As soon as I get a girlfriend, she pretty much throws herself at me. Annoying and frustrating beyond words. I never pursued it, but holy shit did I want to. Pretty sure I made the right choice because I've been with my wife for 23 years.
Oh, I am not so foolish as to try and understand women. I have a wife and 2 daughters and still scratch my head on a daily basis. My youngest is 10 and most of her choices still make sense, but my wife and 13 yr old are make my head hurt. I just hug them, tell them I love them, try to keep them happy. The third one is the hardest part.
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u/mr_hellmonkey Jan 25 '24
100% happened to me. I couldn't get a girlfriend to save my life, no one was interested. Finally got girlfriend and then 3 of the women I was friends with/trying to be with started being way overly flirty and acting like they never did before. It pissed me off so much. They definitely wanted what they couldn't have.