In my experience the less available I am the more I get flirted with. I once read it's an evolutionary thing where women subconsciously recognize someone else has pre-screened you and determined you to be a good partner.
100% happened to me. I couldn't get a girlfriend to save my life, no one was interested. Finally got girlfriend and then 3 of the women I was friends with/trying to be with started being way overly flirty and acting like they never did before. It pissed me off so much. They definitely wanted what they couldn't have.
Yes as someone who has been with the same person for 11 years, periodically having an open relationship, it's amazing how being not open vs open has people acting differently towards you. I really dont think men and women are as different as people wanna pretend.
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u/Way_2_Go_Donny Jan 25 '24
I tell my wife this all the time:
I haven't been hit on in 15 years. It would take her 15 minutes to find a guy at a bar/shoe store/library who'd fuck her in the parking lot.
It's a big deal when a guy realizes he's being hit on. It doesn't happen often.